What frequency of communication do you need to feel secure in a relationship?

[Pearl222]

[Summeroflove]

Insecurities happen… We are human. Now. The question that should be asked. Is this insecurity valid? Do I trust my partner? And should I.

People who are mature can communicate their insecurities with one another. Whether they are worried their partner finds something about them unattractive for instance. One of the biggest is cheating. Cheaters by the way do tend to project themselves onto their partner. So the other person may be completely loyal but start getting accused of all sorts of stuff and having to follow all these rules.

If I’m insecure about a partner cheating. Number one. Is it valid? Look, I know that there are men that don’t care if a woman is in a relationship or not some even like sleeping with taken women (also for women doing that to taken men) I know those men exist. I cannot stop that. Just like I know women who cheat exist.

But I have to know that a woman whose genuinely loyal would never cheat. No matter who comes into them first, no matter if the perfect situation comes open, no matter if she knew she wouldn’t get caught. It wouldn’t happen point blank. So if I’m getting angry seeing her around other guys. I need to see if this is valid.

So… People who aren’t mature will immediately jump to conclusions. Start making accusations. Start making rules that their partner must follow in order to be trusted or continue to be in a relationship.

A mature person. Will start with a conversation. Explain how they feel and why they feel this way. Explain what makes them uncomfortable. Now… some people aren’t compatible. Such as rules on having opposite sex friends. For some people even if they know cheating isn’t involved it makes them feel too weird.

A immature person or someone whose probably cheating will respond to genuine communication with defensiveness. With hostility. By making their own accusations. Changing the subject. Extreme mood swings maybe anger or maybe they immediately start crying. This isn’t a good sign…. And your fears may be completely valid that something is going on.

Someone who is mature will respond with genuine communication. Expressing their own feelings while also seeing someone else’s point of view. That’s how real relationships are built and in some cases people can peacefully decide they aren’t meant to be for one another.

[Pearl222]

I get your point. Very well explained and I agree, most of the issues are solved with genuine and honest communication.

I guess this is what I meant, sometimes without even trying some anxiety or insecurities creep up even when there is no logical reason for it but how we address it in a calm and mature manner rather than accusation is what matter more.

[Summeroflove]

That’s also normal. Sometimes those anxiety’s are valid. Sometimes there isn’t anything going on.

Communicate… That’s what it comes down to. It doesn’t have to be immediately it’s okay to clear your mind some. People should be able to talk about their feelings if they love one another. Obviously you love someone if you feel so strongly

[ohsheeT]

Love every thing is about love sit down, relax, meditate about loving yourself. And what that feels like to the deepest, the deepest deepest part of love incorporate that, and then that is what you will be searching for every time you you search for communication. That's the most powerful thing in this world has become one with self 1 with others and 1 with its universe, and that frequency is love. You have to experience that, so you understand it to get to that point. When you need it and then you start living that way. Each and every day

[Abbycado]

I am realistic. It is when we have time. I have classes certain times of the day and so does he. I don't feel insecure at all if we go a stretch without talking.

[Pearl222]

Makes perfect sense, but what is the maximum gap/stretch that you are okay with

[Abbycado]

When we have end of semester exams, we usually go for a few days. That is about the max we go without even a text. I think it is one of those things we are both worried about catching the other at a bad time.

[Pearl222]

Oh okay. I’m probably worried about nothing then. Thanks you for the answer.

[Abbycado]

You're welcome.

[Unycorn]

It is more how and not how often. Words, meaning.

Action ia stronger than words

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach, I aim to help create love stories that last. When it comes to communication frequency, it's all about what makes your love heart feel all warm and secure! Some folks love a daily chat (text me good morning or it didn't happen 😜), while others enjoy their sweet independence with occasional check-ins. Trust, comfort, and clarity are key – make sure your desires align with your partner's, and you'll be vibing in perfect harmony. Keep it cute and connected! 💕

[AviatorTom]

The question answers itself... Whatever level makes you feel secure.

[JHNS98]

Absolutely. I've found this as a general issue on this site. Too many people asking for normative generallized answers to questions where such dogma doesn't make sense.

[Bitter_Sweet94]

I don’t need constant communication, but I do value consistency.

A quick check in during the day and a little real conversation at night is usually enough for me to feel connected.

As long as the effort feels mutual and we’re both showing up, I’m good.

[Zack-Bann]

As little as possible


If we need to reaffirm our commitment to one another all the time else insecurity sets in
We are doing something wrong


A true partnership is built on trust
Constant testing and verification isn’t good in the long run

[OneViewpoint]

Frequency has little to do with it. Quality is the issue.

[Nikki1989]

A good face-to-face chat once or twice a day is more than enough.

[i_Jedi]

I don’t need constant messages, just steady communication that feels genuine, as long as I know we’re both putting in effort and not playing guessing games, I feel secure.

[RHK36]

Frequency? Already comes off as needy if someone asks me this. If you need to constantly be reassured then you probably should be single. That's needy like a child.

[WhitneySnow]

Every couple days is fine if we’re both busy, but usually we talk more often

[mysteriousNicholas]

@WhitneySnow what about clinging partners?

[WhitneySnow]

@mysteriousNicholas they’re annoying if they’re too clingy

[mysteriousNicholas]

@pearl222 highly regular communication and comms ✉️📨 ✉️ 🤳🏻📱 📞 🔊 🗣️

[Spencer10]

For me it would not be about frequency but about effectiveness. Sometimes less is more.

[Anonymous]

Any kind, but I never had a relationship, so I don't know.

[Vevv123]

As much as possible 😁

[FunkyMonkee]

Round about 94.7 on the FM dial.

[molly1997xxx]

every 2 hours or i start to lose my shit

[MannMitAntworten]

When do you two get a decent sleep?

[Anonymous]

It's less the quantity than the quality.

[Tereza07]

Daily definetly...