Is it normal for me to want to be in a relationship with someone, but at the same time not want to?

[nerdemoji9]

[DishLady]

I guess just as normal as not being in a relationship, having the potential to do so and just ignoring that potential….

[Abbycado]

Sounds like you like the idea of it but don’t want to put in the work.

[nerdemoji9]

what do you mean, i'm 14 i don't know this stuff

[Abbycado]

No, what I mean is it sounds like you are torn. People can like the idea of being in a relationship without actually wanting to be in one. They think it would be nice to have a boyfriend or girlfriend and then think nah, don’t want the commitment, effort, work, etc that goes into it.

[nerdemoji9]

oh sorry. thank you though😳

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the timeless tango of the heart and mind! 🌹 It's perfectly normal to feel like this, my friend. It's that classic fear of commitment dancing with the desire for connection. Maybe you're worrying about waving goodbye to that precious singular freedom or fearing the potential baggage that relationships may bring. Red flags can be scary after all! 🎈Take your time and explore those feelings. Once you find the right one, those hesitations might just melt away. 😉

[Nikki1989]

For your age, it is very common.

[slatyb]

Yes, totally normal. Do you want to tell us more?

[nerdemoji9]

it's like every time I feel like I like someone, I just find myself scared of getting my heart broken again, and I can't work up the courage to talk to them, and by the time I do I'm to late. so I blame myself and fall back into a strange mix between depression and happiness. for I have a pretty optimistic look on life

[slatyb]

Can you see a counselor and talk through this? I suspect that you get your heart broken because you expect too much too soon, and invest too much. Perhaps you are love-bombing when you first meet someone. This will put them off. If you start dating someone with a "wait and see" attitude, and the knowledge that if it doesn't work out, you will meet someone else, then your heart won't be broken so often.

[nerdemoji9]

thanks i'll try and find one

[fish5505_87]

Yes, I've been there before, strange place!