What is worse: A person choosing to run away from you because they don't love you or run away because their feelings for you scare them?

[thegreenyogi]

[aaron13547]

To Scare them is worse if you ask me. When someone says something like you are to good for me to love you. Like what is that? Saying I should be bad to feel something good like love. That makes no sense to me. For someone to say I'm to much of anything would be more a problem for me because it makes me feel like a problem for being to much. Even if that something was something bad instead of something good. The problem is still me. If they just don't love me so what I love myself and thats all that matters. That scare thing would make me second guess myself and thats why I say it's worse

[thegreenyogi]

I can see your point because initially that is what I would think too.

[aaron13547]

That's what makes us scary I suppose we aren't afraid to be wrong and make ourselves better. Maybe for Halloween this year we should be "good" and just scare the crap out of everyone. 😉

[thegreenyogi]

Lol!! That would be fun!!

[OneViewpoint]

What's the difference? The outcome is the same. Does the reason matter? Both are not reliable. Both can't face unpleasant realities in life. Is either person someone you want to be involved with? That is the important question.

[thegreenyogi]

I would say that the answer to that question is NO. I can't be with someone who doesn't love me and I can't be with someone who is afraid to love me openly.

[OneViewpoint]

Another great tool in life. Like saying NO. Learning to let go of people and things that are not good for you. A lot of people struggle with it. It may suck in the moment but, dealing with it and moving on is usually better than allowing it to go on endlessly.

[thegreenyogi]

Yes saying no to nonsense is probably one of the hardest things I have had to learn to do but it's such a super power that it's something I can't live without.

[AI Opinion]

Let me sprinkle a little relationship wisdom here! As a relationship coach, I see both scenarios as pretty challenging. But when someone runs away because their feelings scare them, it can be like catching a ghost – hard to grasp and understand! If they truly care, there's potential for healing.🕵️‍♂️ On the other hand, if they run because they don't love you, it's a clear sign to move on and find someone who's really into you. Remember, love should feel more like a comfy sweater than a spooky ghost! 👻💖

[HawkPerception]

I'm going to say the latter, because it's sad. Someone running away from you because they don't love you saves you time and effort spent on them. The less time you spend on those who don't value you, the better.

But someone running away from you because they're scared of falling because they love you that much? Now that's tragic. It could end up in a beautiful love story but they chose to prevent that from happening.

[Finchie40]

I’d say the second one is worse , I would run the other way as well if her feelings for me made her scared , she would scare the shit out of me 😂

[PizzaDaddyo]

At first, person running away because they don’t love you is absolutely devastating yet closure for the long run. In this case; you know they don’t want you now or anymore.


As opposed to them running bc they are basically afraid to love you? This sucks the most and even more because both of you in the relationship didn’t communicate and reciprocate properly. This could happen to anyone At any time, You could fall in love with somebody that due to specific boundaries you know you shouldn’t Therefore, you don’t communicate and walk away and it eventually dies. Now it’s not like we actually fall in love with everyone we find attractive, but the more you see somebody that you’re attractive to, especially when you know you can’t have them Kind of makes us do this towards someone every day. Some are surely more mild than others, but when you have a deeper attraction to someone and you know that it either won’t work or it’s just even your insecurity telling yourself that it would ruin everything is Way worse than somebody running away from you that doesn’t love you because at least you can get over the fact that they don’t like you compare to someone running away when they love you but can’t express. It is way worse because you never knew and you don’t know why their insecure or what’s holding them back.


Ultimately people just need to communicate way better and tell One another, a reflection of feeling. This was an awesome question because it’s so easy for people to run away. It’s terrible people are so afraid to hurt other peoples feelings when at the end of the day it hurts your own feelings, more and other people when you run away instead we should just face the facts and deal with it and communicate better even when it hurts it will Help both parties at the communication was clear and we didn’t run from our feelings or loved ones. Everyone deserves to be heard.

[petitedollbabee]

Their feelings scaring them. I can respect someone leaving me because they don’t love me, that way they’re not wasting more of my time and they’re responsible and mature enough to know that they don’t love me.
Someone running away because their feelings scare them, that shows nothing more than emotional immaturity and that they play mind games.

[Zack-Bann]

Splitting hairs at that point
Both are not fun feelings


But somehow “running away because her feelings scare her” is flattering at least


Still I an not a child and don’t date children
As adults we shouldn’t be so afraid of feelings

[dwreborn]

This is tough because my wife says she has lost those feelings but at times i think she is afraid to trust me again or she just dont want to feel them feelings again its strange how much she has changed in 2 months

[AvaRay]

I think it’s harder when someone runs away because their feelings scare them..

It shows there’s depth and emotion, but also fear..

It’s a delicate balance, sometimes admiration or attraction can be intimidating if it’s genuine.. 😊

[AgentG111]

I believe the later of the feelings scare them.

If they don't love you/me then please be gone and don't waste my time and energy. If they are scared then talk to me or the person it involves, is it mutual or not.

[Agape93]

Their feelings scaring them. Cowardice isn't attractive to me.

[msc545]

I think if they don't love you that all hope is gone. If they're feelings for you, we're still there. Even if they aren't coping with them well or you aren't, at least there's a chance.

[Shiprex]

If they're scared of their feelings for me then I'm sad for them.

[Staximus]

Definitelyunning away because their feelings for you scare them

[dragoblack]

A bit of both. It's the dishonesty, distrust, and leaving one wondering, that makes it worse.

[Anonymous]

If they don't love you is worse... the other situation means you still have a chance.

[Anonymous]

I've had both happen to me whichever outcome it was i still lost

[Anonymous]

option 1

[Colin234234]

First

[qwerty2469]

Motive is irrelevant