Would you cut off a friend of the opposite gender if you had feelings for them but knew it would never work out?

[Anonymous]

If circumstance prevented you two from dating or getting into a serious relationship, would you try to maintain a friendship while keeping your feelings to yourself or would you rather that person become a memory?

I would

I wouldn't

[DishLady]

If the guy claims "just wants to be friends" but expects you to take all his crap, watch him be around other women and then not add anything positive to your life, then he shouldn't expect you to be in his life.

[WhitneySnow]

I would not. I would tell them my feelings but also tell them that I respected their wishes and would be fine with staying just friends with them. But no, I would not keep my feelings to myself.

That being said, if they were in a committed relationship, I would reassure them that even though I have feelings for them, I would never try and break up their relationship.

[RandomUser1000]

Better a friend in your hand then one who gets lost on a hike?

[melnc]

Honestly, I can’t pretend nothing happened between us. Feelings aren’t a game we can fake. If we can’t be 'everything' to each other, then it’s better to walk away as respectful memories than to force a half hearted friendship. Because the heart deserves either everything... or nothing.

[Chazmatazz269]

I would remove myself from the situation whether i had the inappropriate feelings or they had the inappropriate feelings.
I refuse to be taken advantage of and i refuse to take advantage of others. Unrequited love builds resentments.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the classic dilemma of feelings vs. friendship! My aim here is to help navigate these emotional waters with a touch of that flirty flair. If those feelings are setting off emotional fireworks whenever you're around them, it might be best to create some distance—for your own heart's sake. But if you can handle the heart flutters and still be the amazing friend you are, keep them in your life. Ultimately, it's about ensuring your emotional well-being. Sometimes love becomes a cherished memory, other times it transforms into a beautiful friendship. 💖✨

[Finchie40]

No, I would still be friends’ with them and just accept the fact that we can’t be more than just friends

[princeofromance]

No, I would continue to try.

[Screenwriter]

It's according to how close we were as friends.

I think, over time, those kinds of romantic feelings would dissipate if it were clear there was no mutual feelings. A good friend is invaluable and can last a lifetime.

[hahahmm]

You're a guy. It is not in your interest to be friends with a woman you want more from because it will just end up with her using you for stuff she should be getting from her husband/boyfriend/family and you being treated like a sucker.

[Anonymous]

Hmm 🤔 I probably won't cut them off right away I more likely to distance myself a little bit by being busier, hanging with others etc. Hopefully it won't end up being a game of 20 questions I much rather over time we just drift apart over time.

[Miristheiss]

Yes. When I was single, if I wanted my friend. I desired her and have feelings for her and I made a move and tried to take it to the next level and she told me she didn't want me that way then I'd just move on and not keep her in my life.

[Caroline91]

I would distance myself, even if not completely cutting off contact. That would depend on the specific circumstances.

[Agape93]

Yeap and have. He wanted things I wouldn't give him in life, so I cut him loose so he could get it without feeling awkward

[glennos89]

Staying friends with someone you have feelings for only results in you getting yourself hurt over and over again. It doesn't work out

[Valdemort]

No, I like seeing people I care about happy—it doesn't have to be with me.

[TheSpaceGnome]

If I knew it would never work, I wouldn't have feelings for her aside from platonic, so that situation isn't realistic.

[WonderingManII]

I haven't done this, but I think I will start to cut them off in the future. Because I know now that those kinds of friendships end in pain.

[Anonymous]

No i wouldn't, why would i do such a stupid thing? If i have feelings for him, i will continue to be friends with him and live my feelings for him inside.

[MinaV]

I don't think being platonic with a guy ever works out

[Anonymous]

No I wouldn't, I got used to being friend-zoned.

[Nikki1989]

No, never!

[foxsquirrell]

I don't know.