I find my boyfriend’s behavior weird, or am I just overthinking?

[Claireeeeexoxo]

I’m sorry my English is not very good. No hate please. Thank you.

Hello. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year, on and off. He’s funny, he’s cute, nice, understanding, and i honestly feel in love with him so hard.

Now I’m not sure if it’s because of the sudden long distance, or because of my anxiety, or because of his behavior, I often find myself urged to break up with him and leave forever. He makes me feel seen, yet so small and easy to crush. I noticed that he likes to be dominant and in control, and that he’s a misogynist and narcissist, but despite all that I love him. Sometimes he keeps telling stuff to do to him wish honestly i end up not wanting to do because it’s either inappropriate or disgusting (through the phone), but he gets mad and annoying and blames me for not loving him because I preferred not to do those things for him, which are videos, pictures, voice messages. U use your imagination.

So I’m confused! And we end up having big arguments over these things and he starts to threaten me to leave if I don’t do those things so that is this?

I find myself having a hard time moving on cause I think I’m sooo attached, I don’t think it’s love because he’s proven to me how he thinks differently than me in terms of gender quality cause we had a talk about that and he was hateful towards women. But I accepted him and accepted his opinions and honestly I’m always nice to him and always do things for him because I know they’d make him happy even tho they make me feel terrible and disgusted. He doesn’t do the same other than one thing. And even if I asked it’s all about nice couple stuff not crazy fantasies! Iykwim!

should I consider leaving him?

[Finchie40]

It sounds like you should leave him , especially if he is making you feel that way , Ypu should be with someone that is more on the same page as you. Or the both of you will continue butting heads and resenting each other more and more if you choose to stay , because you both aren’t on the same page with things , and you both do not really see eye to eye on things , unfortunately you will eventually realize that you are wasting your time thinking things will change , unfortunately they aren’t going to change He actually needs to be with a girl that likes to be submissive to him , that enjoys being submissive to him that is more equal to him. Just because you feel like you love somebody , it doesn’t mean you have to be with that somebody. Sometimes love isn’t enough , especially if you aren’t completely happy with someone that doesn’t really see eye to eye with you , Unfortunately your boyfriend is going to end up resenting you or you are going to eventually resent him , if you choose to stay , it will just be a matter of time before one of you walks the other way or chooses to hurt each other when one of you meets someone else that is more on the same page as yourself. . No relationship is perfect but being with someone that is more on the same page as you , is a lot better than being with someone that isn’t. A relationship should be 2 people that see eye to eye on most things. Unfortunately , I experienced this the long hard way thinking Love will save the Day , unfortunately love doesn’t save the day , if you both aren’t on the same page with things , So if you want to stay in a relationship where you are more miserable than happy , then stay in this relationship, but if you rather be more happy than miserable , end it and find someone more in common with you

[Purpleronnie]

Nah , your meant for each other … that’s why your having all these problems because it’s REAL love with respect support and kindness. 🤦🤦


honestly I don’t know what your struggling , in my opinion you sound so weak and he just sounds like a vile human with so little actual respect for you. If you stay with him clearly your some sort of massochist but maybe that fits 🤷‍♂️

[Screenwriter]

You're describing an abusive relationship. You should leave right away before you get in any deeper. he's shown who he really is and does not respect you or your needs and wants to control what you do FOR him.

I get no sense of what he does for you. So why are you with him? A relationship needs to be nearly even between two people. It sounds like you make all the compromises.

Get away from this man. Find someone who appreciates and cares for you.

This man is only concerned with himself and what he wants.

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach focused on supporting kindness, respect, and healthy love, your instincts to reconsider his actions make total sense. It's crucial that love makes you feel cherished, not uncomfortable or unworthy. His behavior is screaming red flags—dominance, misogyny, pressure for actions you don't want to partake in. You deserve respect and partnership without threats or manipulation. Prioritize your well-being, lovely. 💕 It might be time to step back. Trust your intuition and find someone who truly values and respects you. You totally got this! 🌟

[Avicenna]

if you aren’t happy and don’t like Joe you’re treated, don’t stick around

[SotiCoto]

You should consider cutting him into pieces, throwing the parts in a barrel, burning the contents, then burying them in a shallow grave and p1ssing on the remains.
Failing that... just report him to the police or something and get a restraining order.

[Arcadian222]

You are used to him. With long distance and his eccentricities, it will be even more difficult. Dont go cold turkey. Try to phase it out.

[Anonymous]

You're overthinking it.

[Anonymous]

yeah you are, dude

[Claireeeeexoxo]

but he asks me to do really weird stuff! sexual stuff yknow. through the phone! And if I say no he gets mad and threatens to leave me. He doesn’t care what I say or how I feel he just wants me to for hat he wants but then again I find it difficult to leave him because he’s given me support no one else did.