What do you do when you're a woman that can't seem to get the past the fact that you've slept with another woman?

[Anonymous]

Now let me be clear. This doesn't mean CHEAT. I'm her first but she is not mine. I've told her I'm sorry but I never even knew her back then. If there was a way for me to go back and erase it I would but I can't. But I do want her to be my last.

Is she unreasonable? Or am I not being understanding enough? I don't know what else I can tell her. I kind of feel like this is battle she's fighting with herself.

[DonaldDarko]

It's definitely not normal for a woman to have "sex" with another woman or even want to. She wouldn't be doing that if there wasn't something wrong with her sexuality. Maybe if she was some ghetto slob, second cousin to an animal who did it in prison but that would be even worse. The source of her anxiety is probably a sexual attraction to women. She wants to function like a normal healthy woman would but she can't. It's just like a lot of people with issues like this. People in wheel chairs want to walk but they can't. At least in their case medical science is trying to find a way to help them.

[Asker]

I think you misunderstood the question. I probably should've phrased it better. She didn't sleep with other women. I have. She has not slept with anyone but me.

[DonaldDarko]

I'm glad to hear that anyway.

[Clear_Skies10]

I was chatting with a woman right here on GaG years ago. She was a virgin, and she told me that it really bothered her that I was married. She would ask me questions, then get jealous whenever I mentioned that I did that with my ex. I feel like your situation may be similar. Just don't ever mention that other woman if you can help it.

[Asker]

That's good advice.😂👍

[Nikki1989]

Why is a 45+ year old man talking like an immature child.

Grow up already.

[Anonymous]

I don't think it would be that big of a deal.

[Asker]

I don't think it should be.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, love and its intricate dance, right? Relationships can sometimes feel like an emotional rollercoaster. First off, kudos for wanting to reassure her. Her feelings might be swirling with insecurity or fear, which might be making her mind do cartwheels about your past. Just be her rock, remind her how much she means to you, and how she's writing a new chapter with you now. Trust and compassion are the ultimate power couple here. Keep being patient, and enjoy the journey of staying fabulous together! 🌟💕

[OneViewpoint]

She's an idiot. You're 45+ according to your avatar. What guy your age has never been with even one woman? Stop worrying about it and tell her to get over it or get lost. And tell her to get some mental health help.

[Asker]

Well she's 15 years younger than me. But most women have been with at least one man by then as well. She's not an idiot. She's actually very sweet. But like I told another poster here, I think She's just idealizing love. I wad kind of this way when I was younger well. Her lack of history I think is making her thin she finds the right guy and everything falls into place. And of course I want to be that for her. But the fact that I've been with other women tarnishes that for her.

[Plugs]

Stop going for women that young. They wouldn’t want to settle for u

[Anonymous]

Let her loose her virginity to a someone else. So then u guys will be more compatible

[Asker]

That is silly. That's not going to fix anything. Would you be down with letting your partner do that? Of course not.

[Opinion Owner]

How old are u both

[Opinion Owner]

U either do that , or she leaves u after sex. As a virgin I would not wanna settle for someone who is not like me

[WhitneySnow]

She’s being unreasonable. Not your fault.

[Asker]

So is there anything I can say?

[WhitneySnow]

I’m not sure. I’ve never known a woman who felt the way she does.

[Asker]

I've never known one in real life. At least not at her age. I've seen a few of them on here so I know others exist.

[Plugs]

How old are u both

[WhitneySnow]

@Plugs nineteen. And I’ve known plenty of girls who were their bf’s first when he wasn’t theirs. None of them freaked out about it.

[slatyb]

I leave her and find another woman.