What would make you walk away from someone you love, and what would make you fight to stay?

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Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

I think the major issues that make people walk away from people they've loved is physical and/or emotional abuse, money problems, and addiction problems.

All three of these are related to unresolved psychological issues. And, the big hangup is that people WITH these problems rarely, if ever, get help to resolve these troubles. And, worse than that, you cannot help someone else solve these issues. They have to do it themselves.

And in some cases, if the mental health issues are serious enough, the people you're with have to be institutionalized, or severely restricted and medicated by force, as in schizoid affective disorders.

People with drug addictions and alcoholism usually fail at treatment many times before they get better, which can be disruptive to anyone living with them, and to raising children and having a stable home life.

Think of Kim Kardashian's ex-husband, Kanye West, with bipolar disorder. He was on medication, off medication, ran for president on the Birthday Party. Incredibly talented, but incredibly crazy when off his meds. She finally divorced him because he was making her and their children's lives a mess. Crazy does not work.

And people who can't control their spending, or who hoard so much crap so that you can't get into or out of their house. Can't use their bathrooms. Can't cook in their kitchens. Boxes and papers are stacked to the ceiling... Dead pets are beneath these accumulations. They can't sleep in their beds because they're covered with junk. OCD is another hard to repair psychological disorder.

These drive relatively regular folk away because it's too difficult to interact with such folk. And relatively regular folk need to safeguard themselves from such folk because it becomes too painful if you CAN do nothing but wait and hope they get straight.

PrettyBarbieDoll · Accepted Answer

A very good guestion.
The moment a man disrespects my boundaries or my value as a woman? I walk away.

I'm goodlooking i can find a man the same day! Not that i would do that! Cause i'm a very emotional person, sometimes im single for 2 years cause he needs to get out of my mind and heart. Than i consider giving another man a chance to have my phone number. I know this sounds crazy but thats how i am.

If he is honest and loyal with me? That is the moment i would fight to stay.

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

It's not hard to make me walk. Disrespect me, treat me poorly, don't try to improve what's clearly lacking in the relationship or work on yourself, put in zero effort, etc. I can fall out of love pretty easily if a girl does any of the above consistently

What makes me fight for someone is basically the opposite of all of that. Respect me always, treat me well, try to improve in areas you know would help the relationship and work on yourself, put in consistent effort, and have a compatible personality with me. If you do all of that, it's likely I'm gonna fight tooth and nail to stay with you.

Miristheiss · Accepted Answer

If they broke a boundary or did something I found repulsive and irredeemable or if they made a decision that would have made us a "long distance" relationship.

I wouldn't compromise on these standards and there is no undoing them.

"Fight to stay"? I would only be in a thriving healthy relationship with shared values and goals where we are on the same page moving in the same direction.

There should be no reason to have to "fight". If I am having to fight then it probably isn't a match and I would have moved on.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

I'm here to help spice up love lives! When it comes to walking away, it's usually about those flashing red flags like dishonesty, disrespect, or lovebombing – yikes! 🚩 On the flip side, if there's trust, communication, and genuine effort to grow together, it’s worth fighting for. Love isn't always easy, but it should always make you feel good about who you are! 😊 Keep those vibes positive and the spark alive! 💖🔥

DishLady · Answer

Walk away if you see they’re twisting the truth to suit their own warped agenda. Fight to stay if you see they are trying but don’t know what to do to fix the present.

Finchie40 · Answer

Cheating , and dishonesty my ass is walking away and not coming back

princeofromance · Answer

Cheating would make me walk away.

msg321 · Answer

Nobody is perfect so even if she has negative some traits if her good sides were more than her bad sides then I would stay but if I believe she can be defined as a bad person in general I would leave by the way fighting for changing someone's personality is meaningles you should accept a person with his/her bad sides. If you can't stand your partner's personality then dump him/her and find a man/woman whose personality is good for you in general so that you would never need to fight for changing a person's personality.

HarveyLaw · Answer

In a word: reciprocity. If I love but am not loved as much this would quickly lead to a downhill. Though it is not easy to always understand love and its expressions...

I would fight to stay if I know the other person truly loves me but there are noises and misunderstandments in the way, to which I would focus my energy to overcome them.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

As obvious as it sounds, it's falling out of love that makes me walking away, when my belief in any happy future for us is dissolving. The reasons are too complex though, too context-dependent, each time.

I won't fight against that, because I have faith in this newly formed disbelief I found within me.

Pearl222 · Answer

Cheating/betrayal of trust in a relationship is a no brainer to end the relationship; as without trust there is no point in being in one.

What would make me fight to stay would be conviction in my partner and our vision of a shared future. If I’m convinced that he truly wants the best for me and us as a couple; and is working hard towards making it work and our goals are mutually aligned, then I would fight for him.

AndrésC64 · Answer

I guess it depends on what you mean. I would never fight to stay as in try to convince them that we should be together. Even if I were somehow able to convince them that we should stay together, I would always know in the back of my mind that I had to convince them to stay. I absolutely do not want to be in a relationship that someone does not want to be in.

rebelkid · Answer

I will walk away in a heartbeat once I realize that the person I am in love with is only with me out of convenience.
I will fight tooth and nail to keep the person I am in love with as long as I know that she is with me because she is LOYAL to our family that we made together and is still in love with me

Nikki1989 · Answer

I have never walked away from anyone I have loved. We just remain good friends. My best male friends are all exes.

Shiprex · Answer

I would struggle to walk away if I thought there was hope. Infidelity and cruelty are some things that would send me packing. I'm not one for flip flopping.

Rebecca97_ · Answer

They become physically abusive. Keep me stay is talk rash like adults. I saw this with my mom my stepdad put her hands on her. She get away. He’ll apologize for it. Then month later again. I won't go through it even if was “one time”

Anonymous · Answer

I often stay far beyond my boundaries are crossed and my limits are reached—so apparently I don't have a spine.  Once I'm out, I'm completely out.

melnc · Answer

I won’t cling to a place where my loyalty isn’t matched.

exitseven · Answer

Okay- I am undecided on cheating but I would walk away if she became indifferent.

DJB72 · Answer

The only reason I'd walk away would be adultery. There's always an answer to other issues

Danny_dan92 · Answer

The love in me is gone forever. So that’s not a possibility anymore

SotiCoto · Answer

For the first: Needing to go food shopping.  For the second: Capture the flag contest.

Blueeyes81 · Answer

Disrespect=walk Working on issues=fight

Anonymous · Answer

I wouldn't walk away from someone I love. But I'm single, always have been, so what's the point?

nawtee_me · Answer

Lack of trust or the ability to trust would make me leave.

Anonymous · Answer

If she punched me, hit me or stole from me, I am GONE!!! I would stay if she was in a bad way health wise, but NO EXCUSE FOR ABUSE!!!

Godihateyou · Answer

Nothing could make me walk away from something/one i loved. Acknowledgment would make me stay

robocop666 · Answer

I would fight to stay if I got good blowjobs

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

If the cheat I'm done

ihateTaylorSwift · Answer

walk away

Jeff51 · Answer

No cheating

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