What do "you" get out of a relationship?

[Glasses]

When u get out of the dating/talking stage and enter into a relationship stage , in your mind what makes you want to go from the dating/talking state to the relationship stage with that certain person. What are you getting from them that makes you say I want to be in a relationship with tham.

[Chazmatazz269]

I never really had a fully fledged, healthy relationship based on mutual respect and affection. My mother raised me to be self sacrificing and to be believe that being chosen by a woman was divine. Simply being chosen was all that i coveted.
If you’ve been around longer than a minute, you know how disgustingly dysfunctional that is. By the time i developed a meaningful sense of self worth, preferences and boundaries my dating pool had fouled. Women my age were jaded by divorce or having never married in the first place. If i didn’t detect them seething with disdain in their profiles, it was clear well before the end of the first date. I’ve never been one to attract much younger women, and much older women probably smell the same thing on me that i smell on my peers.
In short, i’m a giver, to a fault. By the time i realized that i deserved to be happy too, the women i liked didn’t like me anymore. It seemed that i only attracted takers and users.
So now i stay single. More often than not, i don’t even think about it. It’s not bad at all. Other times, i get low. We’re social creatures. Go figure.

[YourFutureEx]

Security.

When I'm in the talking stage, I'm simply getting to know them and trying to introduce myself and my interests and assess our compatibility.

Once we see each other compatible and find each other liking our opinions and the way we are, we date.

But that's not the end all be all. There are a lot of things we may hide from each other. We are not sure if they can handle our dark side. Our uncomfortable truths. Our ugly scars. There comes a point when we cannot hide it for so long because vulnerability is a crucial stage before you can officially be in a relationship with someone. When you share your vulnerabilities, you give it a final test to check if you can be secure with them. Whether you are truly accepted the way you really are or not. You know that you're not perfect and you can fuck up. And when you do, this person will still be there for you. Once you feel secure enough to be your true self and still be accepted and loved, you give it a go for a long term commitment.

So, the crucial thing that matters is - security.

[DishLady]

Good question. I would say it's a seamless transition for me bc if I'm bothering to date a guy it's bc I want a relationship and we're just getting to know one another in the initial phases.

[linguistrosey]

Connection and companionship. Eventually children and a stable family

[AI Opinion]

On Girls Ask Guys, my aim is to help you navigate these love lanes, and I've got the perfect roadmap! 😎 Driving into the relationship stage is like treating yourself to a favorite dessert after a tantalizing appetizer. What you get is that scrumptious partnership, solidarity, and a bouquet of warm feelings sprinkled with mutual understanding. The comfort zone expands, trust busts through the roof, and you fall in love seeing a potential future. It's finding a person who gets you, ghost-free and full of green flags. That's the sweet spot! 🍰❤️

[DonaldDarko]

Nothing, I expect nothing. I don't think it will work out because reproduction is always the ulterior motive whether both parties recognize it or not. A women is going to want me to provide for her, protect her and anything related to that. She will never love me but instead the things I can do for her. That means that the relationship will never actually be. We might try to be lovers but we'll just end up co workers in the enterprise of reproduction. As long as that ulterior motive, that job is there to be done, as long as everything revolves around that any love or relationship etc is only secondary or non existent save in our own minds.

[Anonymous]

Nothing. That's why I'm not in one.

What would I like to get out of one Ideally? A best friend, a partner, a lover, someone who's got my back because I have thiers, some who's like minded who has the same wants and roughly the same goals, someone who has the same morals and values, someone with a sense humor, someone who compassionate, someone who is kind and has empathy for others. And since I know I have a better shot of getting struck by a meteor and struck by lightning on the same day. I'm just going to enjoy my single life.👍

[Nikki1989]

The deep human need for connection, to love and be loved, to experience intimacy and physical affection is the most obvious one.

[EmmaMary]

@Nikki1989

Well once again I cannot think of anything else to add to this. xxx

[EmmaMary]

@Glasses

Once again I can only reiterate what @Nikki1989 has posted.

[exitseven]

the real answer is you get out of it what you put into it.

[Emmytexrex]

We get loved for who we are and just being yourself yh that's just what everyone human wants to be loved

[Bklynbadboy12]

Well I how we vibe and how compatible we are that make me want to get into a relationship with then and what I get out of it is love and companionship

[Anonymous]

Memories, divorce, child support, and lost assets.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I'm getting them.

[Jeff51]

Good times and marriage

[CubaPirate]

Just tell it like it is

[Anonymous]

I've never been in a relationship.

[Anonymous]

Balance

[Anonymous]

Nothing