Do narcissists always have a plan before the discard phase?

[Summeroflove]

Seems like most narcissists before they discard someone they always have a backup. They know who they’re moving on to….. Maybe someone they’re cheating on or playing the victim to about how bad their current man or woman is…

The narcissist may lie to someone and say. Well I just need to focus on myself…. keeping you attached in case things don’t work out. Taking a “break” just to find they are with someone else the whole time. They may even say you just aren’t good enough for me and keep you trying to please someone who can never be pleased.

Be it a boyfriend. Girlfriend. Wife or husband etc. They know who they’re moving on to long before they officially leave you.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, dealing with a narcissist is like a dance where only they know the steps, right? 🎭 Yeah, they often have a plan before the discard phase—an understudy waiting in the wings, so to speak. Their goal is to keep you on your toes, confused, and still emotionally invested while they explore other options. It's all about control and manipulating emotions. Things like lovebombing or ghosting aren't off their playbook. Remember, it's not about you—it's their game. Stay strong and keep your eyes peeled for those red flags! 💃✨

[Nikki1989]

Nah, the final moment of the discard itself can be sudden and impulsive, but it's rarely completely without a precursor.

[Summeroflove]

It can be you’re right it depends on the narcissists. But it does seem most of them plan everything out before they discard someone. It’s a slow process but they figure out who they want to move on to and make sure there is a plan before leaving.

Someone who has love and respect. A breakups hard. Moving on takes some time. They aren’t cheating with someone for sometimes YEARS and then one day leave for them