Why do I keep surrounding myself with people who hurt me?

[Anonymous]

I have friends who say they love they love and care for me but disregarded my feelings boundaries and and constantly saying things that will bring me down along my moods I don't understand where I'm still friends within I tried so hard pull away and drown other friends but I find it so hard to know how to let go help me.

[ProbablyClueless]

Before I did my inner healing work, I always used to find this really cringe, but I've seen it be true. We dictate how other people perceive and treat us. And that was extremely true for me. And I would also say it's true that people want to interact with people who allow them to feel justified in their feelings.

I legitimately hated and despised myself, so I approached people in a way that scared off people who would have had a high opinion of me. The only people who stuck around were the people who were already inclined to despise me. They were comfortable with how I acted because they saw me doing things that reinforced what they already believed about me.

If you consistently find yourself surrounded by people who violate your boundaries and hurt you, it's very likely that you present yourself as someone who lacks a healthy sense of boundaries. People who have a healthy sense of boundaries are usually going to be turned off by people who don't seem to have healthy boundaries. I say this as someone who now has healthy boundaries.

I actively run away from people who don't seem like they can conduct healthy relationships.

[Asker]

Thank you❣ That helped a lot.

[ProbablyClueless]

Sure thing! Best of luck

[teamvic]

Perhaps it's because it's all you've ever been use to so it's normal for you

As far as how to pull away. Block all their address and never look back.

[teamvic]

Asses* not addresses

[Asker]

Thank you. ❣

[PeachyPie93]

Low self esteem we let people treat us how we think we deserve to be treated.. Get therapy.

[Lynx122]

Deep down you're more afraid of losing them and being alone than you are of being mistreated otherwise you would have drawn the line and meant it. That's the only advice I can give you.

[jahaims]

You're stupid

[Asker]

Thank you.