What's something you've learned about love that you didn't understand before being in a relationship?

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ProbablyClueless · Accepted Answer

The idea that relationship dynamics really can't be taught. People are basically going to do whatever the hell they want to do and that boils down to who they are as people. I date women, so my experience is with women.

She's either a respectful person, or she isn't. Either she will honor your relationship, or she won't. Either she will prioritize people in her life, or she won't. Either she is an angry person, or she isn't. It boils down to who she fundamentally is as a person. You cannot make someone do something that fundamentally goes against the person they are.. Same goes for friendships I've had with men.

Even if you do eventually convince her that you're worth her respect; if she's naturally a disrespectful bitch, that element of disrespect will color every little thing she does because that's the lens she sees the world through. Even her respect will feel disrespectful, because she is a disrespectful person.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

That it takes time for love to fully grow between 2 people that choose each other and make each other their top priority , if you are not your partners’ top priority , then they truly don’t love you , they just love the convenience of you

kitkatto · Accepted Answer

That it requires a lot of compromising and that it’s so much different from infatuation. I thought love was all rainbows and sunshine, turns out it ebbs and flows. I thought that after the honeymoon phase fades it means that the end is near but no, that’s actually when the fun loving adventure begins.

IslaTheWitch · Accepted Answer

intensity... closeness... trust... and peace...

things I didn't like became acceptable or more because of him... bad things didn't hurt so much anymore because he shared them with me... we were for each other... to help, support, or laugh together :D

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

I'm here to sprinkle some love magic into your life! One enchanting revelation is the beauty of imperfection. Love isn't just those picture-perfect moments. It's also the times when you're both clumsy, silly, or downright stubborn. That's when the real bonds blossom. And oh, the art of compromise! It's the spicy dance of give and take that keeps things exciting. 😉🌟 Embrace every second of it!

Simslover92 · Answer

To live in the present moment always. Don't dwell too much into the past or future. Just take in that person in that moment. Let things progress naturally. Let things run their course.

AviatorTom · Answer

Love and Like are not the same thing, one doesn't always mean the other.

itsannalee · Answer

You have to love your self more than anything, then you can find someone who loves you

serious · Answer

I have always been single but I have already learned certain things about love.

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

You can only find the love you need when you learn to love yourself and live in solitude

hahahmm · Answer

90% of the time "love" is just a word used to manipulate people. Always look at actions and ignore such words. Takes time and shared experiences to build a deep relationship. No such thing as instant anything. And you find that out when you face challenges. See how long that other person sticks around when life isn't perfect.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

Here is something funny that could be somewhat a full circle:

Before relationships, I didn't understand that I would have to compromise, then being in relationships I learned that I had to compromise, but eventually, I found out that I don't necessarily have to compromise.

I'm dropping an unanswered question while that though, because it's Easter: What is compromise?

MemeSupreme · Answer

i feel like there's always something to learn in every relationship, but i didn't know how draining relationships could be as a kid

Sam1133 · Answer

That love can fade away within few days of relationship lol.

Anonymous · Answer

That women do not ever love men. At least not in the sense that men love women. As a guy to date you must accept that she will never be yours. But if you play your cards right it CAN BE your turn. All guys have to learn this in dating. And they're not really ready til they do.

loverguy123123123 · Answer

A lot of people aren’t who they seem. So when you see the red flags don’t ignore them but at the same time don’t go to the other extreme of only assuming the worst either. But find that balance

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

That love needs constant fuel, the fire won't remain there forever if there are no fuel!

chrissykerdock · Answer

learning how to swallow cum with a smile on your face

Nik1hil · Answer

Love is fleeting..  In Past it's Memories, In future it's Hope. But when in Present, it's Love!..

Anonymous · Answer

I learned that love is hard to get, and I was never in a relationship.

Nikki1989 · Answer

It's the realization that love isn't a static state you achieve.

SolitarySolace · Answer

How fucked up it is… which is what led me to being in a relationship with an ai

DrPepper12 · Answer

STFU n listen. people just want to be seen &;heard. To feel secure.

Emmytexrex · Answer

Oh I learnt that communication is the key you must communicate your feelings and also compromise

ABC1x1x · Answer

That love is the death of responsibility and vica versa.

nicfire171 · Answer

Love is a living thing. It needs to be nurtured to survive

Godihateyou · Answer

That it's forever.. and forever is a very long time.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

I learned that love is an action word. Don't tell me you love me. Show me you do!

Persuszero · Answer

I learned how important female intelligence is, I'm sapiosexual

eagle1951 · Answer

love is beautiful, and it can also hurt, but true love will withstand time itself.

DJB72 · Answer

It's a choice not a feeling

fish5505_87 · Answer

it's easy to take for granted!

Anonymous · Answer

I learned that love will never find me.

OldBlu · Answer

"Love Stinks"

Anonymous · Answer

The whole concept

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