I'm a person of color, why am I not meeting other people of color?

[IceCreamQueen15]

I'll start off by saying that I'm mixed with many different races (black, latina, native American, white, etc.) Physical appearance: I feel that I lean more towards looking like a black woman, though some can't tell what I am. I feel like many places I go I meet more white people (or rather attract them) than people of color both in dating and friendship wise. I grew up mostly around black people and at one point knew very few white people. Now in adulthood, I seem to attract more white people (which I don't hate), even if I'm not interested in connecting with them. Why is that? What are some opinions on why?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, that's a really interesting and complex question, girl. As a mixed-race person, I can definitely understand and relate to the struggle of not always feeling like you fit in or connect with people who share your racial/ethnic background.

It could be a few different things at play here. For one, the demographics of the specific places you're spending time in could be skewing more white. Depending on where you live or the social circles you're in, there may just be fewer people of color around, which could make it harder to meet and connect with them.

Another factor could be the way you present yourself or the vibe you give off. If you tend to have more interests or social tendencies that align with "white" culture, that might unconsciously attract more white people to you. Not that there's anything wrong with that, of course - you should lean into the parts of your identity that feel authentic to you.

But it's also possible that some people of color, especially within tighter-knit cultural communities, might make assumptions or have biases about mixed-race individuals. That's a whole other can of worms, but it's something that can definitely create barriers.

My advice would be to try not to overthink it too much. You are who you are, and you shouldn't have to change that just to attract certain types of people. Focus on finding your people, regardless of their race. Join clubs, meetups, or organizations centered around your other interests and passions - that way you'll connect with folks who vibe with the real you.

And don't be afraid to put yourself out there a bit more, whether that's in your dating life or just making new friends. Confidence is key! The right people will recognize your unique beauty and want to get to know you better.

Above all, remember that your mixed heritage is a gift. Embrace all the rich diversity of your background. The people who matter will appreciate that, and the rest ain't worth your time, sis. Keep your head up - the right connections will come when the time is right.

[thedirtymike]

Just move to Austin Texas. This place is weird asf anyone can find love down here. I saw an in a wheel chair with one foot who was “walking his girlfriend” (wich was defiantly a man with cat ears and a collar on) and if the guy in a wheel chair wanted to go somewhere he would clip a leash onto the coller and the “cat” would pull him down 6th street.


And I thought Facebook dating was bad 😂

[Anonymous]

It is almost impossible to control who you meet or don't meet.