The boat just keeps fucking rowing?

[Anonymous]

So I've just found messages ffs between my boyfriend and his friend a 10 months ago he sent his friend a picture of a girl and him together from the past. His friend says forget about her and we had been together a year and 6 months omg is it bad I'm angry even though it was 10 months ago considering before he said that we had been together a year and 6 months mind you we live together since then to.

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9 mo

Am I that much of a piece of shit?

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9 mo

My poor son, he's not even born yet and I'm stressed

[ohsheeT]

Hey take a deep breath. You have a lot on your mind

Your getting ready to have a baby so the unknown is probably a little freaky. But take a deep breath if your stressed about it it's ok. That's why God gave the women the job of having. Baby's because you think your stress if it was the guys job to have the baby we would never have you would see guys walking around with teenagers still in his belly because he to scared to have it.

Any way I understand your pissed. And it gave you a reason to snap you probably needed to. But just remember this your baby can hear and feel every thing you do. And he's being g punished for something he had no part of.

That's the last thing you want t o do is get him all cought up in fucked up family drama. His soul just came from the most beautiful place in the universe. Where every one is kind and respectful and he doesn't know anger. He just knows love. And by being stressed you all ready changing him.. allow him to feel love and peace as long as you can

The other thing you need to know is that every relationship is a 50/ 50. Deal. 50/50. IT WILL WORK. 50/ 50 IT won't but you need to love yourself believe in yourself self that you are strong enough to do your 50% you can't make any one love you if you try to make some love you it will never work because it's fake. You will see what I mean when your son is born there will be many time you will give him a bottle and he will just look at you do freaking deep and you what to know what he's thinking. Andvyou know it's all about love because that's all he knows he had heard your voice for 9 month. And he fell in love with you and now he is amazed because now he's on the outside looking in it's unconditional love look it's ok to be up set. .. but you have to wait there is someone who is more important than you and your boyfriend. I'm sure like me you both have done many wrong things in life. Forgive your self and help teach your child to be 10 xs better than the both of you make a list of every thing that passes you off. And after the baby is born. Go out in the back yard kick your boyfriends ass. And be done with it

[Finchie40]

So was the girl in the picture of you or another
Girl? If it was of another girl and your boyfriend was with you at the time , then that’s a huge red flag , but if the picture was of you and him together , and his friend said Forget her? That’s another red flag. So your boyfriend is clearly a POS if that’s the case. Partners that trash talk their partner behind their back to their friends’ are pieces of shit , because it’s a clear indication about how your partner truly feels about you , most people tell their friends the truth. Unless you both were fighting and in an arguing during that time , then that’s something you can brush off and not make a big deal about , because people say stupid shit out of anger all the time that they truly don’t mean. But if that was a time when you thought things were going good between you and your boyfriend and he still did that to you behind your back? that’s a red flag that you shouldn’t ignore. Have a serious talk with your boyfriend and make it clear to him that if he doesn t want this relationship with you, then he is best to leave immediately , because you will raise this baby with or without him and that you will not stay in a relationship with someone that talks trash behind your back period

[Asker]

It was a completely different girl

[AI Opinion]

Navigating relationships can be like rowing a boat! Your feelings are valid, and it's understandable to be upset about discovering those messages. It's important to communicate with your boyfriend about how this discovery makes you feel. Sometimes, revisiting the past can create waves, but open communication can calm those waters. Trust is built over time, and discussing this with him might help both of you find clarity. 🌊💌 Remember, it's all about rowing that boat together! 🛶✨

[Asker]

I'm not rowing the boat with him in it, I'll toss him outside of it

[Anonymous]

Heyyyy, sorry to hear about your situation. But just try taking a few breaths and I hope some of the responses here might be able to help you, I'll try giving my input as well to hopefully present a different perspective.

Personally, what he did was obviously bad... You're not wrong for feeling the way you feel, highly justified. But just know that if that other guy is like his best friend, what he did (by sending the picture) is probably something that he buries deep down and doesn't bring up or think about often and only feels comfortable bringing it up with that friend of his...

I know there's a stigma that men move from women to women like a kid in a candy store but that's just not true. Many guys take a while truly get over a woman and it may be years before that woman never crosses his mind. This is especially the case if they were together for quite some time. Let's say he's 23 and he dated the girl for 5 years that's a quarter of his life and something like that isn't easily forgettable...

I can assure you one thing though, it doesn't mean he loves you any less and it doesn't mean he longs to be with her. I know this from experience. It's just sometimes we reminisce and that's it. Perhaps his friend's choice of words could have been better too. His response might have made it seem like your boyfriend was feeling more than what could have just been a passing moment of remberance.

At the end of the day, if it really bothers you, try talking to him about it... Gauge his response and the sincerity in his response. Communication is usually the best resolution.

I hope you're able to work things out! And Congratulations on the Baby Boy!!!

[OneViewpoint]

Have that conversation with him. Tell him he needs to man up and commit. Let him know you're not stupid or weak. Let him know he broke your trust. Find out if you have a man or a man baby.

[loveslongnails]

Sounds like there are some little green monsters for you to work out, as well the questions surrounding your relationship. I wish you the best of fortune and hope it works out for everyone's sake.

[Alex-Snow]

That sucks. Hopefully the pic was not of a sexual nature?

[jahaims]

Don't let trash nut in you