Do you ever keep how you feel from your spouse?

[Anonymous]

I've been struggling with my fertility and im been very upset about not being pregnant yet and I just cry when he not around and I don't know how to talk to him about it because he wants to be a dad so bad and I feel like im failing as a wife and a woman for not being able to do this

[ohsheeT]

One if the best things about a relationship is you got together because you love each other and you believe in each other. That means you dont have to go through things alone any more. No matter what it is. If you work together. You get better answers. Faster... but if you keep it from him. He's going to look at it when he finds out and he's going to be more mad. That you were trying to hide if from him. And that means he's going to look at it like what else are you hiding from me. He going to think you dont believe in him and it just puts or of a strain on the relationship that doesn't need to happen like that

O k so I don't know if you're gonna understand this or not

Have you ever played sports? Have you ever been really good at something? And there's been moments and times where you've had to get into this zone. Where everything is just perfect. Everything just flows perfectly

There's a high that you get from that.
It's called frequency. You are zoom in alone frequency. Everything has a frequency that's Earth, God. When we were born, we all came here with God's frequency. It's beautiful. It is where we're all supposed to be. but through. The way we were raised if we don't believe in our friends drama. Just everything else in life. It's we're not at that peak performance. Anyou, are you gotta find that zone? And the only way to find that zone is to become happy. To tell yourself acknowledge it. Everything is gonna be OK, we're gonna have a baby and you have to get your husband on board. So it is frequency shoots up higher.
And things should start going better for you

This is just a small hole back. That's all there's a reason for it. There's something that you don't know yet and you need to figure it out when you figure it out you acknowledge it. Things will get better and everything will flow again

But don't set yourself back. Don't set your husband back by hiding something or keeping something. From him. Is both your child. He wants to be a part of this. So don't make him feel like he's can't do anything about it or that he's gonna be an ogreboth of you. Deal with it together and it will work out way faster. Way better and then you will find out the real reason why you're in this predicament right now. But believe me, anything in this world can be fixed. You just have to be in the right frequency. The right frame of mind the right heart and you need to smile and be happy.
Then with you, you need your best friend with you.

And if he starts getting cranky, put your hand app and say time out this is what I didn't want. I don't need to be anymore stressed.
You can do this on my own. Why did I bring you into? That's it because I want your help. I want your heart. I want your love and understanding now back to f*** off LOL. Find that zone , it will all work out

[Orion84]

I think you should talk to him.

That's not the type of thing you should be struggling with by yourself. It's just going to eat you up inside. You're not a failure, either as a wife, or a woman, just because you're having trouble conceiving.

Most men would rather have a happy wife, then children, and despite the fact that he does want them, I very much doubt that he'd want you to be suffering in silence over this.

You have a partner. You're married. This is something the two of you should be going through together, so you can support each other. If he knew you were this upset, but keeping it from him, it would break his heart. Give him the chance to support you.

[beenherebefore]

Not really. The beauty of marriage is that you get to team up with your Partner in everything life throws at you, I'm sure you married him because he's a great guy so it shouldn't be an issue for you to sit with him and be vulnerable. Share with him what you're going through I'm sure he'll make you feel safe and relate to what you're going through he's probably not aware if you don't tell him. Be as clear as you can let him see your pain and share all your thoughts and emotions. He's your Husband not some guy you're just dating sitting with him and talking about serious stuff shouldn't be this complicated. You can do it. Wishing you the best of luck.

[2_beHappy]

Tbh... I can understand your way of thinking , and why it makes you feel as If you re failing, but If we re looking at it from a logical view, it s not something IT really depends on you, and there are always other ways, especially our era, of havinf children

Regarding your question, I don t think someone should really tell all their feelings and thoughts to someone else, just because it s their spouse, sometimes you just want to think for yourself... but other times there s always a chance of easing your heart by telling someone and find a solution together

[AI Opinion]

Ooof, that's a heavy heart you're carrying, love. My aim here is to help you navigate this emotional rollercoaster with a sprinkle of humor and a dash of empathy. Remember, you're not alone in this. Your hubby's in the same boat, eager to be by your side. Share your feelings with him—it could strengthen your bond, not break it. Emotions are like glitter: they tend to spread whether you want them to or not! 🥰 Open up whenever you're ready, and sprinkle that glitter!

[Fireguy17]

Quite often.

After a bad call, or a close call I try to put up a good front, or stay at the station and tell her I have paperwork to do. She can kind of tell that something is wrong, but I told her early on the I can tell you, but I can't untell you. Meaning don't ask, you won't like the answer. She won't ask.

It took a while for me to call and tell her that I was injured on a call last year.

I ended up in the hospital with a broken leg.

And it was about 10 days before we were leaving on a trip to Iceland, Denmark and Norway with her niece and her husband.

Fortunately I was able to go, wasn't fast, hurt like a bithch, but I gimped it out and never told her how I really felt.

A few times I used the excuse that I was tired and needed to rest.

[lightbulb27]

who says the issue is on your side. sometimes it's defective sperm. sometimes it's timing. sometimes it's stress. who knows...

I'd spend time praying rather than holding in the stress and frustration and maybe seeking support. That's more effective, yes?

[Curious_Wife]

This is a difficult situation, but in my opinion, it is almost ALWAYS best to talk through whatever issues you are dealing with.

The whole point of a relationship is to be open and honest with each other... no matter what.

It's not YOUR fault if you are struggling with fertility and if you both truly love each other, he will understand and explore any and all other options available (there are lots out there nowadays).

Definitely do NOT blame yourself and I encourage you to talk to your husband openly and honestly and tell him exactly how you feel.

[BadApple69]

You know when you try your hardest to get pregnant it won’t happen. Chill…. When you are stressed the body does everything it can to keep you from getting pregnant. This is a primitive mind thing. Think about when we were cave dwellers, if the women was stressed it was because of unsafe living conditions, predators or warring factions…. Basically the stress tells the body that it’s an unsafe time to bring a baby into this world. So you need to chill. Relax and don’t stress over it. It’ll happen.

[Purpleronnie]

Nope , I don’t hide. I deal with problems head on , breaking down those that seem huge , that others may feel unbearable , into manageable pieces.


Your emotional distress is obvious but it’s not helping you nor your relationship with your husband. You both need to communicate and explore any reasons that your unable to conceive at the moment , it takes 2 to make a baby , and 2 to keep the relationship going.


Good luck 🍀!

[EmmaMary]

Neither my husband or I can ever "hide" anything from each other... We always seem to know when something is worrying or troubling each other... Thankfully we do have excellent communication between ourselves.

[mysteriousNicholas]

Thankfully I don't have a spouse and while sympathetic lady, I for one don't have interest for producing offspring. Environment and world population, other factors, finances - I'm better alone and I give back to community charitably.

[Agape93]

Nope, I just don't advertise it or I'll fake it to make them feel comfortable. What makes someone comfortable, an empty canvas or a canvas one painted on?

[dustybiker2]

Never. I share every little life thing as that keeps bond solid. Just the fun stuff is kept surprise as mystery is good.

[Amy2004]

Talk to him about it. A relationship should have communication and I think you will feel better.

[DonaldDarko]

I think you seek genetic immortality through your offspring. Selfish genes demand to reproduce. Women are typically more aware of this than men are.

[exitseven]

I do it all the time. I was brought up to not show my feelings. I just keep up this brave face.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry to say but you shouldn't be marrying someone if you don't even know how to communicate with them.

And people wonder why relationships fail today.

[Nikki1989]

No, we discuss everything that is actually important.

[Staximus]

Did you see a fertility specialist? Maybe his sperm don't swim or something, don't blame yourself for stuff that is out of your control

[Staximus]

Get one of those ovulation apps and follow the instructions to track your ovulation so you know the right time to do the deed

[Asker]

I won't have a period for 2 to 3 months in a row then will start it again dr doesn't know why so apps don't really do me any good

[Staximus]

How much do you weigh?

[Staximus]

Have you been checked for anemia?

[BeenThereLovedIt]

If I was honest with my wife, she'd probably kill herself. Some things are best left unsaid.

[SolitarySolace]

Who remembers when women committed marital subversion in the 2024 presidential election in favor of Kamala Harris?

[es20490446e]

Talk about it the amount that feels comfortable.

[Anonymous]

No, we are able to express our feelings with ease, and he's incredibly intuitive.

[Sal_Monella]

Yes. Not necessary to lay all my shit on her.

[qwerty2469]

Yeah only always. Im married to a woman. They dont care how anyone feels.

[Anonymous]

sandman731 is this you? Sounds like your situation minus a spouse lol

[Opinion Owner]

@sandman731 is that u lol 😆

[Anonymous]

Often. Sometimes you know it’s not worth hurting them when you still intend to be with them

[elizamichale1]

Not really i usually tell him everything

[Anonymous]

That's the emotionally healthy way.

[Anonymous]

Just that he's small down there

[Anonymous]

From my spouse, yes. From my mistress, no.

[Anonymous]

I don't have a spouse.

[Anonymous]

Go fuck yourself

[occulus]

Yess