When a girl cheats , does it involve feelings or just lust?

[Finchie40]

Men mainly cheat for lust , especially if his woman isn’t putting out like she use to , but when a women cheats , is it for feelings or just list?

[alice55]

saying men cheat for lust mainly is actually quite false, quite a lot of men have no self worth at all and cheat because of it, their women don't put out and they get all of their self worth from their sexual desirability if they don't get it with their partner then they go searching for it with someone else this is more equal to emotional cheating than lust becuase what drive them to search and have sex with someone else is the desire to feel desired and get a boost of ego boost but men compared to women only can get their self worth from sex (very often at least for a lot of them) while women don't get it from sex but from compliment / gift / attention, but this is exactly the same things driving the cheating their sentiment of lack of worthiness they feel because of their partner action or becuase of their own perception of their partner action true or no.

When a woman cheat it's usually becuase they have no self worth at all or becuase they want to feel loved becuase they don't feel loved or valued or respected or desired in her couple.

Some men do cheat becuase of sex / lust but those usually go to a prostitute generally as there's a lot less chance of getting caught than trying to get on with their coworker or neighbor.

[Finchie40]

I had sex with a handful of taken women that lied to me and said they were single when really they weren’t , when I found out the truth , they all said it was because their partner treats them like shit and doesn’t really acknowledge her , so since they all pretty much said the same thing , I figured they were telling the truth , I’m not going to lie these taken girls’ treated me like gold and I felt loved by them by how they treated me , they treated me better than most of my ex girlfriends’ did , I guess I was their knight in shining armor by how amazing they treated me outside the bedroom and inside the bedroom , but the fact that they lied to me , was a turn off to me and I thought to myself who’s to say she won’t eventually do to me what she did to her partner , so I ended it with them and told them to go fix their marriage or divorce them and then maybe I will date you again when you are single , most of them went back to their husbands’ like nothing happened , which I kind of feel bad for these husbands’ knowing that their wives’ are cheating little whores

[alice55]

Those women are extremely good at manipulation you felt loved because they know how to make a man feel loved (and this Even though they re cheater) their men don’t always treat them badly often they just have a ways too high opinion of themselves or too low and this cheat on their partner.
They might lake you feel loved but i can guarantee you if you were together for 8 years you would not feel loved anymore.

They cheat cause they want to and they lie to get people to like them and make them feel sorry for them they re really good at this sadly and many people believe them it’s good that you told them off.
Those husband are far from perfect to be honest they usually are either not loving at all (and this with any women they re with) or have so Little self worth they accept anything or they get some benefit from the relationship so they stay inside it for example my sister is a cheating Whore like really it’s horrible the stuff she have done she Even manipulated my mother into giving her money and now is a freloader she give all the money she have to her boyfriend to keep him because she's afraid of him leaving her and don’t give a shit about stealing our mom money and she don’t Even stop her chetaing then be like « oh but i can change » bla blabla her boyfriend only stay for the money and he first for into a relationship with her while still loving his ex girlfriend and he don’t Even find my sister attractive so in the end often cheater and with weirdo they often kind of deserve each other in many case sadly this is what I noticed over the years.

[RavVid]

Isn't always the playbook though? You meet a girl and if she wants to be with you she treats you like gold, gives you all the sex you can handle and is very loving.

I have never had any experience with married women. I just expect it would be the same maybe more so because they might know more than a single girl.

It is all for bonding. If you get dopamine and great sex then you want to keep getting it.

Were these married ladies choosing you as the next man after they divorced their husband? Lots line up the next one before getting rid of the old.

[RavVid]

For men sex = love very strongly. If a woman loved us why wouldn't she want to give us lots of sex. It is close to indivisible. To distinguish is difficult but love and bonding takes time to occur while sex doesn't.

There is also the Coolidge effect. We like the rush of desire for a novel female. It makes us feel alive and reinvigorated. It is a genuine laboratory tested effect.

Put a female rat in cage with a male and he'll mount her very frequently. It gradually tailors off in frequency over time. Put a new novel female into the cage and the male rats libido is reawakened. He is mounting the new female very frequently and old female more often as well.

[itsannalee]

Most women cheat involve their feelings , that’s why most women think emotionally cheating is hurt more than just sex. And also when women caught their partner cheating on them, most first questions they ask is
“Do you love her?”. Not
“Did you sleep with her?”.

[RavVid]

I think we underestimate how powerful the instinctual 4F sex brain is (4F = feed, flight, fight, fuck).

I know my 4F sex circuits picks the girls I want most. Of course my neo cortex primate brain wraps some nice story line around what the 4F sex circuits have decided. She is nice, amusing, caring and would be a good mother but in fact my 4F sex circuits were entirely impressed by how fertile she looked.

I don't see any reason why the female 4F brain is not equally choosing on what was good for her in one million BC. Basically resources a guy can make available to her and how much desire he has for her.

Resources is obvious. Desire is assurance those resources will be available to her for some time. S a guy's lust for her is significant.

A 20 yo female might need fun and pick a bad boy for that. When she gets into the workplace, a man with a professional network might be more advantageous for her. If she wants babies a family man might start looking good. At each changeover there will be a lot of bonding lust.

Not saying this is conscious. Just saying there is a one million old program running in the background and it still calls the shots.

[RavVid]

Thanks for a MHO

[HawkPerception]

While women are definitely the more emotionally volatile of the genders, there are many women who can sleep around with no feelings involved. You see it all the time with OF models or girls who do hookups and then just ghost you the moment after. They exist. They aren't mythological creatures.

[AI Opinion]

So here's the scoop, sweet cheeks! When it comes to cheating, motivations can be as tangled as a headphone cord in your pocket. For some women, it's about seeking emotional connection or escaping a relationship's rough patch, while for others, it's swimming in a pool of temptation and lust. 😏 It's not a one-size-fits-all scenario. Understanding the "why" can often weave back to communication and unmet needs. Keep those conversations open and honest, and maybe keep the lusty loops just for date night! 💃🥂

[AviatorTom]

It's a great question that I'm not qualified to answer.

[Sal_Monella]

They aren't getting what they want from a relationship and cheat to compensate themselves for the shortfall and then continue when they realize that it is not working to incentivize us to do better. It is not lust or even weakness, more like men do. It is out of revenge and for their bad decision making.

My ex, aka Beelzebub, ended up with crabs, chlamydia and addicted to psychiatric drugs from it. There is also reason to believe she was molesting my son during that time.

[Finchie40]

That’s crazy , sorry to hear that bro

[lightbulb27]

I hear it's emotional for women. It's in their heads.

Whether she can be honest of her feelings or even aware of them is a question. Ultimately, she was drawn into someone else because she was open to it. why open to it is a sleuthing project.

[WhitneySnow]

It usually involves feelings, unless she’s my age or a little older and is purposely exploring her sexuality. And if she is, she’s more likely to be single.

[sage2021]

I believe that the women of today it's both.
A lot of times when a guy has a girlfriend or a wife and he leaves her alone too much and for too long, that's why she cheats.

[snapkingmatt]

I think it's mostly for filling the gap. There's anger, neglect and sexual frustration, leading up to spontaneous acts. Also lust and alcohol play their part.
If it's cheating for deeper emotions, that's more troubling. Sex is just sex, but love for another man is an affair. I'm okay with sex, not with affairs. These can really end a relationship.

[NathanDavis]

the same "citations" that "show" that men cheat mostly because of lust... also demonstrate that women mostly cheat because emotional detachment, yeah...

but the same people explain that these are not the only factors involved but... more like some sort of "catalyst"

and they also allege that there's just cheaters who are going to cheat regardless... and those are not about gender either... lol

[exitseven]

I think it depends. Maybe a girl cheats with a guy she just met and it is just lust or maybe she has feelings for a guy she works with and cheats with him.

[loveslongnails]

Women cheat statistically for the following reasons, according to a survey by Psychology Today:
* #1 - emotional, mental, or physical unfulfillment
* #2 - general detachment and loss of connection
* #3 - straight up revenge

Straight up sexual lust is about 6th on the list for women. Men cheat because they like variety and because they can.

[lilBigPotato]

Depends on the person, but I think more often than not feelings are involved

[Anonymous]

Feelings but also she is looking to move on with the next guy that shows any commitment. Narcissists also have their reasons

[AgentG111]

Depends on the women and why she cheated? Or what she tells you. They ALL lie!

[RedInnocent69]

It’s complicated. Feelings, yes, but necessarily in the way you might think… she could be feeling lonely and unsupported, not in love with the new penis owner (s)…

[Devil678]

No matter what cheating is, it's not okay whether you feel like it or have feelings involved, that doesn't make things any better

[Finchie40]

Yea cheating is cheating , I feel all cheating comes from selfish behavior

[robocop666]

people say men and women cheat for the differetn reasons reasons why is not the same reasons? Women cheat when they see a better option like a good looking guy just like guys do.

[jahaims]

All people cheat to cope with self hate by seeking unhealthy validation

[ABC1x1x]

You give women to much credit. They dont have feelings or forethought.

[Tamera952]

I’d say mainly feelings, or for attention and/or spite. Rarely is it for lust.

[FreyaRed]

Generally cheaters have no feelings, they just pretend to have some.

[Brady]

I read girls can do it 4 sex but the main reason is 2 get the attention the guy's not givin her. They want someone 2 make them feel their pretty.

[Finchie40]

Yea that’s primarily true , especially from the ones I slept with that told me they were single when really they weren’t , but once I found out the truth and asked them why they did it , they all said because her husband or boyfriend treated her like shit and barely paid any attention to them , so if I see a girl that has a boyfriend or husband that gives her a lot of his attention and she still cheats on him , she is the biggest POS on this planet in my eyes for her to even consider cheating on a guy that values her and wants to spend time with her ,

[KostasKouvalis]

I guess it can be both, but the ones I knew, it mostly involved lust. They started to feel guilty when emotion started to become involved.

[Anonymous]

Just lust, women, or really anyone who cheats, aren't capable of what you or I call human emotion. Cheaters are narcissistic monsters who exist without empathy, without a soul.

[Hellraiser1984]

For fun and lust. She's probably looking for someone better because your not doing it for her anymore

[Jackblue]

It really depends on the woman. Disproportionately, I would say women do so for feelings men for lust but there are exceptions in both cases.

[Paige90]

I think it involves both

[BarryLiverstone]

Girls chest for all the reasons that guys cheat

[Finchie40]

I don’t see it that way considering I been on both sides of the spectrum a handful of times

[BarryLiverstone]

It’s true. You have had some experience but overall there are lots of reasons

[Flower7]

@Finchie40 You’ve cheated before?

[BarryLiverstone]

I’ve never cheated when I’ve been in a committed relationship

[Finchie40]

@Flower7 , if you want to consider it cheating then yes I did once before , when I was younger and the girl I was in a relationship with treated me like complete shit, so I ended up hooking up with another girl that came on to me and I didn’t say No , but I immediately dumped my girlfriend the next day and told her it’s over between us , by cheating on her was pretty much my answer that it was over between us , other than her, I never cheated on anyone else ever again because even though I knew I was dumping her , I still
Felt somewhat guilty for hooking up with that other girl. Most people said they don’t consider it cheating because I was ending it with her anyways , but I still feel like I cheated because I got with that other girl before ending it with her , I also been with girls’ that were cheating on their partners’ for me , so cheating doesn’t sit well with me considering i experienced both sides of the spectrum

[beefcakebradybatson]

Perhaps both.

[Anonymous]

Probably depends on the girl.

[Monte-Cristo]

When a girl cheats it doesn't matter why...