Why do most “traditional relationships” fail?

[Summeroflove]

A lot of people who get into these relationships they don’t last. Many times they end up miserable and what was a fantasy has turned into a nightmare.

What is it that goes so wrong?

[LazerBean]

I don't really know a lot of people in traditional relationships, even though we are in a pretty conservative area. I know one other couple under 30 that's in a traditional relationship, but even that is because she has serious health issues and will lose certain disability and insurance perks if she works too much. I know a lot of older ladies who were in traditional relationships that worked out well, and some who did not. Same for women in modern relationships.

But I think it comes down to the reason why people choose to be in a relationship that fits under "traditional" label. Sometimes, it's because the woman wants opportunity to be lazy. Sometimes, it's because the man wants the opportunity to be controlling. Of course those always fail, but had the woman been working it still would have been a miserable relationship.

My husband and I, and our parents are in traditional relationships. All of us chose to be in a more traditional, nuclear family style of living because we think that is a necessary step for us to take in order to prioritize what we value. Some people must take a more modern route to achieve their goals.

[Summeroflove]

True it can attract many narcissists and unfortunately someone may be too wrapped up in a fantasy to see it

[LazerBean]

That is unfortunately true.

[NicholasRedone]

" a trad wife" or "a trad husband" - short for traditional 👔

[Finchie40]

Selfishness is one of the biggest relationship killers , if you can’t remove selfishness for your partner , donMt expect them to remove it for you. Traditional relationships only last if both people are choosing each other and making each other their top priority , if you are not your partners’ top priority , that relationship will more than likely not last. You can’t expect someone to do for you , if you can’t do for them , it has to go both ways for it to work. Sadly a lot of people have selfish mindsets that think they are missing out on things and not grateful for what they already have right in front of them , I blame a lot of it on social media for brainwashing peoples’ minds to think that way. If a partner is comparing you to other people that’s the same sex as you? Then your partner doesn’t value you or appreciate you whatsoever, I dump girls’ that think it’s ok to compare me to other people , it’s a huge turn off to me and I lose all respect for her because I don’t compare her to anyone whatsoever, she can gladly go be with those other guys’ because I will gladly find myself a girl that doesn't compare me period

[DJB72]

Around 80% of divorces are initiated by women. And not primarily because the man is unfaithful.

And statistics suggest it's far more prevalent in Western society than African, Asian or the former USSR.

And your assertion that "most" fail is problematic. Marriage ends with death more often than divorce. And the divorce rate never publishes how many of broken marriages involved one or both having failed previous marriages - a good indication of whether the second will last.

For the most part, the West has become increasingly shallow and selfish since 1945. I can't picture millennials with a man-bun or blue hair storming the Normandy Landings the way young men of 18-22 did in 1944.

Kennedy said to ask what his generation could do for the country - not what the country was going to do for them. Closer to Trump's call than Kameltoe's.

I could go on, but I'm sure this has enough Truth to get half a dozen limp-wristed libtards to block me already...

[Summeroflove]

Many men do cheat as well but so do women. Some people aren’t in a relationship for a genuine connection. Many traditional marriages fail because there never was one to begin with. It attracts narcissists who will discard you as soon as they get
The chance

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the ever-enigmatic traditional relationship! My aim here is to untangle this web and sprinkle it with some love wisdom. Traditional relationships often build on predefined roles, which can sometimes feel as comfy as an itchy sweater. Miscommunication, unmet expectations, or evolving personal goals can convert that dreamy fairytale into a drama series. When love turns into survival mode, it's time to put on those communication glasses of mine! Exploring modern approaches could spice things up while keeping a pinch of tradition. Love hard, communicate harder! ❤️✨

[XXTruthfulOgrexx]

Basically, define traditional.

In most cases, the overall majority of women refuse to or fulfill a traditional wife role. The other side of that card is men have no idea of what a traditional relationship should be.

In these relationships both enter with a distorted or unrealistic idea of how the relationship should develop.

A true relationship isn't what Disney or Hollywood sells. It takes lots of compromises and work to create a sustainable life together and we as a society have lost touch with its true definition.

We have become so consumed with the idea of self and expecting instant gratification that we ignore the idea of self sacrifice for the family and all the work it takes to keep relationships healthy.

[SolitarySolace]

Many traditional relationships fail because people enter them with unrealistic expectations or outdated ideals that don’t align with modern life. Some expect a perfect, storybook romance without recognizing that relationships require continuous effort, communication, and compromise. Others struggle with shifting gender roles or the societal pressures tied to tradition. The key issue isn’t necessarily the ‘traditional’ aspect, but whether both partners share a realistic understanding of what they want and are willing to grow together.

- Eva ❤️

[Blunky]

In a nutshell? Rigidity.

Failure to adapt. Failure to compromise, or compromising in an unhealthy way like giving up an important outlet or source of joy / purpose. Boundaries don't get communicated and things are just accepted until they boil over because, traditions. People weren't as connected and didn't have as many options before when these "traditional" roles were the thing.

[Miristheiss]

Well, it wasn't traditional to begin with.

Feminism, sexual revolution, Birth Control pill, social media, no fault divorce, unbridled selfishness and self absorption, messed up values and expectations.

[Summeroflove]

I do think incentivizing divorce and being single… Only took women out of the equation who would waste a man’s time anyways and make him miserable. As opposed to the ones who really want something

[HighValue]

Women aren't traditional. They want the traditional benefits from a man, while she is a low quality, promiscuous, selfish, dishonest, stress inducing burden on his life.

[Summeroflove]

That’s narcissists. They want the benefits without doing their role.

[soe11]

• First thing first the commonality in chemistry.
• Time and trends are totally and completely different
• New culture is free mind and free thinking.
• They want to think before the ink.
• Mature agreement is vital

[NicIsmyusername]

I believe it's because the so called traditional relationship is a made up fairytale that usually only works in movies or tv shows, I'm far from perfect therefore it wouldn't be fair of me, or anyone else for that matter to expect to find a perfect match. In short what I'm saying is people need people to meet them where their at and accept them with their imperfections and all.

[NicholasRedone]

@NicIsmyusername and Nic, the irony is how many couples later then date and are like "oh, this dynamic doesn't actually work for me, you, or the times" lol 😆 and for good reasonings

[hahahmm]

Because one or both people are not traditional enough. It's not as complicated as some make it out to be.

[Summeroflove]

People have a lot of false ideas on it. Many people want control (men) or a easy lazy life (women) and when it’s not all they thought it would be they start playing the victim.

I seen a video of a woman crying saying she’s leaving her husband. But she can’t yet and her husband left her.

[lorenzomichael]

They argue to much and don’t fuck enough. That’s why. They allow to much bullshit to get in the way. But all they really need is to get something straight between them if you know what I mean?

[Summeroflove]

I agree and the opportunity to cheat arises and if they lack integrity they jump

[lorenzomichael]

Yeah I know

[DrPepper12]

The number one destroyer of relationships has never ever ever changed. It's lack of communication.

[Summeroflove]

Agreed

[NicholasRedone]

Like the American Pie 2 payphone chat at the beginning "well you know, times change, people change" 🥧 🥳 the way that line was delivered so perfectly and deadpanned matter of factory by Affleck (not Ben) was awesome 📞 and it stuck with me

[NicholasRedone]

@Summeroflove it's one to keep in mind

[Summeroflove]

Yeah

[NicholasRedone]

*fact not factory (typol lol 🏭😆)

[lightbulb27]

Selfishness, false expectations, lack of training. Damaged sub conscious minds mapping to one that is not good for them and not understanding themselves or the other person.

[ProbablyClueless]

I would think it's because most relationships in general fail. When I see the insane stuff people get up to, I'm shocked people are together more often than I totally get it.

[elizamichale1]

Because over time they stop compromising as much as they used to n they stop being as caring n understanding as they used to be

[LiamJHayden]

There is no longer a stigma to being divorced and in many area the laws have been altered so that there is no punishment for cheating.

[Ariesman81]

The women stop being submissive and the men get tired of making them be. Responsibility on both sides gets to be too much.

[Nikki1989]

Traditional relationships often rely on rigid gender role and sometimes, people are simply not compatible in the long term.

[chocolatetwopointo]

bc relationships usually won't workout when they’re not equal.

[Djaay]

There's NO such thing of two equal parts together that work. The only way is for both to become as one together. And that's only possible through Christ our savior.

[Djaay]

Women are the reason. They just don't want to follow the Lords way of scripture (period ) .

[jahaims]

Define traditional relationship. Traditional marriages are the only one I see lasting

[faith_it]

Serpents

[Summeroflove]

You make a valid point. Faith I think you know something many people with the fantasy idea about it don’t want to know. Unfortunately many men and women will learn the hard way.

Some people are snakes tney want money they want a free ride. On the other extreme they want power and control to feel powerful.

The truth is the good person will probably be screwed in the end.

[Summeroflove]

Because all the while they think they are with someone who loves them. Deep down they are planing their next move. Their escape…. And it will not be pleasant.

[slatyb]

The women grow up.