Have you ever been “too busy” to text or call a person you really liked?

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Unless there’s an emergency or something drastic, personally if I’m into someone…I would either text or call them once a day or at least let them know I’m busy during this time but will be available afterward.

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Try working a very physical and sometimes dangerous job for 9 hours, being interrupted by customer calls throughout the day, along with with a 2-hour commute in stop-and-go traffic before and after That's 13 or more exhausting hours away from home, where you've had to pay attention and remain focused the entire time or very bad things would happen. I have a lot of days like that.

My last girlfriend, about 10 years ago, couldn't understand why I was tired and why I didn't have time to call her during the day. So, she had a few days off, and I decided to take her to work for a day as my assistant. She was already struggling before lunchtime, and by 3pm, she had to go rest in the car, and I had to finish the last couple of hours myself before driving us home. She literally slept as I drove.

She'd worked retail as a checkout girl and then in office jobs, so she'd never worked a physical job. But she never once complained again and instead used to explain to other people how hard my job was. And here's the thing - my job was probably the easiest compared to all the other trades on the job site. I didn't have to dig any trenches or be bent over all day laying down flooring.

Most women, and even a lot of men, have no idea what a physical job is like. We don't sit at desks surfing the web, where we can text as much as we like and taking a few phone calls is no big deal. Calling or texting means the work completely stops, and since a lot of jobs are 2-man (minimum) jobs, it means that those calls and texts are idling at least two people. You can't just wear ear buds and chat - you cannot divide your focus or TVs get dropped, tools fall, and even people can fall. We're on ladders a lot, working above our heads, and often have other trades working around us when a job is near completion and the customer is trying to get everything finished so they can move in.

Zack-Bann · Accepted Answer

Most of the time i have a minute or two to text

But sometimes I go into tunnel vision mode and before I know it hours have gone by since I checked my phone

But if I really like her she will randomly pop in my head like an internet notification system

Bitter_Sweet94 · Accepted Answer

I’ll be honest, I’ve never been “too busy” for someone I genuinely liked.

Busy happens.

Life gets chaotic.

But even on the worst days, you can send a 5-second text
“Hey, today’s packed. I’ll talk to you later.”

If someone can’t do even that, it’s usually not about time, it’s about priority.

People make time for who matters to them, even in small ways

* a quick check in

* a voice note

* a call before bed

* or at least a heads up

So my view is simple
If I truly like you, you’ll know.

Even on my busiest days, I’ll still show up somehow.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

In my book, if you like someone, you make the time for them, and if you don't, you simply don't. There's no need to overthink it.

We're all "busy" nowadays and often don't have time to offer too many people, so offering your time and energy to someone indicates how much you value them. Period. It's not that complicated.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Being "too busy" is sometimes an excuse people use when they're not that into someone. When you're really into someone, you make an effort, even if it's just a quick text to say, "Thinking of you" or "Caught up right now, but you're on my mind." 🌟 Communication is key, love! If someone constantly claims to be too busy, it might be a red flag that their priority list doesn’t have your name on it.

Finchie40 · Answer

No, I make sure I text or call someone I really like, it only takes a few seconds to let them know you are thinking of them ,

YourExLover69 · Answer

Never been super busy to ignore a girl if I love her. I'm single nowadays but if I get a girlfriend I'd inform her I'm busy and will still message/text her in between no matter what happens. Unless there is network issue or my internet interrupts, I will at least text her still. 😊

Lliam · Answer

I would hate someone who texted incessantly. They would say it was because of love. But I would take it as insecurity. And I would resent them bugging me.

However, I can't think of any reason why a person couldn't find the time to call or at least text once a day.
I called my girlfriends every night if I couldn't see them in person. I wanted to hear their voice, chat about our days, and let them know I was thinking about them.

sage2021 · Answer

Nope! Using the "I'm busy" excuse not to tend to someone in some form or fashion is really getting to be a lame excuse to get out of every situation.

We are all busy! But being too busy to send someone a quick text just takes a minute and can make all the difference in the world to someone wanting to hear from you.

pinkmochi · Answer

Nope. I always make time for people I care about.

In my opinion, no one is ever too busy to reach out to someone they care about. If it matters to you, you’ll find a way to text, call, or see them, even if it’s just for a few minutes.

Unycorn · Answer

Yes. Sometimes you have more important issues and you cannot switch them off and focus on a person. And it would be rude to treat a person as an... AddOn

So I try to finish the other issues first so I am stress-free with the other person that deserves that

RxR0954 · Answer

Yea when i was doing my last year of bachelor in psychological science i lived 3 hours of public transportation away from campus and i’d have class at 9, 5 days a week so i’d wake up at 4:30 everyday, and spend 10 hours on campus until midnight just to catchup on my grades to get into grad school. Didn’t have time to text anyone, the only social life i had is drinking with my buddies after campus closed, and i’d go home to sleep and repeat.

exitseven · Answer

I dated long before there were cell phones. however I wrote to her at least once a week.

Sebastian100 · Answer

Nope, I'm always in touch with the person who matter to me no matter how busy I am

OneViewpoint · Answer

I think your approach is totally rational and normal for a healthy adult human.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Nah, everyone has a spare 5 minutes.

BonzoInBitburg · Answer

Yup. I've been self employed most of my adult life with multiple companies. I was always distracted and I often take days to reply to texts

Anonymous · Answer

Too busy to answer right back sometimes but not to busy to never text at all that day or whatever.

jahaims · Answer

Nope. I worked 16 hours warehouse shifts with an hour and a half round trip drive and still had time for my then girlfriend now wife.

itsannalee · Answer

Yes, but rarely. Sometimes i got too busy and already typed text or wanted to reply his messages but i forgot to press the send button.

DJB72 · Answer

I've procrastinated myself out of possible relationships, yes. But all before texting was a thing

jkreuger95 · Answer

Temporarily sure but will explain later what I was doing. I don't say it just as an excuse

WhitneySnow · Answer

Sometimes it happens but I always let them I’m too busy to talk but that we’ll talk again soon

Clyde_123 · Answer

I always text the person I like. If Im busy at the moment I'll tell him right away and that we can talk later when I'm not busy anymore.

lorenzomichael · Answer

Sure, I have I suppose a lot of people have been that way unless you’re 14 and in love then the whole world doesn’t matter

AngryCarl2 · Answer

Never too busy but I might be holding off so I don't seem like an obsessed lunatic.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Nope never busy on texting or calling someone who i like!

TheTrader · Answer

I've had that happen to me, it would take to this last 3 weeks somes even 6 weeks to reply. Her excuse was she was too busy as she had kids and a job.

Anonymous · Answer

Nope, but the thing is, all of my loves were unrequited so it never happened anyway.

amyrbrtsn1 · Answer

If you really like someone you will make the time to reply.

molonski2 · Answer

You make a good point.. 4 Sure

beenherebefore · Answer

Obviously. It happens sometimes.

whiskeyontherocks · Answer

Never to busy just nothing to say

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

No... I make time for people who matter

DTH57 · Answer

Yes many times

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