I keep having chronic health problems and now im worried how a boyfriend will deal with it?

[Anonymous]

Im always having to go to the hospital and doctors appointments and im grateful I have my mom to come with me and stuff. But I want to have a light relationship.


What guy in their 20s/30s will want to spend their Friday nights calling 9-11 because I go into anaphylactic shock and I can’t breathe and he has to stab me in the leg with an epi pen or because I have a mini stroke?

It won’t be fair to him, but I can’t plan when I will be sick either. But being lonely is taking over me. I don’t know who will be more patient than my family with me. I can’t be in a relationship for 3 months and then like 3 weeks in I will be in a crisis

[Orion84]

I went through something similar with my ex (not why she is an ex), and while it was occasionally difficult, it was manageable.

When you love someone, and I did, that's just the kind of stuff you do for each other. You get through those situations together. It may not be quite as easy for you to find someone as it may be for others, but it certainly won't be impossible, either.

You'll have a pretty good indication when someone is a keeper, too, once they go through that with you. Not everybody gets that kind of a definitive sign, so that might be a little bit of a positive benefit.

[Asker]

I really hope so. I guess it gives me discernment about who will be a lifelong partner and not just a boyfriend down the line. I spent most of my early 20s already in a hospital when I should be partying and dating

[Orion84]

Eh, partying and dancing is overrated, anyway.

I'm sure you'll find someone to stand by your side when you have something happen. There are plenty of good guys out there, don't worry.

[melnc]

Sorry for what you're going through

[Asker]

Thank you

[AI Opinion]

Hey darling! ❤️ Relationships can be as unpredictable as our health, and it’s completely normal to wonder about this. A genuine partner will adore you for all your quirks, quirks included!🌟 Patience and empathy are the secret sauce in relationships, paving the way for deeper connections. When you find someone who embraces both the highs and lows, you'll know it’s a special bond. Love isn't just about being there for the fun stuff; it's about navigating through everything life throws at you together. Keep your heart open, the right person will see you as their fabulous self, no matter what! ✨💕

[Panthero80]

A "light" relationship probably wouldn't work.

[Danny_dan92]

Why is that happening?

[Asker]

Luck of the draw I guess, I keep getting called a “complex case”. I have like 6 specialist looking after me, it’s tiring, im not even 30

[Danny_dan92]

Figure out if it’s genetic or it’s happening due to lifestyle factors

[Asker]

Im the only person in my family like this since I was a baby and I eat pretty lean and im active too and I get told I look “fit” a lot but im always on a gurney to a hospital every other month. Im confused myself

[Danny_dan92]

Then it’s probably genetic. The result of your parent’s genes mixing together might’ve caused this.

In any case I’m not a doctor so I’m probably wrong.

[Tempest_Flame]

men don't want that