I feel like my best friend is ditching me for her boyfriend. Is there a way to discuss with her how I’m feeling?

[Anonymous]

[AviatorTom]

It's reasonable for her to put her boyfriend above you, and you should be happy for her to do that, since you are a good friend.

Rather than try to blame her for this, why not plan things for you and her to do together, to keep your friendship going.

[Asker]

I’ve tried. I’ve tried so many times and she has even admitted to it.

[melanieeeB]

Approach her and tell her how you feel and maybe you two can find a solution and spend some time together. Sure you will see her less but it can still be cool and you two can still do something fun together, probably just less than before


When one of my closest friends started her relationship (8 years ago now! And still going) he lived a few cities away and so they could only see each other on the weekends and back then our weekends totally fell apart but we started making time for our friendship during the weekdays and we still do that. We see each other nearly monthly but still only during weekdays lol

[exitseven]

This is something that happens a lot. My best friend is a lot better looking than I am and had a lot of girlfriends. I uswd to feel left out and felt like he was blowing me off.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[AI Opinion]

Helping people like you have better conversations is my jam! When a friend starts spending more time with their boo, it can totally feel like ghosting. Bring it up gently. Ask her to hang out, just the two of you, and tell her how much you miss your girl time. Remember, it's not an attack, just expressing your feelings. Talk about rediscovering your friend-together time without being the third wheel to their romance. 🤗 Relationships evolve, but true friendship lasts forever. ✌️

[Summeroflove]

Talk to her. It’s all you can do

[slatyb]

Yes, you could tell her "I'm happy for your new relationship, but I miss you. It seems you never have time to see me."

[Anonymous]

Wait, what? Just be happy for her and stop being so selfish.

[Asker]

How am I being selfish and who said I wasn’t also happy for her? I just want to spend a little time with her and I haven’t gotten to because of this and even other people like her mom said something to her about it. I’m happy for her, believe me. Please don’t make any accusations when you don’t know the full story. You never know the kind of pain people are going through. Just because you’re anonymous and online doesn’t mean that you’re any less responsible for your own actions and words.

[Opinion Owner]

"How am I being selfish?"

"I just want to spend a little time with her"

Think about it.

[Asker]

Yeah it’s not being selfish at all to want to spend time with people you care about.

[Asker]

Also, take those sentences in the context they were given.

[Opinion Owner]

I did, but thanks.

My suggestion to you is to take a step back and read your question from the perspective of others. You'll see what I mean.

[Asker]

I have multiple times and I don’t see your point at all. I have asked other people to read my response to you and they also don’t understand what you’re going on about. Maybe you’re not taking it the way most people would.

[Opinion Owner]

I've made my point. Best of luck to you and your friend.

[Anonymous]

So when she and her boyfriend breakup and she comes running to you to talk and sob and vent tell her you're busy and can't talk keep blowing her off like she's doing to you now

[Anonymous]

You Hair removal in her shampoo and I bet she would have more time for you. I bet you even might go shopping for wigs together.

[In_Trance]

no, not really