Why would my boyfriend dumped me for gaining 70 pounds?

[Anonymous]

I was very thin and used to model. I was 118lbs when I met my boyfriend and we’ve been together for two years. I started putting on weight and he likes me with more weight on me but when ballooned up to 70lbs. He started being resentful, doesn’t want to touch me and we haven’t had sex for a couple weeks. He said I needed to watch my weight and if I don’t care enough to care about my weight or be lazy and fat, he’ll break up with me. I’ve been trying but it’s so hard and I don’t like exercise! Plus skinny, thin and slim are SO overrated! How about thick or big girls?

I went from 118lbs to 188lbs. And I’m 5’5. My boyfriend is still fit and 5’11.
He dumped me yesterday and I ended up moving back with my parents after that hard, terrible break up.
I thought size didn’t matter. Plus I was tired of being skinny! I have been wanting to put on weight for years but I didn’t think I would go this far.

Updates

9 mo

He found me or hotter when I was like 125-130lbs.

[OneViewpoint]

Well, your boyfriend signed up when you were 118 lbs. You eventually went up to 125-130 and he acknowledged that was a healthier weight and a better look for you. Then you kept going until you hit 188. That's a BMI above 30...31.3 to be exact... obese.

He didn't sign up for an obese girlfriend. You've talked about it. You ignored his opinion and kept going. You don't like to exercise and you don't want to control your food intake. That is certainly your right. And it's his right to change his mind about being with someone who has changed substantially to the point he no longer finds you attractive or desirable.

What did you think was gonna happen?

[InsecureLivesMatter]

A real couple has sex every week. Even if it’s not “P in the V” or oral style…it’s still some form of intimacy that makes him hard. He never loved you, but you also ate toxic foods he probably didn’t want you to eat. The holistic health community is becoming smarter than ever. Even LIZZO is losing weight at the gym.

[Asker]

Okay that was harsh but I guess you’re right. I can eat what I want but he decided to break up with me?

[Anonymous]

Now you're the size of you plus, well, a good-sized 10-year-old. What's not to dump?

[Mariogirl09]

He likes skinny stick women. But I bet you look hotter now

[Asker]

I look so much better than when I was skinny. You’d be surprised that former stick thin women HATED it and wants to gain weight.

[AI Opinion]

As someone who loves sharing wisdom about love and relationships, let me share this: Breaking up over weight gain, while painful, might reveal deeper issues. 🚩 It's not just about your body but love, respect, and acceptance. A partner who can't embrace you, curve and all, might not be the one. It's time to celebrate you and your wonderful heart, embracing every inch of yourself. 🌟 Desiring someone who loves your vibrant spirit over mere appearance is key. You're beautiful just the way you are, my lovely! Sending positive vibes and cheering you on from sunny California! ☀️💙

[Miristheiss]

Dating is not a LIFETIME COMMITMENT, if you change the dynamic, if you pull a bait and switch. Most guys aren't attracted to fat women.

[es20490446e]

I personally tend to avoid overweight women because it can be a signal of poor emotional self regulation.

[In_Trance]

Size matters.

And when you put that much weight on, it's a sign your not managing your life well

[Asker]

Wow…. seriously? No wonder women that stayed slim get relationships. One of my aunties told me I didn’t care about my health or body because I’m too fat and lazy to take care of my boys and I always put junk or whatever I want in my mouth and a real woman cares about her health and life. She told me I’m doing a crappy job because I for the reasons she said and that’s why my boyfriend left me because I am not managing my life well and I let myself go and gotten so fat. I’m not woman enough to admit that I screwed up and I don’t give a fuck about my own body and I just put whatever in my mouth and I don’t care.
Wow……that was so harsh of what my aunt said to me.

[Ariesman81]

Truth hurts sometimes

[Anonymous]

He probably considers you overweight.

[Asker]

I’m not overweight. I’m thick and fabulous

[jahaims]

Delusional