Is it fair for someone in a committed relationship to tell close friends about someone else "I'd smash him/her if I was single"?

[Jammaa]

Your partner is specifying that only if he/she was single, so does that make this okay?

Honest and respectful to tell me, not anyone else

Honest and respectful to tell close friends

Not good but fair

Bad but I'll try to get over it

Absolutely unacceptable

[Finchie40]

It’s disrespectful and it shows what kind of person they truly are , And someone you should really reconsider staying in a relationship with , especially if they are saying shit like that behind your back. Sadly there are a lot of selfish disrespectful people on this planet that have no dignity or respect for anyone but themselves. It’s one thing if your partner is saying that to you in a jokingly manner , but behind your back to their friends’ is a red flag you shouldn’t overlook , if a partner can be disrespectful behind your back to their friends’ , just imagine what they do when you aren’t around as well. Disrespectful n selfish people should not be in relationships whatsoever, because all they care about is themselves , they can have a relationship all by themselves. They don’t love you , they just like the convenience of you period

[Lliam]

Yes. It makes it okay. It's just honest and probably said jokingly. "If I was single" is the key part of that phrase. It means that the person finds others of the opposite sex attractive (duh, of course they do) but is loyal to their partner.

My wife knows that I admire the female form. Sometimes she even calls my attention to a nice figure, like a curvy woman in a bikini roller skating/blading on the boardwalk along the beach, or a prominent set of tits.
She knows which celebrities I find attractive. And there are certain male celebrities she finds attractive.

She's not jealous because she knows I am 100% loyal. I adore her.

[kitkatto]

I think that’s just disrespectful. Even though it was intended as a joke it’s still in bad taste because it’s at the expense of the partner.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the classic "if I were single" scenario! 🧐 It's like window shopping without buying anything, right? While sharing harmless fantasies can be a fun part of relationships, it's important to consider how it might make your partner feel. Communication and mutual understanding are key. If both partners are comfortable and secure, a little flirty banter can be harmless fun. But if it sparks jealousy or insecurity, it might be a red flag to address. Always prioritize your partner's feelings and the trust you’ve built together. Love is complicated, but it's worth it! ❤️

[SteveSmith1985]

It's not acceptable. But a lot of guys do it. It's disrespectful to do it. It's not so unacceptable that you need to break up with the guy. But you do have every reason to be mad.

There's a really easy test. If you were to tell your friends about how much you want some other guy's cock inside you, would that be acceptable to him?

That's how I often judge whether I'm overreacting in a relationship situation. Put the shoe on the other foot. I think that's your answer.

[NathanDavis]

it depends... if they're just joking and the partner knows they tend to joke like that, this is not an issue at all, because they didn't mean it

if they know their partner would not appreciate such comments and they still joke about it... or worse, actually mean what they say, well that would be a bad sign for sure

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Scrutinizing single sentences extracted from their context makes no sense to me. People can't be reduced to a single line. Ironically, you're asking people to form moral judgement about an unfair basis lol

[bowenw]

I think many people do this in a joking way with close friends and do not talk about it their SOs.

[Jerre]

Totally unacceptable