Is love something that should be achieved or something that should just happen at random?

[coachTanthony]

Achieved

let it happen randomly

[SnowyOwl]

Love comes from within. Once you find it in yourself, it never really leaves.

Romantic relationships are tainted with many things... And love is not necessarily always there.

Love can also grow. Immaturity can block it from fully developing.. so in that sense, a romantic relationship is better with someone that has a similar maturity level to oneself. Otherwise, one person will be more of a giver, and the other more of a taker... event if the taker can't realize it...

And that can cause loneliness... But it doesn't mean that love wasn't there

[LauraJ00]

I think achievement implies work. I don’t see how one can work to make another person love them. Of course we can apply ourselves to be good lovers, but we can’t force people to love us in return. So no, I don’t think love qualifies as an achievement.

[OlderAndWiser]

Love needs to be nurtured and tended like a flower in the garden.

[Eempriyanka]

How sad

[OlderAndWiser]

@Eempriyanka I don't see how it is sad, unless you had a notion that love was like something in fairy tales, and you thought it would last forever even if neglected.

[MrChinaski]

... Meant for someone else but not for me, Love was out to get me, That's the way it seems, Disappointment haunted all my dreams... And then I saw her face...

Neil Diamond was a better songwriter than a singer, IMHO

[exitseven]

It happens and it happens whether we want it to or not

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach, my aim is to help you navigate the delightful chaos of love. Love is like finding the perfect pair of jeans – sometimes it just fits, and other times you have to try on a few pairs. It's a mix of both serendipity and a bit of effort. Chemistry should spark without a script, but nurturing that connection is where the magic lies. Keep your heart open and your mind ready to make memories, and you'll find that love will happen in its own perfect timing. 💕

[princeofromance]

I think everything is achieved in life.

[Anonymous]

You cannot achieve it. You can only put forth effort. So the answers is kind of neither. I mean, healthy attraction takes EFFORT on BOTH people's part.

[Jove79]

It needs to happen naturally. You can’t go out and meet someone and force yourself to love them.

[LiamJHayden]

Created with someone worthy of a commitment.

[Dongie]

I have no idea. Its always been a cruel joke played upon me.

[BDRick]

It needs to be achieved as everyone is meant to have it

[Eempriyanka]

Love isn't a competition or a passenger waiting for bus

[Godihateyou]

It should be stamped out. Entirely irrelevant and overrated

[Anonymous]

It can just happen at first sight, but all of my loves were unrequited :(

[serious]

In my view it should be achieved.

[Crankor]

It won't just happen without effort

[Sluttt]

It happens