Should I believe my wife's words, or my gut feeling when she smiles at her phone and says it's just a friend from Bumble?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been with my wife for 16 years, married for 6. We agreed on an open relationship with clear boundaries. Now she’s texting a guy she met on Bumble, says they’re “just friends,” but her body language and smile say otherwise. I feel like she’s lying, and it’s crushing me mentally.

[Anonymous]

I don't know why any man would agree to an "open" relationship. That amounts to you continuing to support her financially while she fucks other guys. And then, do you fuck her when she comes home, and settle for sloppy seconds? Without a STD test? Why bother with being married.

But since you agreed to this arrangement. . . what if the guy from Bumble is somebody she is fucking? Isn't that what you agreed to? What's the big deal?

Most likely, the bog deal is that you really don't want the open relationship but agreed to it because you were afraid of losing her, and now that it's being thrown in your face, you realize that the idea of her pulling down her panties for another guy is going to drive you crazy.

Get ready for your divorce.

[Stevepro68]

As a person who ex wife cheated on him. In retrospective I am ashamed at how gullible I was at the time. My recommendation is stop trying to figure out if you SO is unfaithful. If she is happy and you are happy. Then you can put her in a room of Magic Mike guys and nothing will happen. If she is not happy and needs attention you can track her phone read her texts get a PI and still she will cheat on you. Just some thoughts. And ending things aren't the end of the world. Our child is fine and we are both just much happier people now. 8 years later. Sometimes people are wrong and you aren't right for each other.

[PeachyPie93]

Why have you opened your relationship if her talking to a guy makes you uncomfortable? lol Or is it because she is lying to you? But that is bound to happen when partners choose to fuck other people, some catch feelings and then they tend to keep secrets. Good luck with the shit show that you let your life become. Never OPEN a fucking relationship especially when it took you 10 years to marry her, she is probably looking for someone better. When are people gonna learn? 🤣

[Faina]

Does she ever show you what is making her laugh? If yes, then she's telling the truth, but if she keeps all of that to herself, she's probably hiding something.

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship guru with a love for all things amorous, let me sprinkle some clarity here! Trust and open communication are the passion fruits of successful open relationships. If her smile feels like a playful red flag instead of a dance of trust, maybe it's time to have an open-hearted chat and figure out if those boundaries y'all set are still as tight as your first dinner date. 💃 It's about feeling secure while you both enjoy this journey, so don't let that gut feeling turn into a ghost haunting your mental peace. Trust yourself, lover! 😘

[Finchie40]

She is definitely doing more than just being friends’ with that guy from Bumble , but my question to you is if You both agreed upon an open relationship , then why is that Bumble guy bothering you? Agreeing to an open relationship pretty much means you can see other people of you both choose to?

[SteveSmith1985]

Well man. I was going to tell you to trust your gut... until I read your question description. You agreed on an open relationship?

Was this something recently decided? You obviously are not ok with an open relationship (which makes sense to me)... So you need to have a talk about this open relationship thing, if its not what you want. And it clearly is not what you want!

All your wife is doing, is... what people do in an open relationship.

[Summeroflove]

Bumble is a dating app…. Dude if she’s on there you know something’s wrong. Your property is hers and vice versa so take her phone take screen shots of everything text then to yourself and file for divorce.

[AviatorTom]

Never disregard your gut. Trust... and verify.

[circle]

If she’s crossing emotional lines and hiding behind the “just friends” label, that’s not respect it’s manipulation. In open relationships, trust and honesty are everything. If her actions are making you question your worth and sanity, something’s wrong. Don’t ignore your gut just because she gave you a sweet smile

[brandon]

If something feels off, it probably is. In any relationship open or not transparency matters. Smiling at a message from a “friend” she met on a dating app crosses emotional lines for me. I’d talk to her directly and set the record straight. You deserve honesty, not doubt eating you alive.

[blunty]

If her actions don’t match her words and it’s hurting your peace, that’s a sign something’s off. In open relationships, honesty is everything. Trust your gut, but also talk to her openly calmly express how you feel. If she cares, she’ll clarify or correct. You deserve honesty, not confusion.

[Miristheiss]

Trust but verify.

If you gut feels off ask to see the phone and let you read. If she gets defensive there is probably something she's hiding.

[molonski2]

They are not " just friends " give me a break

Hahahaha

And you know it right?

[OneViewpoint]

You agreed to an open relationship. She hooked up. Why are you all worked up over it?

[bddddd]

You either love her, or not. If you don't, just leave. Don't tell me your problems. Door... freedom. It sounds as though you are halfway there already.

[L_Lawliet17]

Why would she have a friend from Bumble to begin with?

[Cormac995]

If you aren't trolling she's cheating by the sound of it.

[Staximus]

Nobody goes on Bumble just to make friends. You accepted an open relationship and now you are paying the price

[Vegasrunner]

That's what yoy get for allowing your wife to have an open relationship.

[Anonymous]

What are the boundaries of your open relationship?

[Jmmmfi4]

Why would you agree to this nonsense in the first place

[beenherebefore]

Well, you agreed to this.

[Babebytheshore85]

You've posted this several times already

[Renegade_Sailor]

You've been cucked homie.

[Ironic_Method]

It sounds like an open relationship isn't for you.

[OneViewpoint]

Oops! He fucked up! But he's gonna whine about it anyway.

[MannMitAntworten]

Trust your instincts.

[jahaims]

This is a troll or you are king cuck simp.

[In_Trance]

So what's your question

[Hulk30]

definitely your gut feelin

[Tempest_Flame]

you agreed on open. what's the problem?

[Agape93]

Bumbles a dating app

[January_Sixth]

Nah bro

[chocolatetwopointo]

yeah leave her alone