Can you change a narcissist?

[Summeroflove]

Change can only happen if someone genuinely wants it. Many people prey on others pity and sympathy to be enabled. Happens in family dynamics, romantic relationships, and even friendships. In romantic relationships for instance.

Empaths want to be the hero. And often end up as enablers. As below in romantic relationships.

A woman whose a empath with a dark personality. She feels sorry for him. She believes she can nurture him, she thinks she can change him, and if she just loves him enough. If she’s just a good enough partner. He will change for her.

A empathetic man on the other hand. He feels sorry for her. He believes that he can rescue her and safe her from herself. Save her from her circumstances that she created. Defending her. Getting her out of financial situations. If he just loves her enough and is just a good man and protects and does all these things for her. She will change.

Many dark personalities don’t want to change. They simply want you feeling sorry for them so that you enable them, feed them attention, rescue them from the consequences of their own actions, and in the end drag your ass down with them until you’re completely drained and exhausted…. And discard you for the next victim.

[RandomGirl42]

You already answered it. No one changes until they want to. No one can ever really change anyone, all we can do is be there to hold their hand and listen if they mean it but the inside work is all up to them.

Can you change a narcissist as awesome as me?

[Summeroflove]

Aren’t you someone claiming to be a narc as well as had your brain fried on drugs in collage?

Lol

[Summeroflove]

But that first part is true. Plus you just make up roomers that nobody even knows who you are as if anyone was talking about you.

I can tell when I’m talking to someone whose done heavy drugs and I promise. You check ALL the boxes.

[Summeroflove]

That’s sad….

[RandomGirl42]

You have your beliefs and that's ok. 😊

[Summeroflove]

I’ve talked to dopers and tweakers before. You admitted to hard drug use and that explains a lot now.

[Summeroflove]

You smoked dat crack til your teef fell out.

[MrChinaski]

You've made a point. It's drifting in a nasty direction. Let it be now. Please.

[Summeroflove]

@bddddd okay honorary mod. Here is your gold star 🌟

Now. Kiss your girlfriend goodnight.

[Summeroflove]

What a cute couple you and random girl are. I thought she only liked women. But maybe you made her straight

[RandomGirl42]

Ty for the MHO 😊

[beefcakebradybatson]

Girlfriend? Whose?

[Unycorn]

No. It will always be a part of this person. And nobody should change another person...

[AI Opinion]

My goal on Girls Ask Guys is to help navigate the messy world of love, relationships, and all things heart-shaped. Changing a narcissist? That’s like trying to make a cat fall in love with water! 🌊 They often seek sympathy, using that charming persona to reel you in and play on your empathy. But remember, you can’t save someone who doesn’t want to be saved. Focus on your own joy and avoid getting caught in a draining cycle of lovebombs and ghosting! Self-care is the ultimate charm! 😏❤️

[FreyaRed]

Narcissism is a symptom and there are many severity stages. Every person is narcissistic in some minimal extent. My mother was highly narcissistic and had a cluster B disorder. She tried but it wasn't possible for her to change. This is part of their nature and they can conjure new personality from a hut like magician a white rabbit. They have sometimes a honesty phase and are smart enough to recognize their own toxicity, but then next day they don't care and start to manipulate, to gaslight or to intimidate again.

My mother as example had terminal cancer.
Sometimes she told such emphatic things like "I know I did much wrong to you" but 10 minutes later she made a sh.. show by breakfast about I should laugh more and don't look so sinister, because I bring her down...
If the question is, can you change a person anti-social disorder, the answer is no. Do you can control such person? Most time it's possible, but you need tough discipline and lot of self control to achieve that. Most people will give up. I didn't have a choice.

[CherryLove007]

ahhh you can't change a person or another's personality trait. smh

if change happens for a narcissist than it is divine intervention (miracle)

willing changes happen incrementally and rarely suddenly with a monumental desire to improve their low or poor life situation.

my father was told in couples therapy that he was a narcissist immediately the end of the first session. Yes my parents are divorced. I was 13 when they divorced.

[Summeroflove]

I’m a Christian. Yes if someone genuinely repents…. Unfortunately many cando much as claim to find Jesus. But never atually change

[Summeroflove]

Notice narcissists quit therapy 9/10. Because they aren’t told what they want to hear

[Bitter_Sweet94]

You can influence a narcissist’s behavior for a moment, but you can’t change who they are.

Real change only happens when someone sees a problem, takes responsibility, and wants to grow.

Most narcissists don’t reach that point because their ego protects them from self reflection.

You can support, set boundaries, or walk away,
but the work has to come from them, not you.

[Summeroflove]

Once in a blue moon there may be someone who does. A lot of these people just like having someone enable them.

A narcissist for short times can really pretend to be anything. But it’s just to be enabled. To make you feel bad for them. And for attention.

[Summeroflove]

Eventually people become so exhausted and drained they have to walk away

[Bitter_Sweet94]

Exactly, they can mimic growth for a while, but it never holds.

What looks like vulnerability is usually a strategy to keep the support flowing.

And what looks like change is often just a pause in the cycle.

Most people don’t walk away because they stop caring.

They walk away because the constant emotional drain leaves nothing left to give.

At some point, protecting your peace becomes the only real option.

[Anonymous]

No. You can HELP them. But in the end they have to want to change like you said, or nothing is changing.

[Summeroflove]

Yeppers

[ABC1x1x]

Narcissism is a myth. Its just a man that won't let a woman gaslight him.

[Summeroflove]

Really? Gaslighting is a trait of narcissism. Not all men or women are narcissists and many narcissists love calling others narcissists…

[ABC1x1x]

Exactly. But im a man. So I blame the other team... like you blame my team. Someone should collect receipts.

[jahaims]

Weird to ask a question just to hear yourself talk.

[chucktheduck]

No one can change another person, that person must change themself

[Anonymous]

Yes, you can change narcissist into an egotist, or vice versa :P

[Anonymous]

Why would u change someone if u can just find someone better?

Remind the people in your life that theyre disposable. They will behave better

[Dina88]

Not really plus they could pretend to change.

[Summeroflove]

BOOM… and in some situations they may even believe they changed. But most the time it’s pretend.

Narcissists can really put on any act they want for a time. But they can’t keep it forever.

[beefcakebradybatson]

Perhaps, but NOT TRUMP !!!

[DrPepper12]

No. Just no

[Anonymous]

No..

[dudeinohio]

No. Never.

[whiskeyontherocks]

Simply no