Can you stay friends with an ex lover or would it be too hard to for you?

Question

It definitely would not be easy, especially if one loved the other but they had moved on. Waht is your take on it. Did it work for you or nah?

FunkyMonkee · Accepted Answer

Yes. As long as it wasn't a nasty break-up. Although I haven't seen Saly in about 24 years, as far as I know, we're still friends. I haven't seen Carol in about 6 years but, that's on her, not me! We had an argy bargy in `19 and she got pissed at me for it and said she didn't wanna see me again. So, I left her alone. She tried to make up with me but, after all I'd done for her over the previous 37 years when she was in dire need and had no one else to turn to, the way she treated me that night was enough for me to cut all ties with her!! I eventually tried to patch up with her a year later but she cut all ties! Her loss!! I caught Anu lying to me, stealing from me AND cheating on me!! I could look past the lie as it was no big deal and, as far as I know, the first time she lied to me and I could SORT of see past her stealing, especially since I stole it back from her without her knowing. But, I CAN NOT put up with her cheating on me!!! I TRIED being friends with her a few years later until she accused me of shit I never even intended, let alone, DID!! After that, I've had NO use for her!!! Again, her loss!! I don't need or want people like that in my life!!

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Yes, if her and I broke up on mutual terms and we both realized we weren’t good for each other , kind of my situation with my ex wife, we are still mutual for the kids’ sake but we realized we are better off as friends’ then partners’ because we butted heads like crazy when we were together. She doesn’t like the things I like to do and vice versa , I would like to meet someone and fall in love again but I guess time will tell

Simslover92 · Accepted Answer

At first, it was hard as the break up wasn't mutual. But over the course of 8 months, I've learned to just be his friend and we now have a nice very amicable friendship. So its possible but you have to be willing to see that ex as now your friend which is not an easy process if you didn't really want the split but it does get easier.

unknowngurll1212 · Accepted Answer

No, I can’t. Once feelings were involved, going back to ‘just friends’ wouldn’t feel right to me...

ohsheeT · Answer

I have always stayed friends with the girls I've dated. You start out as friends so you should end it the same way.. but your right it has been hard. A few times and then I find myself not even wanting to talk or be around..

It's way easier if you see each other ever day but sometimes it's hard.

It really is a good test but you have to honest to yourself when you can do it you start to see beauty in every one

Purpleronnie · Answer

I couldn’t remain “friends” with ex at the end of a relationship and would only ever attempt to stay in amicable contact if a child was involved but this would not be any “friendship” that I recognize.

I’ve just never seen the point of even attempting to remain “friends” , it kinda feels like something thats offered to let the other down gently.. “I’m not ejecting you from my life just placing you in a land of limbo , of not really being sure of “ who we are to each other “ and “ what the boundaries are.

The only exception would be a healthy 50 / 50 split but that would be a rare and wondrous thing that I could only imagine , never having had.

Nope , once we are over , you’re just somebody that I used to know.

Zack-Bann · Answer

I stayed buddies with an ex for a short period after the breakup but we eventually drifted permanently

It was fine we both knew what we were by then

Although there was a weird meeting between us when she started telling me about a guy she was hooking up with (it was about 3 months after the breakup)
And my reaction was: I lit a cigarette and began telling her about the multiple women I’d been with since the breakup

I don’t smoke anymore
It was childish

A good friend of mine just lost his fiancée and my main advice to him is: cut her off completely
Because it’s the right thing to do

NathanDavis · Answer

I'm very good friends with my exes from high-school and college too

it is "easy" because it was forever ago, and also because before we were a couple, we were great friends so... we just kept that, the friendship

and even easier when we all moved on with our lives on our own too, but still remained friends

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

In life the only way to move is forward & once I part ways, I part ways. On the other side of things I think I can only be friends with an ex lover if her & I broke up on good terms & it was a mutual breakup or something like that.

slatyb · Answer

I can and have. We are occasionally in contact. I still miss talking to her.

In_Trance · Answer

It's not that it's easy or difficult.  It's pointless

FreyaRed · Answer

I could and I tried but I wasn't the one who fu.. ed up

Jay-_- · Answer

Like someone said it truly is pointless, but it's only worse/terrible when you have another man you are currently dating and still friends with your ex.

14gurlz2gagonit · Answer

If she still gives me blow jobs and pussy... I can make an exception and let her be my friend. But she should let me finish off in her friends and let me wipe my dick off on her curtains.

rebelkid · Answer

Hmmmm…this is treading on potential dangerous territory. I strongly believe that in some cases you can still be DISTANT friends with an ex-lover…but I would not test it just in case sparks are still flying.

Nikki1989 · Answer

I am still good friends with all my exes except one. One ex I chat with several times a week.

Surely · Answer

I have done both. But there wasn’t any children involved.

Shiprex · Answer

No, I don't think I would want to though I think my former girlfriend may have wanted to remain in touch.

strateguy632 · Answer

Nah, i only dump for a strong reason so not frend either.

lolian94dl · Answer

It’s for sure no no , because she would already know all my fetishs which I already feel shy to open to it and I don’t like to meet people who already know it or find out about it for no reason

LiamJHayden · Answer

Yes. I have some former dating partners in my larger circle. I only long term date women whom I like as people. If the romance fails that liking does not change.

qwerty2469 · Answer

I'm good friends with all but one ex. I make good decisions. Sadly my best friend of 20 years and mistress of 6 years ghosted me 4 years ago when I told her I wanted to divorce my wife and get married to her.

dudeinohio · Answer

Not a good idea. When you get into another relationship, your new partner may not like iit.

QuestionObsession · Answer

Nope. Once something is over it should remain over. It will be a terrible thing if either partner is still holding onto anything about an ex.

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

Previous to my last ex I had a cordial relationship with my exes.

nawtee_me · Answer

I am still friends with my ex-wife. We talk often.

Anonymous · Answer

Nah especially when they see me without clothes. And my ex was verbally abusive so no. Plus only other people to see me naked are my doctor and dermatologist.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

we are friends...

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

If we stayed friends it would be friends with benefits

wkhan_87 · Answer

Even It's very hard for us but still we are good friends ,

Anonymous · Answer

I never had a lover, but if I were, yes, I could stay friends with her.

ThebestIndian · Answer

It would be too hard for sure. Not so easy.  you look beautiful, by the way. Gosh.

CindyRuns · Answer

It all depends on why we broke up.

Valdemort · Answer

Would try to and likely fail

exitseven · Answer

I never wanted to and never did. They

TwoToTooTutu2 · Answer

Been doing it for 5 years now

Wiredone · Answer

I haven't in the past

fish5505_87 · Answer

Yes, I am friends with many of my ex's

Mythbusterwilson · Answer

It depends on how it ends

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Nahh

eagle1951 · Answer

to weird

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