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My husband talks himself out of doing things then he regrets it and whines about it constantly. He tries to stop me from doing things I want also?

For instance he missed a turn driving in the car two days ago and wouldn't shut up about it. Same thing with the car show a month ago. He didn't go and is mad at himself for not going.

He stomps around like a kid and acts like I stopped him from going. He says I am the one overreacting and making a big deal. But he's the one yelling and talking about it. I completely shut down and stay away from him when he's like this.

He regrets only have a masters and not finishing his doctorate. His parents will pay for it. But he doesn't want to go back because he's forty. I totally support him going back.

He is trying to get me to quit doing the community garden. Because it's 15 twenty minutes away. He keeps saying it's not safe there. It's not in a great neighborhood. I feel safe there. I am growing mini pumpkins and a few other things. We don't have a yard. I have plants in my office and balcony. But that's it.

I wish he would go to marriage counseling. But he won't. What are your thoughts?

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He said he is saving me from disappointment and utter despair when it doesn't work out. the only times I felt that way when the apartment complex I lived in burnt down and my grandma died. Got little things it's just like oh well I guess it wasn't meant to be.
My husband talks himself out of doing things then he regrets it and whines about it constantly. He tries to stop me from doing things I want also?
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