Why does my boyfriend already wanna propose to me?

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It's really fast too.. like I'd love to but damn at the same time it's not smart I think, we haven't even been together for a year

DomInDraper · Accepted Answer

Sometimes people just know, or want to take a chance.

These days, there's a huge backlash against quick commitment, falling too fast, etc. Is it ideal? I mean, probably not. But we're all human. Prior generations would meet a stranger in a bar and be married a handful of months later. Many of those marriages were very happy and healthy.

Of course, many were not. A lot of it just comes down to the individuals and their circumstances.

In your situation, I think it's important to ask... How do you *feel* about it? Not what do you *think* about it (because it seems you've already spoken about that), but how do you *feel* about it?

Because if you feel good about it, even if you don't decide to go for it, I think you can probably piece together why he may be proposing -- because he also feels good about it. About you. He could be getting ahead of himself, sure, but if you're asking "why" -- your answer really comes down to some variety of that.

Most likely, he's just into you and not as inhibited about marriage or commitment. Whether you appreciate that or not is your call. A woman's prerogative is to choose, after all.

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

Too fast is a major red flag and if you're not comfortable tell him to slow down. Figure out if there could be some agenda as to why it’s being rushed for you to sign on the dotted line while there is the other extreme of future faking rushing things can be worse.

Marriage is one of the most important decisions you’ll ever make in your life. You don’t want to marry someone whose not the one. Because divorces can be extremely messy if you’re not sure then you’re not a idiot. You need to slow down and talk about this.

Maybe he has good intentions but at the same time he may have too many emotions running in his head and it’s best to wait. If you’re not ready you’re not ready and I feel it’s completely reasonable to be worried if someone’s wanting marriage when you haven’t even been together a year. I’m not saying there is anything nefarious at play but be cautious.

Beckybooboo · Accepted Answer

That's great, he sees having a future with you! I've been with my boyfriend for just over two years and we started talking marriage a couple months ago 😊 I assured him I would say, "YES". Obviously, take your time, like someone else said, get engaged and wait a little while to set a date. A "friend" of mine on here and yours (I think you're still friends Ha Ha) asked his wife to marry him a little less than a year after they met and they were officially married six months later! They've been married for six years and still going strong. They were very close to your and your boyfriend's age when they got married. I wish you the best, Lisia!

DishLady · Accepted Answer

Ok... so (1) tell him that OR (2) say yes and use the engagement period properly... to get to know each other better, which is what that was originally for. Too many people think that the engagement only has to be a certain number of months used to prepare the wedding, but that's not what it was originally for.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

As your go-to relationship guru, let me sprinkle some wisdom on this heart-shaped situation! 🚀 Your boyfriend might just be head over heels, lovebombing you with those sweet proposal vibes. Sometimes, timing can play tricks on those caught in the web of infatuation. Trust your gut if it feels too soon. Chatting with him about expectations can help untangle those love knots. 💖

Finchie40 · Answer

Because he is head over heels for you and doesn’t want to lose you , he thinks marriage will keep you by his side , Sadly you both haven’t been together for that long so that is sadly a red flag on his part because he really doesn’t know you , he thinks he does , but he doesn’t , he is just infatuated by you and wants you all to himself. I don’t know your relationship with him , but from my experiences and things I have witnessed , rushing into a marriage with someone is stupid to do , because once the big picture shines , it’s a 50/50 chance you both will stay together , If he is possessive of you , then be careful because possessive can turn into control

HawkPerception · Answer

Bit of a red flag IN MY OPINION at your age. I would give it a few more years honestly. Test the loyalty. Test to see if you can get long past the honeymoon phase. If you don't already live together, see if you can live together for a few years before taking the dive.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

This behavior screams that he's trying to lock you down... probably is also plotting to get you pregnant.

See, he doesn't want you slipping away an getting other penis. This is basic mate guarding behavior... you know, like a guy that won't let his girl go anywhere without him with her.

Why does my boyfriend already wanna propose to me?

Danielle93 · Answer

Do you love him enough to think about having a future and kids with him? Honestly, a man that wants to propose is better than the typical stories of men that make their girlfriend wait 6+ years and no proposal.

Secondly, being engaged doesn't mean you have to get married the next day. If he proposes (unless you don't love him enough and see marriage within many years from now), you can accept an extended engagement if you want to and not set up a wedding date.

knottyguy · Answer

It appears that you have completely fulfilled all of his needs and desires. You make his heart smile and have filled his soul with love. You me quite the catch in his eyes but don't let it make you over conceited...

Cormac995 · Answer

Sometimes it just happened. There were a shocking number of soldiers that got married on the first date during the world wars and out of the men that came home a lot of those one-night marriages actually worked out great. The human heart is mind boggling sometimes.

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Answer

My mom dated a guy like this. He was convinced she was “the one” and proposed after dating for 3 months. Safe to say she dumped him real quick. Never did figure out why he did that, but it’s not really your business. Your job is to deny the proposal you don’t want.

NicholasRedone · Answer

@lisia hmm true. Also I'm not one to advise however the intriguing thing is - so you yourself, do you see him as just a boyfriend or as someone who one day you'll wake up at 28 or 30 and think "hmmm" as in, ring, dump, prefer single, or even be like "hard to still say even after all this time"  Like I'm all for monogamy even to prevent STDs/Is and more lol pregnancies even lol 😆

Anonymous · Answer

Oh, I see you're turning it up a notch! This twisted game of yours, trying to make me jealous. Guess what? I just had wild, passionate sex with the entire cleaning staff at the hotel I'm staying at! 😉 None of them could speak English but it doesn't matter, screams of ecstasy translate in any language. Two can play this game, my precious Lisia.

MicahRaine · Answer

Definitely wait at least a year. If you get married and things don't go well, it could be really destructive mentally and emotionally. But if you wait an extra 6 months or another year and DO get married and have an amazing marriage, having waited is not going to be something you'll still be regretting and feeling the pain of 5 years later.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

I don't think that there's a specific time frame.. If you both felt ready within 2 months of dating that's fine.. It really depends on if you feel like you are ready to start thinking about that.. If you love him like that..

Still-alive · Answer

How long have you been together? Regardless though its clear you aren’t ready so you’ll have to tell him that. If he doesn’t have an issue then cool it means he’s willing to be patient. If he does have an issue with that though i would honestly have second thoughts about continuing to date him.

people who rush into serious life changing things like this… nine times out of ten it doesn’t go well.

slatyb · Answer

He's afraid that if he doesn't, you will leave. Do not marry him now. Give it at least two years and then see how you feel. It sounds like you are feeling rushed. Have you told him that? If you have, and he keeps asking, I think you should end it.

OneViewpoint · Answer

At age 20 and together for 1 year, your instincts are correct. You didn't say how old your boyfriend is. If he's 30, he's in a different place in his life. What works for him may not work for you. Only you can decide.

NoOneEver · Answer

He clearly either likes you a lot and thinks you’re the one. Or something sinister where he’s going to trap you into something.

Those are usually the only two possibilities with something like that.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

talk to him... there is no relationship without communication...

HungTexan · Answer

Just tell him you love him, and you want to take things a little slower in the marriage issue. The other option is to agree to engagement in private fir a few months.

NoDecision · Answer

Slow down you move too fast.

Monalisa77 · Answer

For people saying red flags.. My brother got a girl pregnant hed been seeing less than 6 months and theyre now living together 😂

bowenw · Answer

He's probably desperate to have a trophy wife an isn't even over the infatuation stage. I suggest you give it much more time e. g. a couple of years.

trumpetplayerforlife · Answer

If you want to be engaged then have a long engagement me and my husband git engaged after 2 years and then had a 2 year engagement

WhitneySnow · Answer

Tell him you love him but you wanna wait a few months before you say yes

chrissykerdock · Answer

you must give great head he's definitely happy with you

MikeTheBartender · Answer

Pretty weird I agree. Was he a virgin when you met him?

glennos89 · Answer

I wouldn't wanne rush in such a commitment so soon already. Better take some more time to make sure it's the right thing to do

Alex-Snow · Answer

U are only 20 maybe give it some more time. How old is he? Have u talked about the future with him? Are you two sexually compatible?

RedInnocent69 · Answer

You’re pretty hot. He doesn’t wanna lose you and doesn’t think he can do better

Staximus · Answer

Are you talking about the 18 year old kid? You know it's weird for college girls to date high school kids, right?

GAGsucksballs89170 · Answer

Well, remember, it's only engagement, you can always call it off. I see it happen all the time. I think he just wants to see where the relationship is going

ImalwaysrightOK · Answer

When you're sure she's the one, why wait another second?

Anonymous · Answer

You guys are young and stupid, no offense. He's not thinking long term. He may think he is, but he's not.

TallAnon · Answer

He wants to lock you in before you change your mind

MikeRJ · Answer

Take it slowly. If you are in love now, you will be in love in a year.

Smf1989 · Answer

My ex wanted to move in with me after a week of dating and wanted to marry after two weeks of dating.

Abdul17w · Answer

Why waste a year when he can put a ring on your finger asp less time wasted more excitement.

NathanDavis · Answer

too soon!! too young!!

alice55 · Answer

Lucky, I guess he love you that's all

Miristheiss · Answer

Because he is dumb.

David318578 · Answer

Do you love him?

Anonymous · Answer

he is horny and doesn't want to lose you

exitseven · Answer

He is maybe thinking with the little head.

tzdc21 · Answer

Then set the wedding date for a much later time

Uglygaypoorcoward94 · Answer

Cause you're hot and he wants you for life

DrPepper12 · Answer

Too early. 18 month MINIMUM

fish5505_87 · Answer

It's a little quick, what do you feel?

Wise4myage · Answer

He seems very desperate.

Godihateyou · Answer

You sucked his soul through his dick

Anonymous · Answer

how the fuck would we know? ask the retard

lorenzomichael · Answer

Because he’s stupid.

scott04sa22 · Answer

Red flags

Amor45_ · Answer

He is a kid

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