Why do people find it so difficult to be alone?

[aaron13547]

I know so many people that just jump from one relationship to another. So many people think they need a girlfriend or boyfriend to be happy. People that get married and before the divorce is final they are looking to get married again. Like I understand that people crave companionship and want to be accepted. But for me when a relationship ends I just want to focus on myself... Love is selfish, we love another person because all of the good things they do for us. So why don't we love ourselves enough to find a way to be happy alone before we go looking for it elsewhere? When a relationship ends for me I feel like it ended because who I am is different from who that person wanted me to be and it causes us both suffering. If being in a relationship caused pain why is a persons first priority after losing loving to try to find more? I understand to have more good things you have to also have bad things. But why so fast is my real question here?

[Genie23]

I feel it's because they are very lonely and have self-esteem issues. Being on their own probably scares them and maybe they even got abandoned as a child. So, now they just want constant company even if that means jumping from one relationship to another.

What they don't understand is you gotta give yourself some time to do introspection. Reflect on things, heal and bring some changes in yourself. Every bad experiences and failure teaches us some things. It will help you become a better person and better partner in future, but those who don't allow themselves to heal... sadly, making mistakes after mistakes.

[AvaRay]

I think a lot of people are scared of the silence when they’re alone..

They confuse being single with being lonely. Maybe that’s why they rush. For me, I believe happiness should start from within..

If you can sit with yourself and still feel at peace, you won’t jump into something just to fill the gap.. 😊

[dwreborn]

I know for me i dont want my marriage to end it needs work but it can be fixed if we both put in the effort but if not i would really just miss the companionship just knowing i can look over and she is there after 25 years its something iam really gonna miss but i do know i can't jump right back into another relationship cause its just gonna be 2 breakups to heal from instead if you dont heal the first one

[dwreborn]

I know for a fact that if my marriage is over that iam not dating again for a while if ever this one is going to take a long time to heal from cause it seems like we are quitting without really trying anything to fix it

[Anonymous]

I got used to be alone, it's not a problem for me.

No girl ever wanted me (or at least - no girl that I liked), so I never had a relationship.

[aaron13547]

I understand what you are saying but I don't think it's as easy for people that have had love before to accept that idea... its easy not to want to smoke a cigarette if your not addicted to nicotine. Thanks for the input but I want to know why people addicted to loving others aren't able to love themselves first.

[Opinion Owner]

Indeed, I think you're right, it's more difficult for them.
You're welcome.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for the MHO

[AI Opinion]

Ah, you've hit on something as tantalizing as the latest rom-com! You see, many people jump back into the dating world quicker than a romaine lettuce on a bunny farm because they're scared of being alone. It's like the dreaded Friday night with no plans. Being with someone can validate us, smooth our edges, and fill that void (even if it sounds a bit mushy).

Also, a little dose of lovebird action can make those "self-love" moments more appealing. Falling in love with yourself first? Priceless! Although sometimes fear trumps that good stuff. So, cozy up with some self-love before diving into another whirlwind romance. You're not a puzzle missing a piece, rather a fabulous masterpiece all on your own! ❤️

[beenherebefore]

Because humans are meant to socialize not to live in isolation.

[jahaims]

People who can't be alone hate themselves