Do you fall in love easily or does it take a lot for you to fall for someone?

[Simslover92]

I think it takes a lot for me to fall for someone. There has to be some kind of obstacle in the way of me getting to be with the person to start falling for them. Like a game.

[HawkPerception]

I fall in love pretty easily honestly. I get lost in the similarities and then it's all pixies and fairy dust in my eyes.

When they have similar views, interests sense of humor, goals align, sexual compatibility, and we're both very physically attracted to each other, I become one of the fallen.

[Still-alive]

Its usually lust or infatuation immediately then love much later. I feel i haven’t quite experienced true love just yet though

[Still-alive]

Just reading your details a bit and would you say for you to fall for someone they have to be not easy to get? Maybe you even like the chase?

[Simslover92]

Yes I guess you can say I like the chase. It has to be a challenge for me. I don't know why but it just does.

[Still-alive]

Well just speaking broadly most things tend to be more valuable when they are harder to get. Love may fall into that category too

[Still-alive]

Its called the scarcity effect or principle www.psychologs.com/the-scarcity-effect/?amp=1

[Simslover92]

Right it does indeed.

[Still-alive]

So yeah Just offering more insight into why love works that way for you. It’s fairly normal fyi.

[Simslover92]

Ok thank you so much!

[AI Opinion]

Ah, love is quite the thrilling game, isn't it? 🎢 Some people need that spark, that chase, or a little mystery to get the heart racing. Others fall head over heels at the first smile. It's all about what makes your heart tick! 💓 For some, a little challenge makes love sweeter, like the last piece of chocolate in a box. Whatever gets the love roller coaster rolling for you, embrace it!

[ohsheeT]

I have to stop myself from falling in love. I done even have to see them they can be 50000 miles away from me. I can start a chat with them in that moment, I can feel their energy and their energy tells me everything about them. And when it's compatible with my energy , it's so easy to fall in love with them. Energy words will start to paint a picture of them in my mind

But the most powerful thing is energy. When I can feel somebody's energy, the way that I do, sometimes it just blows me away. And it will be exactly like the picture I painted inside my head will be as big as what I felt through their words. So yeah, I have to stop myself sometimes.

[Finchie40]

It takes a lot for me to , only because I had my heart shit on a handful of times , so for me to fully give my heart to a girl , I have to really get to know her and make sure she is really in it for the long haul instead of the short haul , but when I was younger before having my heart shit on, I use to give my heart faster , because I use to think girls’ were more innocent and loyal then they actually were

[OlderAndWiser]

So you don't want something if it is too easy? Working to achieve makes it a more valuable goal?

[Simslover92]

Precisely

[aaron13547]

Its easy to fall in love. Extremely hard to grow love. I fall in love easy and I try very hard not to let myself do it! Falling in love looks like ignoring the bad things inspite of the good. Growing love is like learning to love your person for the crap you dont like about them. Its frustrating and doesn't feel like love.

But, Like how grandparents tell you they hated the others snoring, then one passes away. That snoring they once hated so much, they miss even more... Growing love takes equal effort it doesn't always feel worth it. But it can be. Anyone can fall. Not just anyone can make it worth it...

[sawno]

These days its like an impossible maze only my true lover can solve and that lover would do it without effort. Its happened once since I knew how to never be love blind again and she made the bar even higher, hoping it will happen again.

But my impossible I mostly mean its impossible to crack. You can't fake the right answers and it takes someone who truly fits me to find those answers to begin with.

It shouldn't be so hard, but so far my type has been very rare. Once I love on that level it never goes away, I am super loyal and comitted. But because I am so comitted I don't settle for someone I can't love on that level. Because in my head if anyone can come around and steal me whats the point you know? So I only ask a girl to be mine when I love her so much not a single girl in the world can make me leave.

Real deal only.

[RandomGirl42]

Oh, I fall in love a 1000 times a day with everyone. 🤣 That doesn't mean I want to be in a relationship with them tho. As far as that "special someone" I fell in love easy but it's 'cuz we had a connection since everyone considered us both weird to begin with.

[KostasKouvalis]

That's romantic as hell. I'm jealous

[Bitter_Sweet94]

It takes a lot.

I can feel attraction easily, but love is different.

Love requires consistency, emotional safety, and time.

I don’t fall for potential or intensity.

I fall for how someone shows up, especially when things are calm, ordinary, and real.

When I do fall, it’s not impulsive.

It’s intentional, grounded, and deep.

[Steak_D_Bone]

It isn't easy... I'm a glass-half-empty sort of guy and I see the flaws long before I see anything really good... if I ever see it at all. To be honest, the only real thing that makes me want to bother is for the sex.

I can get laid easily. Finding sex is easy. Beyond that, most potential relationships resemble the others or are just like the others. If I found that appealing, I probably would've stopped with the first one.

[On_cloud_wine]

It’s hard for me to fall in love but I work with a bunch of people who are compassionate about the same things I’m compassionate about.. you can easily tell who doesn’t care about customer service and how you treat others over a short period of time.. my fave people are in the restaurant industry and dating is easy there..:

[Beckybooboo]

It takes me a while to actually know I love someone but once I know it's love, it takes A LOT for me to lose those feelings, which, I guess, means I might hold on to a relationship longer than is healthy 🤷

[Natasha1995]

I think that the absence of any obstacle in the way of me getting to be with that person would be a necessary condition to fall in love with him. Don't obstacles make it harder still?

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

I identify as aromantic, it essentially means that any romantic attraction I have for others is essentially non-existent. I don’t fall in love, or really even get crushes on people, it’s just never really happened.

[Keyboardkat]

Is the problem that you don't have a libido, so you have no sexual urge or interest in anybody? This is medical issue, and you can be helped if you want to be helped. If you're happy the way you are, that's okay. The only problem I can see is that, if you are an attractive and nice person, someone may fall for you , and you will hurt them, hot because there's anything wrong with them, but you just don't have any desire to "couple up" with anyone. Curtis Sliwa on the radio called it losing "the urge to merge."

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

So sexual attraction is not the same as sex drive. I can understand why you would be confused and believe they’re mutually exclusive, but they’re not. Also, romantic desire has nothing to do with sexual desire, they are also not mutually exclusive

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

But I appreciate the queerphobia in your answer, I was afraid this place was all out 💀

[Keyboardkat]

WHAT? I said NOTHING that had anything to do with queerphobia. You know, some peop;le have a need to see the most evil motivations in the most innocent remarks. That's on you, not me. When you're a hammer, everything looks like a nail. For the record, I have no interest at all in whom anybody sleeps with! That's none of my business. I never think about it.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Calm down, Karen. It was a joke. Aromanticism is part of the LGBTQ+ community. You compared it to a medical condition, it was too easy of a shot to make lol

[Keyboardkat]

Karen? But I have two X chromosomes in every cell in my body, so there must be some mistake! I really didn't see the joke. We've all become too uptight and paranoic lately! Have a great evening!

[Apulu_backagain]

I have only fallen in love once but I never had romantic interactions. Before her I had situationships with few guys and they drained me out. And with all that I know, I may have a crush easily but it takes a lot for me to fall in love.

[Aspect58]

My first instinct now is to squelch those feelings of attraction the moment I start to feel them. It keeps me out of trouble.

Being a man in an actual loving relationship is lot like being an astronaut or pro athlete. Every young boy dreams about having it happen, but the vast majority are going to wind up disappointed.

[Nikki1989]

Normally it takes me a very long time if it happens at all. There have only been two cases of me falling in love quickly, and I am currently with both of them.

[melanieeeB]

Not easily but like I need to trust the person and feel like they care about me and give a shit about me and when they're there for me

[Still-alive]

I’m just curious but how might a guy feel sure her feelings for him back are also true in your opinion? Or is this one of those where the guy has to lead first?

[melanieeeB]

Uhm it's a little hard to explain.
Like I do say and show that I like someone and I will do things for them but if it's not reciprocated or like in a moment when I need someone, they show that they don't give a shit, then i'm not gonna catch feelings.
It might be something small, like asking for advice, and you just feel the vibe and if the person cares to really provide an answer or he just couldn't care less. Or like in dating back then, I would maybe tell them something personal and you can just feel if they care about what I just told them or they just wanna brush it off and go back to talking about my ass or something.
If i care, I will really listen and I want the same treatment back.

[melanieeeB]

It's not like I see someone and I find them hot or like a sweet comment and boom! I'm in love. Noo, i need something more on an emotional level and I need to see that the other person cares.
@Still-alive

[Still-alive]

i get that i guess im just from my end how can i be sure her feelings are also true for me? it's a two way street after all. i like to feel sure too. Women can also pretend or are just not as into it either as they seem im sure you know.

[Tarifa]

Way too easily. It's an incurable desease, one that brings happiness (sometimes) and a lot of trouble and heartache (most of the time).

[TonyMetal___86]

It depends on their actions because i'm someone who counts on actions more than just words, i mean that the words are beautiful but what are they good for if they can't be done? It's like writing checks that an a$$ can't cash hehe

[KostasKouvalis]

Damn, I'm the same way. But I don't neccesarily seek out obsticles, it just happens that way. I have a habit for pursuing girls that I can never have.

[sage2021]

If it's someone who I have really great chemistry with then it's easy to fall in love right away.

[Shiprex]

I do fall in love easily. It's the staying part I struggle with

[WonderingManII]

It takes me time to fall in love. But it doesn't take any time to make me horny if the woman looks sexy.

[red-lipstick-girl]

I'm normally asexual, but if I fall in love, I need to know it very well. I have many criteria.

[exitseven]

If I do not fight it it can happen fairly quick.

[loveslongnails]

I fall "in love" several times a day, especially if I'm out and about. LOL Ah, but to love someone takes a longer time.

[genericname85]

it only happened like 2-3 times in my life so far. i guess not that often xD

[AngryCarl2]

I fall in love very easily, and it happens roughly once a decade.

[dudeinohio]

I fall quickly and I fall hard... if there is a good vibe

[msc545]

When it comes to women, I no longer believe in love.

[Bklynbadboy12]

It takes a lot for me to fall in love i have trust issues

[Anonymous]

For me, it's usually love at first sight, and it's not easy, the girl has to be my type.

[WhitneySnow]

It takes a lot

[ᴍᴀʀʀɪᴇᴅɪsʟᴀᴍɪᴡᴏʀsʜɪᴘ]

My heart is in my wife

[Anonymous]

U love the game

[Anonymous]

I Still think love isn’t real

[loveyouoak]

I don't.

[ABC1x1x]

Love is fake and gay.