Is it normal to still want to be with someone who doesn't want kids?

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend doesn't want kids. I've thought about it, and being with her is more important than me than having kids.

[Finchie40]

Yes , only if you are ok with it as well, but it’s not ok if you actually want kids’ So really ask yourself are you ok with not having kids’ of your own? Don’t just agree with her to appease her , I don’t care how great she is in bed or how beautiful she is to your eyes , if you want kids’ of your own , then she isn’t the girl for you. I have witnessed so many guys’ falling for a girl that eventually said she didn’t want kids’ and he just settles with her to appease her when prior to dating her , he always said he wanted kids’ but now all of a sudden he doesn’t? So don’t put yourself in that situation if you want kids’ man, there are plenty of girls’ out there that want kids’ , so don’t waste your time on someone that doesn’t see eye to eye with you , if you always wanted to have kids’ of your own , trust me you will regret it one day , especially if you and her don’t make it the long haul , you will kick yourself in the ass for staying with her. This is why topics like this should be discussed prior to getting into a committed relationship with each other. Never assume someone wants the same things you want. When I meet a new girl that I am interested in and I feel her and I are going to get serious , I immediately will tell her what I want out of a relationship before getting into one with her , never assume you know someone , because you don’t. Most of us guys’ easily get pussy whipped and are infatuated with the girl without really getting to know her. So it’s best to discuss things as soon as possible before committing to someone , Why I no longer rush into relationships with girls’ I only do FWB’s with some strings attached to give her and I time to really get to know each other before making the big decision to be committed to each other. Once I feel things getting serious between us , I am an open book and will tell her everything about me and what I want out of a relationship, to give her time to really think if she wants to be with me or not. Me personally doesn’t want kids’ because I already had kids’ and I am now fixed , I will tell her the truth immediately that o don’t want kids’ and if she does , then I am not the guy for her. Honesty is the best thing to do , if you want a long lasting happy relationship with someone. Never change who you are to appease anyone. You will regret it one day when she decides to break up with you and she goes and gets knocked up by some other guy , which will make you feel worse knowing she didn’t want babies with you , she just liked the convenience of you. I’m not saying that’s going to happen , but unfortunately it can happen and does happen , so stand your ground man and don’t change to appease her whatsoever, if you want babies, find a girl that does instead

[Berethor]

It not normal, it should be a dealbreaker, unless you believe that you can change her mind.

[Vevv123]

There’s a possibility you will probably end up feeling a bit resentful and she might end up feeling a bit guilty in the future. There’s really is no way to compromise on kids, because there’s no in between decision and kids should always come into a loving family that is fully committed to them. So it’s either you stay with her and fully understand that this is the final decision and you won’t have kids or you finish the relationship. But you can always ask her what her reason is for not wanting kids too, maybe you can change her mind. However resentfulness is something you go through once you’ve been with someone for a long time, time passes, and you realize you won’t have kids with them. So it’s something you should be emotionally prepared for.

[HollyK21]

It’s normal, because at the end of the day nothing is wrong with your relationship in general, you just don’t agree on something that in my opinion is pretty substantial. If you really want to sacrifice parenthood for this relationship then do you, but I strongly advise you make peace with that decision now and not turn it into a problem sometime down the road, as people so often do.

[Asker]

Yeah, I gave it some real thought and came to the conclusion that breaking it off with her would be the thing I'd really regret.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on Girls Ask Guys is to guide lovebirds through the tricky maze of relationships! Your feelings are totally valid, my friend. Love can make us prioritize what truly matters to us. If a life with her outweighs your desire for kiddos, then you're following your heart's compass. Just ensure this is what you truly want, and remember to communicate and keep the relationship as cozy as a big loveblanket. Who needs kids when you have love? 🥰

[beenherebefore]

That's quite common if you have a strong bond and feelings for them.

[Asker]

We do have a strong bond, she was worried I was gonna break it off, but I told her I still wanted to be with her. She asked if I loved her that much and I said yes, then she kissed me.

[Nikki1989]

The desire to stay is not irrational; it's a reflection of how much you value the person and the bond you share.

[MemeSupreme]

yeah you dont have to do whats expected

do what you wanna do

[jahaims]

You shouldn't have kids if it isn't that important to you anyways. If you are okay either way then you shouldn't have them.

[bunniesrcute]

i dont see a problem?

[MasterKS]

@bunniesrcute right one!

[Anonymous]

Sure, if you like the girl, go for it.