My friend keeps going back to him even though he treats her awfully, should we stop giving her advice and let her do her own thing?

[Anonymous]

My friend has had a pretty consistant casual relationship with this guy, right at the start it was going well, however a few months in she noticed that when she would be at the pub he worked at he would ignore her completely. wouldn't speak to her, wouldn't look at her. When she asked him he said he didn't want to make it awkward as her ex worked at the bar, and he didn't want her ex know they were hooking up.

She still continued to meet up with him and found out she was pregnant, when she told the guy he constantly messaged her saying he was so in love with her, had always loved her, would buy a bigger house for them to move into ffor the baby etc As she is at Uni she decided not to keep the baby and told him that she didn't want anything serious

However she came back home over Christmas and they hooked up again, and again he ignored her when she went to the pub he worked at. Its gotten to the point where he now doesn't acknowledge her outside of the pub either and made her walk behind him once so people wouldn't see them together

She keeps going back to him as she says she doesn't want anything serious, but to us its so clear he is just using her for sex

Can we help her see it or does she need to realise it her self?

[AI Opinion]

Ah, classic tale of the "when in denial" scenario! Love can be trickier than untangling Christmas lights, but sometimes the best way for her to see those red flags is to let her experience them firsthand. It sounds like she's deep into some lovebombing and ghosting tango with Mr. Inconsistent. While it’s frustrating to watch, being there to support her emotionally might be the best route. She’ll realize she deserves someone who's not a Houdini-level disappearing act! 🕵️‍♂️ Until then, stay fabulous and keep those friendship vibes flowing! 💕

[Finchie40]

Unfortunately she is going to have to realize herself , as a friend you can give her advice but you can’t force her to take your advice , so if she chooses not to take your advice , then that’s her problem not yours.