How long until his feelings fade?

[Anonymous]

how long does it take for a mans feelings to start fading when he's moved away? Even if he's planning to be back in a few months is it possible he could just stop caring?

[Kickrockslosers]

If he really loved or cared about you when he moves, the feeling will not fade. If he doesn't really care, he'll just move on and you will be blindsided; unless he is a real man and tries to break up with you well before the move to tie up loose ends.

There is no amount of time. I've been seeing a guy for 6 years, we love each other but because of the type of work he does he's rarely in my city. This time he has a year assignment in another country. He just moved again for like the 14th time in 6 years. He always comes back and one year he cried because I broke up with him and was in a relationship with a guy for 2 years. I didn't have a ring from him and he never asked me to move because like I said, he's moved like so many times that by the time I would get there or find a job he would have to relocate.

Now there's another guy that I see who plays overseas ball professionally and he visits and takes me out and makes the most of his time with me also. We do the family thing. We agreed that a serious relationship is not possible for several reasons. He gets better contracts all the time and his agent is awesome, so sometimes we make plans for me to visit him in another country and then he gets traded. Also, there are so many women chasing him that it's annoying. I'm not insecure but it's annoying LOL. He is a family man type of guy, makes a lot of money and has no kids. But he gets lonely out there on the road and has girlfriends all over the globe. When he moves he tries to maintain the relationship but eventually they break up. I told him that it didn't matter because there is no way I would try that type of relationship with him I was not going to be his DC or USA girl. But we have an understanding that if he was serious he would have to put a ring on it for me to take him seriously.

You are younger than I am so I have a different take on distance. Your guy will be back in a few months so just see how he acts. Like is he calling you on a regular, sending emails, text messages or just disappearing? One of my guys can call me and email me when he chooses, the other can't call at all or just rarely. But I know they both care about me deeply. I kinda like the distance because we don't waste a lot of time arguing.

[Asker]

Thanks for your input! I just got in contact with him yesterday. I asked him why he never calls, and he said that he just started his job and won't have enough $ until around the 20th to start calling me. and that he misses me alot, and still loves me..ect. lol, I'm still just so paranoid about him finding someone else!! but he keeps assuring me other girls do not interest him. and when I told him I might not have the $ to move as soon as we planned, he got upset and offered to send me $ lol :)

[Kickrockslosers]

Oh that's so beautiful. Yeah he's serious about you! Don't let paranoia and negativity get to you, that will ruin the relationship before any other girl. So just hang in there and you will be with your fella soon.

[anabur]

Yeah it's possible he could just stop caring. His reaction will tell you how he really feels. If he's away from you and (whether he wants to feel this way or not) it's hard for him and other girls don't interest him, then you know he has deeper feelings than "She's fun to be around."

Sorry, but all you can do is wait. Pay attention to how interested he is in talking to you after 2 or 3 weeks; it'll be a good indicator.

Hope this helps a little. There's NO reason he couldn't come back feeling even stronger about you, but no predicting what will happen (especially since I've never seen how you 2 act together).

[Atomizer]

Depends on a lot of things: the length and dedication of a relationship, if you've broken up or agreed to stay together, or to see other people, etc. it's impossible to know without knowing all those answers.

[Asker]

Well we've been together for about 3 months, he's planning to come back in 2.. we've agreed to stay together.. but the thing is we don't really talk a lot because of phone bill costs, and he doesn't have internet..ect. :( so I'm just worried he'll stop caring, because we've only talked 3 times and I'm already starting to worry and it's only been about 10 days w/o him..