What is your relationship "ick"?

Question

In a relationship, "the ick" refers to a sudden, overwhelming feeling of disgust or repulsion towards someone you were once attracted to, often triggered by a minor, mundane, or even irrational action or trait. This feeling can cause you to lose attraction and may signal the end of the relationship.

exitseven · Accepted Answer

Okay- I was in a relationship for 4 years. the last 3 were long distance. This was before email and video chat. Phone calls were very expensive too. We wrote letter to each other. Still we stayed together and we even talked about marriage. There was a lot wrong with this relationship, I did not think that she put much effort into it. Wesaw each other 2 or 3 times a year. most of the time I was the one that went 1500 miles to see her.

Once I flew out to see her. She shows up at the airport wearing a hoodie that was covered with plaster dust. Her hair was in some weird perm and combed to one side. She told me that she almost forgot to pick me up. Usually when she would come out to see me i could not think of anything else for days. She almost forgot me.

When people are dating they are usually on their best behavior. I wondered what she would be like if we got married. All of a sudden I did not see her the same way. Whatever I felt for her seemed to be gone. I tried not to think about it but about 3 or 4 months later I called her on the phone one Saturday night and broke up with her over the phone.

Telekinetic-Potato · Accepted Answer

No sense of adventure, no life experience. Lives life too safe. Not intelligent.

Like if I have suggested 3 activities and she's afraid to do them, I have to separate myself and seriously question if I'm about to make a rash decision. Lol

Then if I ask her why not and her opinions on them aren't accurate, I'll try to explain, if she doesn't believe me not I not only feel disrespected but I also feel like this person will always have unrealistic expectations. And I also think she's a little stupid because what even made you think this was going to work? Which makes me feel insulted again for being lied to.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

I watched a pastor on youtube for so long, that I loved them as if they were one of my best friends, but then they made a video supporting Donald Trump, and I had no choice but to delete them from my subscription list. I was sad to block them forever online but Jesus says you have to love God enough to reject your own family if they hate God.

Flower7 · Accepted Answer

When I find out I wasn’t their first choice, like when I used to work at a restaurant and one of the customers asked me out. I dated him for a short time but then I found out he’d asked out one of my coworkers first. After that, I never felt quite the same about him. I stopped seeing him soon after that.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Hey there, you're talking my language! 😄 As the resident relationship guru here, my personal "ick" is when communication takes a backseat. You know, those times when your partner just... stops talking about feelings, dreams, or even how their day went. It might seem minor, but it can pile up faster than laundry! Let’s just say a lack of chatter can make love wither quicker than an unwatered plant! 🌿💕

Finchie40 · Answer

I can’t stand selfish girls that expect you to do for them , but they don’t do for you , that do not follow boundaries that you both agreed upon together , once I sense she is clearly selfish , I dump her ass immediately

HawkPerception · Answer

If they say I'm annoying, it really ticks me off and I don't want to be around or talk to them for a while

nawtee_me · Answer

If you are not willing to work through the “ick” then you are clearly not ready for a relationship. Relationships take lots of work on both peoples parts.
Unless you have just jumped into a relationship on the rebound of leaving one then you should have gotten to know the real person for some time before starting the relationship. How do you think fifty plus years of marriage happen if both parties weren’t willing to work through issues? Talk about them instead of stressing about them. Be willing to meet them halfway because it is a give and take relationship.

silvermoon84 · Answer

No job, criminal record (traffic violations and minor misdemeanors being the exceptions), substance use problems, abusing animals, treating other people like crap and making fun of people with disabilities

CherryLove007 · Answer

Snoring  Its hard to get help for this and cure it maybe they have sometime new now? Tried a chin strap and it did not work for him.

DonaldDarko · Answer

Women act like children who need caring for. A man seems almost like a substitute for a father, certainly when things go wrong. I don't want an adult size child to take care of.

leatherinlace · Answer

I dated a woman in my early 20s who lived in a nice apartment building but her apartment was a bit of a messy. My ick moment was going to use the bathroom and seeing a used tampon on the bathroom floor.

Anonymous · Answer

Referring To Your Girlfriend/Wife, Boyfriend/Husband Is “Ick”… You’re Downgrading The Status They Worked Hard For To “Partner”, You’re Not Business Partners… You’re In A Relationship Or Married, We Work Hard To Become Boyfriend Or Girlfriend And Hopefully Someday Husband Or Wife, And You Downgrade To “Partner”?

Anonymous · Answer

When she tells me she's a single mom. It's even worse if she says she has say 3 kids by three different dads. It shows a consistent pattern of poor choices on her part and tells me that she's not worthy of marriage. Instant deal breaker.

aceleon · Answer

everything related to bathroom. feminism eating things i found disgusting trying to joke it off while i am pissed off?

dwreborn · Answer

I would think it would have to be more then 1 ick to make me feel disgust towards partner unless being unfaithful counts

RavVid · Answer

I think it would be practiced charm and niceness. If I saw that I would run for the hills.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Never had one in the 16 years plus years of being together.

PlanZ6 · Answer

Bad hygiene having to ask someone to brush their teeth.

Slim57 · Answer

When someone alters their appearance after being years together and knowing what the other person is and isn't attracted to or obviously cheating

Anuakshay · Answer

Smoking, eating beef and being sooo picky on food. And being so serious or silent.

Anonymous · Answer

when her only arguments are emotional arguments

Anonymous · Answer

A man who gets mad that we don’t have sex every day

stayorgo · Answer

Stop. With that, isn't that a new thing? Just stop with that JUST STOP JUST STOP WITH THAT . You damn women are not a walk in the park either

Anonymous · Answer

I would never have a relationship with a woman who is patriarchal (passive/submissive and religious).

linguistrosey · Answer

Apathy and lack of enthusiasm. Also constant criticism

red_knight · Answer

When women use silent treatment as a punishment mechanism

Roula80 · Answer

Them Not Having friends outside of our relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

Good question You mean my own exact relationship?  In my case my wife has put on weight  But not only that, she seems kind of butch  Not petite, not gentle, not feminine

slatyb · Answer

Someone expresses admiration for Trump.

valentina4eva · Answer

when he’s whiney or insecure😵😵

bobalife · Answer

Easily default:  ⚠️ lies ❌

lightbulb27 · Answer

bad language.  odd emotions.

BeenThereLovedIt · Answer

the word relationship is my ick

Drumlin2001 · Answer

If she uses the phrase "ick". It's a real turn off

Sceprent · Answer

Grown women saying ick.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Any kind of bitterness.

ariadneR · Answer

No drive. No ambition.

Kenkebuttery · Answer

Not liking Anime

jahaims · Answer

That only happens to immature unstable people

SoccerPlayer99 · Answer

What are you, 13? lol

Meatballs · Answer

My last and final situationship I was in

LiamJHayden · Answer

Can't think of one.

dougeats · Answer

Chewing food while smacking her lips

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Disrespectful and arguing.

qwerty2469 · Answer

Chick wit a dick. The Ick.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't have a relationship ick.

Grond21 · Answer

Usury

Smegskull · Answer

hypocrisy

Anonymous · Answer

Pegging

adenniz · Answer

Being a easy guy

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