Do you girls really want love or just a guy with money?

Question

I can’t be with a girl that is only after my money , I also can’t be with a girl that doesn’t want to be my partner and work together , unfortunately it seems like what I am attracted to to is harder to find these days , My ex and I use to be partners’ until she decided to be selfish and decided she only wants a guy that will financially support her so she does t have to work , so is this how girls’ think these days?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I will maintain what I have said about this topic of love and money my whole adult life. Of course, I want love. I want my heart to pitter patter. I want a healthy relationship with give and take, and loyalty, and with someone who is my best friend, first and foremost, but I also do not believe that "all you need is love." Love doesn't pay a mortgage. I grew up poor, I know. My family moved to this country and had to start with barely anything. It was beyond hard. Sometimes we barely had food to eat and basic necessities were often a luxury to us. The struggle was so real and life became about enduring it rather than living it.

My partner has always been my equal or my better financially. I don't do the gold digging thing, because that's not me, but I've been with financially responsible people. If you've never lived in poverty, you do not understand how hard you will claw tooth and nail to never go back. I have no problems with someone who is in poverty but working to get out of their situation, i.e. in school, working to move up, etc, but will not be in a relationship where they are content with living on the struggle bus. I also know that, at least in my POV, simply pursing someone because they have a good job will not feed your heart and soul in the way you need it to, to be happy long term. It's a disgusting practice that sadly often both parties will accept for whatever reason rather than committing to a real relationship that is based on love.

RandomGirl42 · Accepted Answer

If I'm with someone I love then I don't care if we have to live under a bridge and fight pigeons for scraps of food in McDonalds parking lots but that's me and no one has ever accused me of being a "normal girl" so, what do I know?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Both girls I have the gut instinct that they thought I was wealthy, and I’d shower them with gifts; and when that didn’t happen, they seemed to “check out.” That being said, I think I just dated really horrible immature girls. It’s hard not to get in that mindset when most of what you see is that sort of thing…

I can’t find someone who will want to be bothered past small talk. They look at the surface stuff, that’s all that seems to matter. Since I don’t have the looks, the height, the influence, it’s hard to find interest. It’s not a nerd friendly area. I work for myself, and the few places with coworkers had no office romance policies (not that it would have really mattered). Most friends are busy starting families, so no single friendly parties or meeting through friends.

I got hurt a while ago (some PTSD, and headaches/tinnitus, etc), so it’s hard to socialize on my end, too. Going out is hard to justify because I get overwhelmed easily, so after work and chores… I just want to relax at home.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

It's love anybody can get money. It's love that they can't find.

Or there's moments where they do find love but they don't love them back

There's more women than want to find true love than to take some guy's money

But there are those girls out there that heavies have been burnt or been through the ringer , and i'm sure they want money , but more percentage of women would love , I believe

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Ah, the age-old love or gold dilemma! My aim here on Girls Ask Guys is to help unravel hearts, not wallets! 😏 While some people might prioritize financial stability, many are seeking genuine partnership and love. Relationships should be about mutual growth, shared dreams, and emotional connections. If someone seeks only financial support, it's definitely a red flag, and you're right to be cautious! Keep looking for someone who values you for you, and not just what's in your wallet. Love has a way of showing up when you least expect it! 💖

HighValue · Answer

The majority of women, even the ones claiming differently, DO value money more than love. And the majority expect the man to support them. If they have their own money, or even make more than him, it is all for their own entertainment and they still expect him to support them. They also often lose interest in the man if she makes more than him, that is why even the ones that claim it is fine if the man makes less, often leave him eventually. They aren't in a relationship with a man that makes less than her for 20+ years, it is temporary and she leaves, that is how it really works.

Twodogs0525 · Answer

Most of the very desirable women I know, are mainly in it for love. Obviously, they don't wanna be with a deadbeat but they also don't need to be with a millionaire. Some of them are dating or married to blue collar guys and are very happy in their relationship and respect what they do.

AgentG111 · Answer

You are going to be on on hellofa search to find a decent woman these days.

Sorry it's the truth, they all have mental health issues and if something doesn't go there say they cry at one form or another of abuse or medical or mental health problems so everyone looks at them as the victims.

Anonymous · Answer

Money is usually the last resort when you have nothing else to offer. Girls who chase after you for money do that because your personality is shit but you could offer stability financially (i assume? since you mentioned girls wanting to use you for your money?) Probably work on your personality starting with stop blaming women for everything that’s wrong with your life, and you’ll attract down-to earth-women. Because with that personality of yours, makes sense why women who have emotional intelligence, empathy, and a good career would avoid you like the plague. Being bitter about your female exes seems to be something you dwell on all the time on here and honestly it’s sad.

Sal_Monella · Answer

Women want prestige, bling and financial security. When they get what you provide and you are at the pinnacle of achievement in your career, they will eviscerate you in divorce, take the spoils and destroy your career, reputation and children. Get an armor plated pre-nup if you believe you will prosper.

And prepare for the summons untraceably in advance Buy physical gold and store it in an anonymous safe deposit box or bury it. $500 grand weighs less than 200 pounds of gold. Protect yourself

DailyFairy · Answer

I would be a hypocrite if I said money don't matter, but I would chose love overall if its mutual. Money can always be made but finding someone who can't love u properly or just them being with u because ur their only option, scares the hell out of me.

FreyaRed · Answer

I don't think most girls with a profitable jobs, inheritance and high social status are interested in more money. Of course there are some exceptions but those confirm just the main rule. I think the threshold of girls with higher income who look for relationship quality is much higher than by girls with low income and without any financial assets, which use their natural assets to improve their financial situation.

I'm pretty sure men would that too if situation was reversed

NobodyXox · Answer

No, I have my own house and I have work that makes me relatively happy. I also highly recommend all the women around me to have their own money in case of emergency.
And it honestly seems very boring to spend the next 60 years of my life at home. I'd like to keep busy.

FictionalCharacter · Answer

It sounds like you are dealing with trauma and trust issues. And with that mindset, any woman who will come into your life you will not like them. You already labeled and categorized all women to be after your money. So, it’s also hard to admire and accept your personality when it comes searching for love. Whenever you don’t like women in general sense.

slatyb · Answer

Women are no more or less transactional than men. If you don´t want a woman to be with you because of your wealth, then don´t flaunt it. Don´t date a woman who only feels valued if you are spending money on her. If she can´t enjoy your company otherwise, don´t continue dating her.

For a first date, take a woman to a reasonably priced restaurant that you enjoy, not the most expensive restaurant in town. If she feels slighted, then you´ll know what she really wants.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

No, I see women all the time with guys that aren't working great jobs.. Most women care about stability, but not so much having a rich guy.. There comes all types of problems with that, that most don't want.. Unfortunately the money hungry ones are the loudest..

jazzy34 · Answer

As long as he is a good, hardworking man and treats me well, he could be a oook at McDonald's, for all I care.

Bitter_Sweet94 · Answer

Most women I know want love, real connection, real partnership.

Money only matters when a guy uses it as an excuse to avoid responsibility or growth.

A man who’s stable, reliable, and actually shows up emotionally? Way more attractive than a man who just throws cash around.

Love is the core.

Security just keeps the relationship healthy.

melanieeeB · Answer

LOVE!
(Do you know how many romance love movies and books are out there aimed at women?)

All the guys saying money, are the ones who can't get a girl, so they assume it's because they don't have money but actually it's them and their personality but accepting that would be too much to fathom, so they blame the lak of money.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

I like a man to be able to take care of me but I never been like materialistic where I would need anything expensive or want things he can't afford.. but I was a virgin and wanted a traditional life.
Now that I'm broke up it's like if I'm working and supporting myself I don't want to live with a guy.. I will love him but don't want to be tied down to him or have to take care of him if he can't even take care of me.

chrissykerdock · Answer

i always thought it didn't matter because chemistry is everything not 75% but everything so it doesn't matter

RavVid · Answer

YT PyschHacks suggest they want it all. If they can think of it then they want. Even though it is contradictory. A stoic rock and man that is so in touch with his feelings he cries.

PyschHacks suggests wealth just gets to the starting line and HNW guys don't date because they can afford high class whores instead.

capriVib · Answer

Money, job, and status are of course important for a girl to fall in love, but it's not everything; character, appearance, etc. are also important.

Shehnaz · Answer

Do you really think that hear the truth in public from women on this question?

Anonymous · Answer

I want both. I want love, but I would never be with someone cheap or 50-50 guy. If he doesn’t support me financially and pays for everything I wouldn’t be with him. It’s unattractive, unmanly icky behavior and I’d lose interest. So, I want a man I genuinly love, feel attracted to and want to be with. And he’d have to be of provider mentality.

Titanic1912 · Answer

Some girls are just gold diggers and some are always wanting a guy for who they are, not for what they are.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Women are individuals, but yeah, a lot on the market right now seem to want the world on a silver platter in exchange for their drama. Just have to avoid those.

BeezyFoCheezzy · Answer

Most women, not all, want a man that treats them right. And yeah, that does include paying for dates. But also buying them flowers and making them feel secure with your arms around her. Treating them special as if the world revolves around them but also taking power and control of that world.

Sunshinelips · Answer

I want a guy with money so he doesn’t take mine. I want a guy who is in work, not an unemployed guy. But to answer your question I want love.

Anonymous · Answer

It's not like that.
I think it's just too many options.
Not all girls are like that.
Some are genuinely good and have a great relationship.
Getting jealous and trying to get the hottest and the most successful men.

If it was only money or brain or marks,
But I lost to her to some playboy who constantly cheats on her, Who is unemployed, and practically useless.
I would have got the girl and married.

Anonymous · Answer

I want love. I make money, he makes money, everyone makes money. So why exactly would I be with a man for money? if I have to ever ask a man for money it would be my father lol. Not a man I’m dating

Flower7 · Answer

How long have you and your ex been broken up?

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Girls want both. Don’t you want to provide for someone you love?

robocop666 · Answer

money does not motivate women to go to the bedroom with you. It makes you the provider. Good looking men enter the bedroom.

Chayce · Answer

Money. Love is not a real thing when someone will choose up in a second. Get rich, get ripped have a great style, have zero emotions & you’ll be the man.

Cipher_Ledger · Answer

I like to provide for the woman I love. Call me a simp but making a woman happy makes me happier

Anonymous · Answer

Money alone does not make you happy.  You also need real estate, gold, and stocks. A man does not have to be rich. But he should have an honest job.

Anonymous · Answer

Most women today want a a guy who can fund their lifestyle. They can love anywhere, anytime they figure. Most women today are simply not relationship material. C. R. E. A. M. get tha money dolla dolla bill y'all!

blackeagle007 · Answer

I remember in the 90’s and early 2000’s dating was awesome. Wasn’t about $ at all. But times change and sadly majority of women are in it for the $ more now

Ironco · Answer

I suggest you take a break from the dating world for awhile. Help yourself get over the ex, do things you want to do. Then when you aren't looking, she will find you.  Good luck

Sugar100 · Answer

I want a baby but it’s impossible get pregnant from a guy. I don’t want money

loveslongnails · Answer

Most girls want to "love a guy who also has money". LOL When you ask for a division of those two deals, that's when it gets sketchy.

Anonymous · Answer

Oh look, Finchie is whining about women and his ex again!

genericname85 · Answer

some want love. some money. most want a mixture of both.

noohair · Answer

They want both. When I meet someone I found that the interaction is like an interview at a bank for a loan.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I haven't found one yet that wanted love. (That is, that wasn't fucking other dudes.)

captain_voidwalker · Answer

Both are wrong girls want the money but without the guy.

Anonymous · Answer

It probably depends on the girl, not all of them want the same things.

msc545 · Answer

Money is a lot more important to women than love.

Anonymous · Answer

In america girls become a golddigger after 14.

Jennz6 · Answer

Guys with more money

loveyouoak · Answer

Just love

jahaims · Answer

Depends on the woman obviously

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Most broads LOVE a guy with MONEY !!!

HДLILБΞУ · Answer

girls love money..

Rosemaiden · Answer

Being rich is a feminine trait

Anonymous · Answer

It's always the money. 🤑🤑🤑🤑🤑🤑🤑

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