"My family isn't arranging my marriage, especially my father is creating obstacles. He doesn't let any relationship get settled, and I've turned 32?

[RabiaArshad]

He wants me to stay single forever.

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He rejected all my proposals on his own. From childhood he controlled everything about us , he doesn't allow us anything, we didn't even know tht getting married was our right. Whenever i talk about marriage he get angry and insulted me like if i said something wrong even after i turned 31.

[Finchie40]

You need to get away from your father as soon as possible , your father is a toxic son of a botch that you need to get away from period and to no longer take any of his shit period , My father was a selfish narcissistic POS , and getting away from him for as long as I did was the best decision I made
For myself , Now that I am older my Dad has been trying to make peace with me and apologized for his actions and behavior now that my Mom passed away , I accepted his apology but I still keep my distance from him because sadly I don’t trust him anymore

[RabiaArshad]

Can we talk in dm

[Finchie40]

Sure

[Berethor]

He sounds very controlling, and it's not that he fearing that you be used by your boyfriend as even a marriage is not good enough for him, he want you to be only his, and he don't even want grandchildren. 32 is pretty late age for getting married so you right to be worried.

[EmmaMary]

Bigger fool you for putting up with this... Why not try Growing Up and acting your age for once. smh

[EmmaMary]

I've just noticed a huge discrepancy in ages... You're saying you're 32 however your profile is showing you as being 28... So which is correct, if any?

[RabiaArshad]

Im 32 the profile isn't correct

[EmmaMary]

And quite honestly neither is any of this complete and utter Bollox.

[EmmaMary]

Thank you for the MHO.

[Nikki1989]

Why at the age of 32 are you even listening to what your parents have to say?

[RabiaArshad]

For childhood we were at home , we cannot make friends we cannot go outside we cannot party. And even we didn't realize our rights.
Marriage was our right

[EmmaMary]

@Nikki1989

Something is starting to smell of a big fat TROLL.

[RabiaArshad]

Im from Pakistan thats why you will think i am joking

[EmmaMary]

@RabiaArshad

So you're from Pakistan living in the USA? Also what is your correct age 28 (profile) or 32 as you're proclaiming to be?

[RabiaArshad]

32 .

[AI Opinion]

My aim on Girls Ask Guys is to help you navigate these tricky relationship waters! 😎 It sounds like your dad might be waving some big red flags. But let’s keep this on the bright side. Have a heart-to-heart with him and share how you feel. Sometimes parents just want us tucked under their wings forever! 🦅 Embrace your independence and remember, it’s your love story to write, not his! 🌟

[RabiaArshad]

I did my best to convince him but he doesn't move, he did same with my other siblings, my brother turned 32 abd sister 34 when they got married and how they got married it was full of struggle because he didn't allow them to get married.

[Desi_Butcher]

But why will your father not want to marry you? Especially in a Muslim household?

[RabiaArshad]

I dont know, he has so psychological issue.

[Desi_Butcher]

That makes sense. Only then a father would behave like that. You have siblings?

[RabiaArshad]

Yes he did same with other siblings. My brother and sister both got married at same time, when my brother was 32 and sister was around 34. And they got married because my brother took stand and shouted and did things that made my father fearful.

[Desi_Butcher]

Do you wanna DM? Else the conversation will get long here

[RabiaArshad]

Okay

[Prometheus89]

Come to menzil sect

[Avicenna]

Do you still live at home?

[RabiaArshad]

Can we talk in messages?

[msc545]

You are allowing him to do this. STOP ALLOWING IT.

[RabiaArshad]

How should i stop him? He has all control, i didn't even know about the proposals he rejected but he rejected , in Pakistan Parents are supposed to arrange marriage for kids without parents kids won't be able to get married

[Anonymous]

You can make your own decisions without your parents.

[RabiaArshad]

But here in Pakistan a girl cannot especially when it comes to marriage. And when a guy decided to marry any guy, the guy will not understand her and took stand for her and consider her characterless if she will go for marriage without parents involvement.

[Opinion Owner]

That's so sad :(

[MasterKS]

Fuck off your family and move on.

[RabiaArshad]

Where to move? This is Pakistan. Even if i decided to marry a guy he will question my character just because i will marry him without parents or i am telling him about my parents that they are doing such things

[MasterKS]

@RabiaArshad So your life is pakistan and islam? nothing above that?

[RabiaArshad]

@MasterKS we can talk in dm.

[slatyb]

Where are you?

[RabiaArshad]

Pakistan

[Anonymous]

Ask a lot, life can't be lived like that