Why do most relationships fail nowadays?

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Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Mainly because of selfish mindsets , that think grass is greener on the other side , I blame social media for a lot of it , for warping people’s minds to think they deserve better than what they already have right in front of them , by easily allowing other people to enter into your life by a few clicks on your cell phones or computers , by making people believe butter beauty is the most important thing , making it harder for people to resist temptations. But most of all it’s selfishness that causes most relationships to fail. If you can’t remove selfish ness for your partner , don’t expect them to remove it for you , if you can’t resist temptations for your partner , don’t expect them to resist for you , The only way a relationship can last and for love to continue to grow , is you both have to choose each other , over everyone else in this world , by making each other your top priority , if you can’t make your partner your top priority , it will be harder for them to make you theirs. It needs to go both ways or it’s not going to last period. Most people Have a hard time admitting they were wrong , it’s usually someone else’s fault, until you learn to accept that you can be wrong and stop pointing fingers at someone else for your actions your chances of lasting in a relationship will increase because you aren’t just making the relationship about yourself , Selfish people with selfish mindsets make relationships about what is best for themselves , without considering their partners’ feelings , Always thinking they are right and never wrong , Those people will never experience true love because they are selfish , A relationship takes 2 people choosing each other , not the other way around

EdgyBoi2002 · Accepted Answer

People have ridiculous expectations nowadays. Nobody wants to put in the work for a relationship. (This is my take on Heterosexual relationships.)

Women look at instagram and tik tok seeing women with 'perfect boyfriends that are doing some crazy romantic gesture for the camera equating this to love. They don't see the drama or problems when the camera is not around. So the expectation is to have a perfect prince charming.

Men are not approaching women because some either aren't confident or they drank the red pill or mgtow kool aid. Its always 'women aren't traditional like they used to be so therefor I will not date any of those harpies.'

Both are affected by hook up culture but at the same time 'wait' until marriage will not fix anything. The only way relationships will get better is if people voice what they want from the get go and believe that. Ladies if a guy has said he is only looking to do netflix and chill thats all he wants, He won't be husband material. Lads if you want a traditional woman then go find em but you don't put down non traditional women because you got those views. Negative people are not attractive to anyone.

Valdemort · Accepted Answer

In general I believe we are never really taught to be happy with ourselves and therefore seek validation from others.

The relationships that do last, are the ones in which people did actually learn how to respect, value, love themselves (or are learning to) and in doing so, build a relationship that'd encapsulate the same.

Which is why these people do not "need" their partner but "want" them. They know their life could be lived happily regardless, but the want to spend the rest of their life with this individual.

Relationships that fail are those in which partners think they need someone in order to be valued, respected and loved. Along the way, however, they learn that that person does not satisfy their own shortcomings, thus will seek it elsewhere. Never really finding it for themselves.

That's my take.

Lara_Croft · Accepted Answer

Many people are unGodly, an UnGodly person is a threat in my opinion to society because there are answerable to no one but themselves. In relation to your question, whatever seems right to them in each moment is what they go with many times regardless of the consequences. A wife doesn't feel good in a marriage? Divorce. A man doesn't like sex with his wife? Cheat etc. Because doesn't lead their lives, they are their own Gods and thus chaos insues in selfish pursuits etc. That's why you so many defending polyamorism etc-Godless. But it is well Jesus is Lord!

Vesuvius87 · Answer

- Too much standards; keep the list shorter and only have few main deal-breakers. The more you add, the less likely you'll find someone like-minded.

- Too much gender wars and both wanting to compete with each other instead of appreciating their abilities and differences. I don't want to compete with a partner. We should be like the fork and knife (it makes eating easier) complementing one another.

- Too many people seek relationships just base on finding true love, letting feelings take over and ignore what exact qualities are they looking in partner, what else they want in the relationship. Ok so you're in love but are you guys similar in other important areas such as goals, values, lifestyles, wanting kids, managing money, etc. Life isn't all about falling in love, romance. What if you get into arguments once the early infatuation stage ends? Then are you willing to accept their flaws and solve arguments or were you only in love with the idea of love and romance?

HawkPerception · Answer

Not enough honest and open communication. People are afraid to voice their issues or concerns in a relationship because they fear it may offend their partners and have them leave.

Sexual desires are not being fulfilled and a lack of sexual compatibility.

Social media and dating apps put a lot of options at your fingertips, which makes temptation too hard to resist for many.

People don't have important talks about the things that matter in a relationship before getting into it.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

Mine only failed because of Long Distance, if not that we would have been married for 2 years now.

Fireguy17 · Answer

I think it is because of a lack of effort on both parties.

We seem to be in an era of instant gratification.

Everything has to happen now. You just type stuff on your phone and it shows up on your doorstep with little to no effort.

Relationships are just not that easy, it takes time and effort, communication, not just a text here and there, good meaningful talks.

Commitment is also key, you have to decide that early on you want this relationship to work, and put the time and effort into it.

This goes for both parties.

Yes I'm older, yes things were different when I was young, but it is pretty much the same basic issues today as we went through.

JacobJordan · Answer

Simple answer: most people have no idea how to behave in a relationship anymore. And with the internet it is so easy to find another partner relationships have lost much of their value. If people were to find out that despite the internet they will have an exceedingly hard time finding a girlfriend or boyfriend as in 10+ years after a break up they would far less inclined to just walk away at the earliest sign of trouble. Relationships will never be just sunshine and rainbows. Relationships take effort, and love, and compassion. You need understanding, support and encouragement. Trust, honesty and respect, passion, communication and many many other things. And even then you will still have moments of struggle with your girlfriend or boyfriend or wife or husband. What separates a good relationship from a bad one is the willingness to work with your s/o to resolve the issues so you can both flourish and grow

Lady_Heart · Answer

Because people nowdays don't give relationship the same weight as before.
No one gives efforts or its always one sided.
Too many relationships coaches, that tells u to leave instead of working it out.
Confusing love with lust or greedy.

Wish i was in that era where a man is the man n a woman is a woman, and not the other way around. Now men wants to be treated like women n women wants to he treated as men.

RavVid · Answer

I think women just see marriage as a convenient way to have children and then to mostly retire on the ex-husbands money. i'm watching one such termination currently.

If a married relationship is temporary then every other type will be temporary.

laly520 · Answer

cuz of various reasons
such as hookup culture thats everywhere
disloyalty, being highly influenced by media that portrays cheating n having multiple affairs as a cool thing
no morality
unrealistic standards that gets crashes by reality once they get into relationship
lot of degeneration, most of people used to sleep around all time so they can't commit to one person
n list keeps on going

Cody2004 · Answer

In my opinion jealousy even just playing video games with my friends every now and then some of their girlfriends get really upset over just them playing because they're not getting attention and it's very sad if you're one of these people I don't like you. We will rescue Jimmy from you lol

boggboss · Answer

Many factors play into this from people not truly trying or caring to make them work to the ability of getting a new relationship easier then it's ever been to equally the stigma around leaving a relationship no longer being thier so where as before many would stay in a unhappy marriage or relationship people are able not too

tzdc21 · Answer

Grass is greener syndrome is a main culprit. But also just seeing marriage should only be happy is another big reason. Now I'm not saying go look for a terrible marriage or something like that, but people forget that the focal point of marriage isn't happiness. The focal point of marriage is sharing a life with someone else, that means sharing highs, lows, responsibilities, deficits, and benefits with each other, and finding a way, and WILLING to find a way, to get around that together.

Anonymous · Answer

Because most PEOPLE today do not really want a relationship. Most today people want someone who will just pay them TRIBUTE. And when the person they're with asks for reciprocation they say "ugh this isn't working" and search out new tribute.

Most people today just THINK they want a relationship.

Biya123 · Answer

A lot of options Non serious attitude No patience  Lack of communication Ego comes between Extra affairs No sense of responsibility

LazerBean · Answer

Because most people had crappy parents that didn't teach them anything about how to find and keep a good relationships, and now that they're adults their too enslaved by their hormones to be able to figure things out logically.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Poor communication, compatibility, and the constant need to make excuses for everything. There are people doing that on this very post already.

Slapmynuts · Answer

I believe it all stems from the radical change in society's values, morals, and ever-changing standards! Marriage for example use to be valued and now is just another decision. Why?

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

The error is people don't realize marriage is a serious commitment. My ex left me out of nowhere.

Massageman · Answer

Lack of commitment to purpose.

Lack of focus.

Lack of ability to get through the "tough times" - they just cop out or give up and think they will improve by starting over - - - - but most won't improve.

sheikalana · Answer

People treat relationships as disposable and easily replaceable. Dating apps makes you think you have lots of options.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

They lack things of the foundation that holds a relationship in place, communication, love, support, patience, etc

PastDue · Answer

Expectations. People want too much that another person couldn't possibly give them. They won't accept ordinary human flaws. They want perfection. They've made a list that only Superman or Mary the Mother of Jesus could live up to.

CozyCoffin · Answer

It seems as though a lot of people are unwilling to compromise, communicate, be honest, or willing to go past their egos.

itsclearlynicholas · Answer

Bad matches or bad expectations. Or just plain people who can't gel 😕

Crankor · Answer

There's too many reasons. People's perspectives, lack of common sense, social intelligence, corrupted logic, list goes on

serious_miss419 · Answer

People leave one another over the slightest discomfort. One tries to mend it and the other calls it manipulation. Etc..

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Because they are just shallow, also a lot of people have lost their faith, morals and values!

JayBones · Answer

Because we lie to ourselves far more than we lie to each other

Zoi99 · Answer

Lack of communication and trust. Plus their apps like tinder. Also Social Media.

Raaj4you · Answer

Bcoz both men and women have high expectations from each other.

Anonymous · Answer

Because Women are usually Attracted to the wrong sort of Guy so they are setting themselves up for failure.

IPutASpellOnYou · Answer

Everyone wants to quit after the honeymoon stage.

Anonymous · Answer

Same thing @chicofromthe305 said. Cute username.

EmmaMary · Answer

MOST?

slatyb · Answer

People have more choice.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

People can't handle confrontation

DextroShade · Answer

Feminism and social media.

SolitarySolace · Answer

Female superiority and politics

LiamJHayden · Answer

Too many options.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Same as always. People are 💩 to deal with.

Wiredone · Answer

I think the main reason is lack of communication

Mediterraneansoul · Answer

Social media domino's effect

Lonelydudewantsagirl · Answer

Narcissism, fighting, cheating, etc

Anonymous · Answer

Normalizing cheating and not being loyal

DreamLife7 · Answer

Men..

whistlingwh0res · Answer

Sexx

straightmax12 · Answer

Double standards.

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