How can a woman detach her feelings from a man that she is in a relationship with?

[Anonymous]

[Noredcarpet]

It happens automatically after you have been hurt, let down, feel alone in the relationship, things not resolved, etc, so it is not something to me you can do anything about if the two of you are not on the same page and if you have no hope you will be.

I had to leave exes/serious relationships because I simply did not love them the same after everything that had and was happening.

It did not help that they then and later tried to get me back, saying their love for me hadn't changed or died. Mine had. I could not bring it back to life, I had no hope it would come back.

It is a painful process to stop loving someone but I honestly felt it was out of my control this processe. It is painful while in it but you will come out on the other side.

In the meanwhile do what you can to still enjoy life, focus on your life during, after. I had before adjusted myself as much as I could but found myself stronger when focusing on my life. Before I just wasted energy for nothing trying to solve, adjust, keep loving the exes. There is relief when you finally say to yourself I've done evrrything I can, now I let go, and then you let him go.

[beenherebefore]

Break things off if you want to detach so badly.

[queenofcardio]

Start thinking of reasons why you don't like him

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Girl, just dump him and cry about it later

[Abbycado]

Why wouldn’t you just break up?