Could you remain friends with your ex if they were in a relationship, and you were still in love?

[Shamiah02]

Or would the pain be too much for you?

[askandgiveAnswers]

Well. If all people don’t treat each other with 2nd guess or as disrespect and communicate better with each other, even writing each other notes each day. Asking or general talking of how u r doing and if u do have questions, then u need to ask. This can break this ice and less technology used. Yes, use a pen and paper to do this. Talk through notes for 2 months or more until u 2 or so move in. Even if u r moved in, write notes to each other so you can put technology away and listen to the other person read what was written. Reading out loud or not. Take a breather and have confidence, care about u and the other individual in ur life. Make foods at home, if 1 person makes food more, ask the other person to help u and u both can have a learning experience and confidence and honesty can be. Also the if u have anxiety it is okay, if u don’t know how to make something, Google it or better yet ask others, if u ask others. Answers and communication can help. Besides u can boost confidence as both of u on this. U know it is called homework. It just is not thought that way. Fun, enjoyable, relaxing, yet u can save money as u make more or learning more. U can also find out what farmers sell foods and if a alternative food store sells at the destination. Fun, healthy.

[hahahmm]

No... it's like asking: would you keep holding onto the door of a burning car that you love? I guess people might do it once. But then they learn not to.

Sometimes in life you do something really dumb and it works out in your favor but usually that's not the case. And intentionally waiting for somebody who left you for another is pretty dumb.

[flameaqui]

I think if this happens to me in the future I guess before I agree to e frieds with ky ex I would rather move on first and go far away from him soon as possible then when I already done movibg on and I saw him again then I could be friends with him or much better be friends with his girlfriend 😅since I think for me its awkward to be friends with your ex but its not awkward to be friends with his girlfriend but if I already move on I rather wish to never see him since he will be the memory core again like if I see my ex again I will be ack from the past so i better move on completely until you reach the words"I dont care if we cross paths or we saw eachother face to face I already and completely move on from him"in your mind and heart😅.

[Xoxocutekitty]

People do but it's usually not healthy.

I think staying friends with an ex should be normalized. In theory it means both parties weren't absolute rubbish, just maybe not the right fit.

I think that's the point of dating when you know you aren't ready for marriage and kids. To have fun, try new things, expand your comfort zone and learn about someone else's experience.

[OlderAndWiser]

This is precisely why this is such a bad idea, PLUS holding on to the hope of an eventual reconciliation just stands in the way of you moving forward and starting to look for someone else.

[Joshua_L_Blackmon]

no, Nope.. My brain is bigger than my heart. I fell for a women , she fell for me, but she was unattainable , so I told her straight.. bye. Love don't give you exceptions. Also i was young when i met her , and she was going through sep , I don't blame her, but im not gonna dangle a carrot and im not gonna be the carrot. They are happy now. I knew a women who was married in love with another man married to another women for 20 years. Those type of miserable people I will never become.. nor will I ever respect in any life.. and any after life.

[Jassminee]

It depends tbh, I am friends with my first boyfriend still, we both dated ard 15-17 and thats where it all ended cause we had differing ideas and many other things that we started to pick up as we grew. However, although we could not get along well in a relationship, there is things like our sense of humour etc that we both had the same, hence we decided to just end off with a good note and just take a short break between each other. After the break we remained as good friends still.

[bsann2015]

It has happened but I tend to turn X's into best friends.
Some people can go from love to hate in a matter of moments.
However I never could so I always turned exes into best friends and wound up with some awesome friendships that were even better than when I was dating them

[NathanDavis]

I don't think I would even want to do that... if I still had strong feelings for her then I would not be a genuine friend to her...

and then there's the fact that she's already in love and in a relationship with someone else, so... that would make things even more messed up and complicated

so I don't think I would be up for any of that drama...

[crazy8000]

Nope.
The thing is that I usually break up and put them in friendzone. no love or sexual feelings left.
Couldn't care less what kind of relationships they gonna have. as long it doesn't create anything inappropriate for our child if we have a child.
( female's have a tendency to expose their children to inappropriate shit and harm due to their urges, feelings and fixations )

[JoyGirl]

Absolutely not.
All my exs can kiss my ass. 👌🏾

[Andres77]

How many ex's is that exactly?😉

[Shamiah02]

Well damn, cuhh😂

@Andres77 ain't we nosy, cuhh?

[Andres77]

What? Me?🙄

[Shamiah02]

@Andres77 no that other gag user named andres77.😂

[JoyGirl]

😂😂😂

[JoyGirl]

@Andres77 Nah, dawg… 🚪🚶🏾‍♀️

[Shamiah02]

@joygirl🤦🏽‍♀️ sorry, cuhh. I normally remove comments like this from my question hopin ya don't gotta deal with it. I missed it🤦🏽‍♀️

My question sposed to be safe space.
I failed you😭

[Andres77]

Apologies to both.

[JoyGirl]

@shamiah02 All good, girl. This is G@G after all. 🥴💜

@Andres77 💜

[Shamiah02]

@joygirl👍🏽
@Andres77 all good, cuhh❣

[uncutfun]

#1 rule on dating, when it's over. wham, bam&thankUma'am.. cut All ties. Don't give that, we have the same circle of friend... should of"think about, the future"... say hi, bye. and never say talked about them, someone bring them up. WhoUtalkingaboot. their are many other ways to handle it... play by your rule, it your life.. be proud.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Honestly? I doubt I could remember most of my ex's names, let alone care whether or not they were in relationships.
I do have a few that i keep in contact with though and I am pleased for them when they find someone else.

[thickloadsdaily]

Probably not... that doesn't sound healthy to me. Allowing yourself to remain attached to someone that doesn't feel the same is not a good route to take. Will hurt for a while but time heals wounds. If you love someone that's moved on you gotta do the same

[s10sleeper]

If you’re still in love with your ex, it’s not really a friendship, you’re actually there with the hope that you can convince them to come back, or else they see you as a backup plan

[tytyN503]

That's so hard , if we had kids then of course , I would manage no mater what to have a good co-parenting relationship, and after a while i always think the pain and hurt would slowly go. But if I still loved them and they had no interest in me move on your hurting yourself. Every situation is different tho.

[Anonymous]

No if you have any kind of feelings and self respect, it hurts too much to see them with someone else. It is best to cut off all contact, I even put a restraining order on my ex-wife. When I knew there was no chance of her coming back and that she had been fucking another man, I told her that I considered her dead and to never come around me again.

[t-8900]

No I would need to sever all ties with those I break up with. It hurts me way too much emotionally. I would never recover or get over them or the break up. Been there, done that. Never again...

[CaliGirlBH]

I would never put myself in that situation. Why be friends when your not going to get him back and he's with someone else. You need to cut ties completely and move on.

[hhadeshatesme]

no I wouldn’t. But I don’t remain in contact with anyone that’s an ex in general

[DaveJord]

As kid I did that, but not as an adult. It never works out.

[CallmeTheKnight]

I don't look back at an ex and wish we were friends. They're an ex for a reason and all contact has ended

[Sam_The_Savage]

Honey I always stay friends with my ex's
Bkoz I want to see whom playing with my old toys that I donated to poor guys. ✌️

[boxxie2002]

I don't think that's healthy.

If someone is still in love or has strong feelings, then they should fully step away.

Down the track friendship could be on the cards

[dragoblack]

Depends on how the relationship ended. If she was a super toxic person or crazy, then hell no. If it was just stopped finding any romantic feelings for eachother, then yeah

[Joshua0213]

I mean I'm friends with my only ex still even though I've been in a relationship 3 years now. Only lasted about a week though so is it really an ex at that point though

[McKellar]

Plain & simple... No.
There would be too much awkwardness & pain just to tolerate all of that bullshit which you would have to witness. Why place yourself in that position? I wouldn't.

[Anonymous]

Nope. I don't actively keep in touch with any of my exes. But I especially wouldn't stay in contact with an ex I still had feelings for.

[Sam2021]

hell no
a man and woman can never be friends only

[KeithLane]

Hell no. I'm not that guy. I'd be more prone to hurting him. Wish I could say different but, I'm just wired that way.

[OddBeMe]

All my relationships... all three... ended well am I'm still friends. Depends if its amicable.

[Anonymous]

No, you will not stand watching them happy with someone else! It will shatter the little pieces of your heart left, that he broke.

[Ninani]

No, I'd cut all ties.

[RobT312]

NO, need to cut the cord, I’d prob. Be jealous

[Arjunaguy]

I don't think I could

[Jmmmfi4]

I'm going through this now & fuck no

[Shamiah02]

Clearly noted

[Wester1967]

Never. My god, masochism is so early 1990s

[ChiPaPa]

Nope. I also wouldn't be in love any more.

[DiegoO]

Why would I remain friend with an ex?

[Robert123456789]

No.
Especially not if they cheated on you

[Wise4myage]

No, that would not be healthy for me.

[007kingifrit]

no. nobody would do that

[Anonymous]

I don't know. Never been in that situation.

[OhCanada2]

Not sure it’s a good idea.

[ChiTownLov]

I'd definitely have to cut ties with them

[Gwenhwyfar]

Too much

[lilaccc]

no 🙃

[Hope_82]

Definitely not.
I did that it doesn’t work.

[Julious0202]

you can't be friends with ex

[maxlee]

It depends on the person

[Kelly6]

sure

[Uptowngirl88]

No move on

[crmoore]

Probably not

[yuviii2012]

Not at all...

[FireFox001]

Hell nah

[Manuel2]

No and move on

[Myself_Firefly]

Yes I would..