Do you believe communication is key to a healthy relationship?

[Wildfairy]

Definitely!

Not Really...

[LesterJester]

I voted not really, because while communication is very important to a lasting relationship, it's not what I'd consider as "Key" to a healthy relationship.

Trust is the key.

Do you trust your partner enough to not have to check on everything they do?

Do you trust your partner to make decisions on their own, especially regarding children and the household?

Do you trust your partner enough that you Don't need access to their phone, computer, tablet and other devices so you can check up on who they talk to, etc? (ie: demand their passwords and to hand over devices upon command)

In other words, do you trust your partner enough to not have to treat them like a child?

See, trust in a relationship requires a bit of faith towards the other. It's about giving each other some personal space and some level of privacy, as well as responsibility. Trust and faith in your partner will always come with the risk of betrayal and getting hurt. That's just the way she goes.

You need to accept that risk, because if you don't and you need to know everything they do and say and know everywhere they go 24/7... That's not trust and that's not a relationship.

That's just control. It's a lot of extra energy and stress for both involved and only leads to resentment and failure of the relationship over time. In some cases, that control and smothering approach ends up creating the problems you're trying to avoid, because the other begins to resent that constant control and lack of trust.

I had a girlfriend who was like the above. Serious trust issues, constantly snooping on my computer while I was at work, then calling me up at work to bitch me out over something she found in my browser's cookies and history. When I got home, I'd ask her to show me wtf she was freaking over. It always ended up as something stupid and easy to not just explain, but also prove nothing went sideways.

One particular time it was an image for a dating site found in the temp files. I checked it out, checked the date and then sourced where it came from. Right in front of her, I followed the trail and it ended up as a damn banner ad on the side of a tor**** page where I got some music... That she asked me to fk'n get for her.

Point being is that no matter how many times we went through this shit, no matter how many times I proved her freaking out moments were over nothing, No Matter How Many Times I tried to Communicate with her and sort this shit out, she'd pull this same crap time and time again. Clearly it didn't work out and it turned out she was the fk'r who was the Cheater in the relationship. Funny thing is, I didn't have to go snooping behind her back to find out.

Communication only gets you so far if the other simply has trust issues and refuses to give you any trust.

Trust is Key. Communication is second.

[Apope16]

Absolutely! Communication is one of the most important and essential aspects of a relationship. THere girl I am seeing and I have huge issues with communication. We realized that we have horrible communication via text message. Things just get interpreted differently. We communicate well in person when we are with each other. So we have a general rule where important things are only talked about in person.

I dont think we have ever had a fight when in person. Only over text message. haha.

Loyalty, Trust, Communication

Those are the most important three pillars of a solid relationship.

[btbc92]

Communication is a good chunky of 40% of a relationship. But that doesn't always mean it's healthy. A healthy relationship is determined based on compatibility PERIOD. That includes genetically, biologically, psychologically, and everything else. While there are various ways people communicate, verbal communication is something that requires growth. And some couples need more growth in a relationship than anything. A relationship is a mutual choice between the couple. Meaning, it doesn't matter if your so-called was ugly or how many differences you have from each other. You have to mutually TRY and actually want to be a couple in a relationship. Just because a couple communicates often, that doesn't always mean the relationship is healthy. You can tell by how they argue and be around each other besides the intent of a relationship.

[AmandaYVR]

This word is overrated, overprioritized, overused. It takes a hell of a lot more than communicating for relationships to sustain. Just because people communicate how they feel in the moment doesn't in any way save or strengthen the relationship. You both need a whole host of other traits, and to be very, very self-aware and adaptable and kind, etc etc etc, to have good relationships. It's like my doctor stepfather used to say - all this nonsense about the importance of wearing a hat in cold weather and how 90% of heat escapes through the top of the head: if this was really the case, a person could go out naked, but wearing a hat, and never be at risk. Same thing with communication. There is no one way to communicate, it is not finite, and it is just one tool of many one needs to sustain good relations with others.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

No relationship whether it's a platonic or love relationship will survive without communication... And communication has to involve both the honest truth and actively actually listening... And also comprehending what's being said... And if you're unclear about what's being said, then say that or ask what they mean instead of presuming to know or assuming...

[Desconhecida]

Not only the key but the foundation

[vintagegirl90]

I think it’s one of the keys but I don’t think it’s the main one, like it complements a healthy relationship. Being honest, open and well a bit vulnerable in communication is great in a relationship. Like that style of communication helps strengthen an existing relationship’s connection. Some people are afraid of exposing that side of themselves because they’ve been hurt or aren’t in touch with their sensitive side, but how can relationship truly grow if neither of you will communicate how you feel?

[Nerdvana]

Communication, whether it be with your significant other or just someone important in your life, is something key for the development or maintenance of any relationship. Without communication, a relationship will get frustrating and die. Communicating effectively is something that rarely happens naturally for a lot of people. In school, they teach us sex ed, but they don't teach us relationship ed. But communication is only one part of a set of relationship skills we need for us to have a healthy relationship,

[lilyanony1]

Nah apparently healthy relationships are built on silent treatment.
Grumbles and a series of noises.
Apparently it's based upon one person talking and the other being absent minded.
They are further strengthened by a person's ability to assume or create a sense of alignment/agreement.

One person making decisions and letting the person know that under no circumstances should it be broached again because well their word is final.
Also punishing the person for not following the decided rules that were never discussed.

Anything else you read is wrong this is it.

Trust me!!!

[lightbulb27]

yes, we should all learn better communication and that be a good class for all humanity, if could find good instructors. I think that word is so general that it means different things to diff people and so,

The relationship door has many key holes...

Problem solving
Accpetance
Submittance
Understanding
Empathy
Work on yourself
Shut up

Here's song demonstrating listening, but non acceptance
How does Beth feel... and what was the result of this communication? How does Peter feel.. effectively telling her to "F" off, because he's at work late?

https://www.youtube.com/embed/TW6anV9t-XY

This is one at the end of relationship communicating feelings, you are the therapist on this one...

https://www.youtube.com/embed/8UVNT4wvIGY

I think we all need better models of how to communicate and to learn, or else.

[CrazyGirl2]

YES! Just like the three most important aspects of real estate investment are location, location, location! The three most important parts of any relationship are communication, communication, communication… And SEX! (Okay, FOUR most important parts) LOL 😂 😁😘💋

[DJB72]

It's essential. Without it you're left with nothing.

You just need to find out how your partner communicates. It's not about words. Every gesture, every nuance, every facial movement is communication. Every dilation of the eyes.

Communication is central to everything.

[Inexpensivefurniture]

Absolutely. Good communication is the basis for trust, love, understanding, problem solving, partnership, etc. If you can't talk to each other, it doesn't matter how in love you are. Something will cause a rift between you and your partner and you won't know how to solve it

[LeilaLe]

Yes, but there also needs to be understanding because you can communicate as much as you want but if your partner doesn't have understanding then communication has failed.

[Wildfairy]

Very good point!

[MelissaMarie9614]

Yes! Absolutely! Communication is important in a relationship. How else are you going to know what's bothering your partner? Or if you did something or they did something wrong. Or even when they're having a bad day and need someone there to talk to and be there for.

[Anonymous]

It’s important but understanding, problem solving and compromising are more important. I’m only saying this because I thought that communication was the way to go. Then I opened up to my boyfriend at that time and there was literally no changes. So it’s more than just communicating but also being on the same page or at least meeting halfway if possible.

[MecheD]

Yes l, but the thing I find the most amazing about that rule of thumb is that apart of communication is listening half of relationships where people do “talk” it’s just always someone closed minded to someone else’s opinions or problems and a good portion of them end up getting defensive as well.

[Hogwheels]

How will you know your partner's needs without communicating. A relationship without communication is doomed to fail. Assuming you can guess your partner's needs without communicating with them is a denial of really.

[Hogwheels]

*denial of reality

[Harris_2021]

yes I think its good to speak your mind, as long as it don't hurt the other person -- if there's a problem or something you wanna talk about speak it out -- especially if you have a problem that doesn't need to get balled up like a volcano, instead let it out and solve it out

[EaterPeter]

It's good to know how to communicate in effective way. Who knows you may reach to conclusion that you two are not good for each other. You have different values. Different sexual preferences. Want to live in different part of world. Want something else out of the relationship. This relationship is notnm serving them what they expected.

[Bárbara1402]

I think communication is very important in a relationship and it helps you to understand each other better and to solve your problems

[electromagnetic]

Without a doubt. A lot of things can get lost in translations because two people decided they weren’t going to communicate about their issues.

[ohshee]

It is the key now matter if it's a friendship relationship playing baseball if your doing it with some one what ever it is communication is key

[DaMack999]

Communication is part of an overall aspect of relationship not just the the only key. It may open the door to the relationship be and let you in girls heart. But it's on the man to show his words are as good as his actions. Talk without any sustainable development and reality. Is just talk. So to real woman out there. They know they look for a man's character and moral values. Before anything else. Trustworthy, hard working, Reliable, romantic and definitely got good sex appeal.