I'm casually seeing a man who is seperated from his wife for 6 months, they don't live together?

[Anonymous]

So I've been going to his house but never staying overnight my choice not his. The only time he contacts me is to hookup which I'm fine with, we hooked up once years ago before he got married so it's not like I don't know him. He says some strange things and I'm thinking he's seeing me as an emotional crutch, someone to validate him once in a while. he says he'd love to tell people he's having sex with me and take a picture of us together but I'm not comfortable with anyone knowing esp not the woman he's seperated from due to the fact they are not divorced. it might just be silly pillow talk I don't know, do guys normally talk that way?

[Finchie40]

Nothing wrong with that , especially if he is being honest with you , and you know he is being honest with you. When my wife and I separated , I eventually started dating a girl and having sex with her , mainly because her and I kind of knew each other prior to my separation and I always considered her a friend. When she found out my wife and I separated she contacted me and we started talking , and one thing lead to another. To be respectful to her , before we even started dating and having sex , I was upfront and honest with her that I am not looking to rush into a relationship with anyone , I want to take things slow and really get to know you before making the decision of commitment , so I asked her how would she feel about being FWB’s with some strings attached? And she said ok , she could have easily said No but since she knew I was being honest and respectful she said yes. What I didn’t know , was she was actually married as well and cheating on her husband with me. Her and I dated for 6 months and out of that 6 months we had so much fun and sex together , things were going great between us , until her husband knocked on my door. That was the end of her and I. The only reason she was able to play me for as long as she did , was because her husband traveled a lot for work , I had sex with her a bunch of times at her home not knowing she was married.

[jahaims]

That is because casual sex isn't healthy. You are both using it to cope with life. You just notice his obvious coping while you are still lying to yourself about coping.

[PeachyPie93]

They could get back together so you shouldn't be sleeping with him.. anyone in a casual relationship is just using you for something.. they all talk romantically but never are serious about what they say.. Perhaps he wants to hurt his ex, who knows? Get a boyfriend and stop being a booty call for guys.

[itsannalee]

Guys are like that to get your attention.
Men who cheat would find any excuse to do that, lying, making up a story. Etc

[Asker]

Except he's not cheating he's seperated from his wife and living alone

[itsannalee]

That’s what usually a cheater says.
When they have to live separated from his wife, because of work sometimes they even say that they are in open marriage.
What’s the purpose?
To get sex.

[Asker]

He is seperated from his wife I know them both so I know for a fact

[AI Opinion]

Exploring the world of emotions and relationships can be like a roller coaster ride! 🚀 His desire to share your connection with others might be an effort to boost his ego or validate his self-worth, especially during a vulnerable phase like separation. It's intriguing that he only contacts you for hookups, hinting he might need a comforting presence without a deeper commitment. If you're feeling like his emotional crutch, it could be a red flag. Trust your gut, and ensure the arrangement aligns with what you genuinely want. Always communicate your comfort levels and boundaries with clarity! 🌟

[trumpetplayerforlife]

Sounds like your the one not wanting to be out in the open maybe that's why you only want to be a booty call

[StevenMcGarrett]

It sounds like he is proud to be with you and show you off.

[Asker]

I don't think so.. He's developing a cocaine habit he asked me if I wanted some I said no and his reply was "well you should" he's not thinking straight and vulnerable. I'm thinking of backing off him but know he's going to message asking what's wrong why I'm ignoring him.. Seriously don't want to tip him over the edge with more rejection

[StevenMcGarrett]

A cocaine addiction would make me run away too. You are nice for caring about him but you don't owe him anything. Save yourself. If you get involved with someone with a cocaine addiction, they will drag you down.