Why do people get into relationships when you can be just as happy alone?

[Anonymous]

I see so many people ask questions about issues in their relationships and how hard it is, but single people asking how to get into relationships are told they don't need one and they can just be happy alone.

So why are so many people in relationships which it seems like more work/volatile for the same end result of happiness?

[Simslover92]

Companionship is always better than being alone. While you may find some peace in being solitary at times, you will quickly get tired of hearing your own thoughts. It's nice to hear others especially someone you really love. There's nothing like having that emotional support and connection with someone. And it's an added bonus to have physical intimacy with someone.

Yeah you may run into issues in a relationship, but if you find your person who really gets you and you get them, then the issues that may come up won't be that bad.

[Asker]

The advice to finding a partner is to not derive happiness from the partnership, you need to be complete and self sufficient as a person first to even be eligible for a partner.

What you're saying is close to what incels say in that companionship can bring happiness. Physical intimacy is nothing which is why we make fun of people who cry about not being able to get laid.

When I see people ask for help in dating vs when I question why people date seem to get me answers that totally contradict each other and no one ever seems able to connect the dots

[Simslover92]

There's a reason that married couples tend to live longer than single people. Married people live on average 2 years longer than single people.

I'm not saying that you can't be happy single but that it's more beneficial to have a partner. And yes you do need to be self sufficient first and complete. I'm not negating that. I'm just saying once you are, it's more beneficial to have a partner than to not have one in the long run.

[Abbycado]

I met the right person. When I was single, I was perfectly happy as well. I enjoy bing in the relationship I have since it is going so well.

[Asker]

Aren't there more risks though? You could invest years of your life Into that person for them to turn out to be a bad person, causing major life shakeups and what not. Most people I've talked to who have had break ups talk about how relationships are so hard to get right and how break ups are the most brutal pain there is.

If you were just as happy before meeting your partner, why jeopardize that? Sure while the relay is going well, you're still happy but way more can go wrong when you commit at that level.

[missindiana93]

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