My father died with an estate. My mother inherited and she is a less useful person all around?

[Anonymous]

I assume others have been in a similar situation. How do you manage the balance between telling your mother what you have actually thought of her for 40 years, and not doing so much that you lose your claim on her (ex his) estate?

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1 y

I do not need my father's money. But would like to see his money go to my children, per his intent.

That's it. That's how extravagant my claims are.

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1 y

And don't criticise my use of the word 'useful'. It is a euphemism for stupid, easily inlfuenced, incapable, unskilled etc. This is why we use words like 'useful'.

[In_Trance]

Have you tried shutting the fuck up?
That usually works well.
When you open your big flapper it gives off the impression that all you care about is money that's not yours. Your sense of entitlement is absolutely astonishing.
Ask your doctor if shutting the fuck up is right for you

[Asker]

The past 16 years I have shut the fuck up because there was absolutely no need in my life to relate to her. I agree that continuing that policy is a viable option.

[Summeroflove]

Yeah I don’t know man just set boundaries and maybe get therapy.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Damn, man categorizes the women in his life by “use”

[Asker]

I mean mother that couldn't find her way out of a bag of hammers sitting on a 5big estate,

[Asker]

My guess is her IQ is about 60 at tis point.

[Asker]

It probably peaked at about 105, but that was a long time ago

[AI Opinion]

Navigating family and estates can be tricky. Keep communication light and respectful, like a delicate waltz. Venting decades of frustration might feel tempting, but holding onto your cool is the pro move here. Perhaps see it as emotional aikido – gracefully redirect your feelings rather than unleashing them. Cling to love, not resentment! Your bond like any cherished possession deserves careful care. Plus, keeping things smooth means you don’t unwittingly wave any red flags. Ultimately, love is a legacy worth passing on, right? 😉