How specific are you with your preferences in a relationship partner?

[QuestionObsession]

Everything from...
Their childhood/ past life
Their mind and beliefs
Their mental/ physical health
Their insecurities and anxiety triggers
Their personality and behaviour
Their interests and passion
Their sexual personality and kinks
Their body and appearance
Their present life and situation
Their life plans and goals

[Simslover92]

Everything from...
Their childhood/ past life
Good decent upbringing

Their mind and beliefs
God

Their mental/ physical health
They can have some kind of mental disorder/illness as I have one. Physically not really that picky as long as they aren't on one of the two extremes.

Their insecurities and anxiety triggers
I don't really care abut that.

Their personality and behaviour
Quirky, smart, kind, caring, passionate, compassionate, funny

Their interests and passion
Music

Their sexual personality and kinks
I don't care just as long as it's not feet

Their body and appearance
As long as they don't fall into the two extremes I listed above I'm good. They don't have to look like Ryan Gosling but just normal/average

Their present life and situation
Good

Their life plans and goals
Starting a family, getting a house

[SecretsofKB]

Frankly, it depends on the specific thing. I do have things that I do specifically want in a partner like some personality and behavior as well as political beliefs.

But other than that, I have preferences, but most things are not very specific. I like certain things and sometimes I find new or different things that I like.

[QuestionObsession]

Are you currently in a relationship?

[SecretsofKB]

Yep!

[QuestionObsession]

So then it does not matter what preferences you have, because you have already settled for them in your current relationship :-)

[Miristheiss]

Hard to answer clearly. I had a genre of traits and standards and boundaries that were very important and they were/are non-negotiable but then there were all of these other traits that it didn't matter too much.

Physically, my standards were wide open. I just had to find her cute, have a relatively fit figure, average figure. Didn't care about height, eye color, breast size, hair color, average, thin, athletic, curvier as long as she was fit and not fat and I found her attractive.

Her character, value system, boundaries were very crucial. I was very picky.

Job? I really didn't care as long as I didn't find the work offensive or it wasn't too busy hectic. I didn't care that she worked but I didn't want a really career oriented/focused person. I didn't care what she did as long as it wasn't a stripper or model or flight attendant or lawyer... etc.

[NicholasRedone]

@QuestionObsession I'm too much for any woman to handle 🧬😁 in this lifetime. I'm just so lucky and I know it - see because I'm so picky (and I'm always aware I'm not perfect at all and don't wanna be, no one can be) - I don't feel like settling and that's my jam 🧈

[NicholasRedone]

I'd say I'd have a checklist so long to make MAFS jealous 🤭🤭🙃

[AI Opinion]

In the wild world of love, it's great to have preferences, but life isn't a dating app where you swipe left or right based on someone’s past or quirks. I advise focusing on what truly matters: shared values, chemistry, and mutual respect. Compatibility does involve understanding each other’s backgrounds and goals. But remember, love is like a dance—it’s about moving together in rhythm, even with a few missteps! 💃❤️🕺 Keep it fun, stay open, and be ready for surprises. They're the spice in the dish called love! 🍜✨

[QuestionObsession]

Piss Off!

[fish5505_87]

Nice!

[sawno]

Very, dating me is like playing minesweeper irs easy for me not to be interested. Yet the right girl won't ever step on them. I judge who she is so she can't do anything to turn me off from her if she's right for me. But if she's not the right girl figuring out what to do is probably impossible.

[ProbablyClueless]

I'm not too specific. All I really care about is that she has to be an outgoing, adventurous, curious and playful person.

And she has to be reasonably secure in herself. I don't have the energy or patience to be constantly reassuring my partner about every little thing.

[bddddd]

90% of what you get out of a relationship will be a result of what you and her put into it. Yes there needs to be some physical attraction to start it. But that will have little or no influence on what you build over 10 or 20 years.

[Nikki1989]

Well, you have 4 right.

Their mind and beliefs
Their personality and behaviour
Their interests and passion
Their life plans and goals

The rest is meaningless.

[QuestionObsession]

Meaningless? Let's see shall we?

Their childhood/ past life

You wouldn't care if they have a criminal record for some questionable crimes I guess?

Their mental/ physical health

You wouldn't care if they suffered from something like paranoid schizophrenia or if they had a chronic illness or substance addiction I guess?

Their insecurities and anxiety triggers

You wouldn't care if they have some bad trauma triggers that make you constantly worried I guess?

Their sexual personality and kinks

You wouldn't care if they have sexual issues I guess? Or if they are too vanilla/ asexual or too kinky/ depraved I guess?

Their body and appearance

You wouldn't care if they were a cripple or had some deformity I guess?

Their present life and situation

You wouldn't care if they were still linked to their ex or had a child or were unemployed or in therapy or rehab I guess?

The fact that you called childhood/ past life meaningless, says that you don't really understand how important that is in any relationship.

[MannMitAntworten]

Pretty short
Happy
Smart
Attractive


Granted, those three together eliminate a large cross section.

[NicholasRedone]

@MannMitAntworten is it a reward in the next life? 🏞️

[MannMitAntworten]

That made me laugh! Sometimes it does leave one to wonder.

[Anonymous]

I'm very flexible. Everyone is different and you can't go around looking for someone who matches every single item on a list. You wouldn't match everything on someone else's list.

[QuestionObsession]

Not even race preference?

[alice55]

Not specific at all, I talk with everyone then I see if we get along or not

[QuestionObsession]

Are you currently in a relationship?

[alice55]

no single

[QuestionObsession]

So you don't even have a race preference?

[alice55]

I prefer my own White but I'm open to talk anyone.
Which race are you?

[QuestionObsession]

So you do have a preference, not so flexible :-)

[QuestionObsession]

I am Indian

[alice55]

Well I think it's normal to have out own race as preference since it's what we're used to and what we're more familiar with.
Do you have a preference?

[QuestionObsession]

Yes, strictly interracial 😉

[alice55]

You're pretty motivated for it it seem xD

[QuestionObsession]

I am yes, because I will not be happy with an Indian woman. Hey I remember you, I had commented on your post about sexual assault. :-)

[alice55]

Oh we talked before it's true, this is great :)
We can follow each other
Well if you won't be happy with an Indian woman then it's better to be with another that can make yo happy

[QuestionObsession]

Yes we can follow each other. And I know I have to find a foreign woman to be happy. But it is not easy. :-) That is why I asked this question to everyone haha

[alice55]

It's true that if you want to be with a foreigner is it going to be more difficult a s there's long distance stuff and it's always hard.
Ther's also knowing / deciding which country to live in long time.
This is good :)

[QuestionObsession]

Yes it is difficult with all that. Deciding in which country to live is easy because I am ready to leave India :-)

[alice55]

Yes that can make it very hard.
This is good then :)

[fish5505_87]

Not specific at all, if I feel it, I feel it.

[convo_king89]

Well not as a deal breaker but more of a bonus if she wore regular panties.

[NathanDavis]

smart, interesting and funny...

[DrPepper12]

Go with gut n let it flow from there

[TheSpaceGnome]

Very specific