Forgave boyfriend after a physical affair, 3 years later i’ve caught him on sex chat rooms/cam girls. is it time to end our 5 year relationship?

[Littlemissdaisy]

I found out my boyfriend had been sexting a few girls and was sleeping with one. It blew up, we broke up and a week after leaving me he came back and begged for me back. I thought we had something good and forgave him with promise never again and he’d work on his issues.

3 years later and we’re better than ever, or so I thought, until a notification popped up whilst I watched YouTube on his iPad from chaturbate.. he denied and said must be spam until I said funny how it knows your body type and unique username number that he uses for everything.. silence. He finally admitted it and said he’s been “relatively good” as opposed to the physical affair. He says he doesn’t know why he’s done this especially after everything and doesn’t want to lose me. What is he playing at? Is it time to accept it’s over and I’ll never be able to trust him?

[lightbulb27]

You know what you've got... a sick child that cannot live by the contract rules. PS, he is a boyfriend, not a spouse, so you can leave easily.

Nothing changes without a LOT of effort and commitment. Want to get ripped abs and pecs, going to have to hit the gym hard, change diet, commitment! If he wants to deal with his "cheating", he needs mens accountability group, therapy for his addictions, reading books.

There is no way around th efact that this stuff highly programs the mind, is a dopamine hit, and he's an addict. no different than any other addict. You cannot trust what he says, but what he does.

So full access to stuff is required, open communication, eetc..

If you want to work for it and you can handle that environment... ok. This may be a recurring issue through life while you deal with this individual. Or you, give him the ultimate motivation and move on and let him suffer. More suffering for him is better, gives him reason to change, but then you lose your investment.

Ain't no wedding ring on the docket and you aren't close to knowing why he is messed up, so it's gonna take years.

[loveslongnails]

Better question: he's shown you EXACTLY who he is. Not once, but at least twice. So WHY are you still there? That's the question. WHY are you on GAG looking for validation for what should be the easiest decision of you life? You know what's wrong with him, so what's wrong with YOU that you're not gone?

Get out yesterday and have some respect for yourself, ok? No drama, no tears, no more chances. If he has stuff at your place, give it back. If you have stuff at his, get it. All you need are two words: "We're done".

[Littlemissdaisy]

That’s a tough pill to swallow but you’re right, my confidence is down the drain and I think he’s been trying to manipulate me into thinking I can’t survive on my own as he earns a lot more than I do and we live together. I am scared to leave and I guess I was stupidly falling for the “it’s not that bad/could be worse” mentality and trying to justify staying for an easier life despite the disappointment. He tells me I’m too sensitive and wondered if other guys thought I was being too sensitive on the subject. Thanks for the input

[loveslongnails]

Putting yourself behind financially is always a tough decision. I guess you could turn the tables on him and stay for a while but look for a better place to land. No, you're not being too sensitive. Tell him you want another side guy and watch who becomes too sensitive. LOL

[Anonymous]

I caught my ex husband cheating on me again and again. You should do what I did and start planning your exit. I put aside a lot of money that was his money and had my mother keep my money for me. I quit my job so he was the primary bread winner and called the cops from the bathroom and went out and started a physical altercation with him, when the police arrived he had his hands in me, he got locked up for the weekend and I had the locks changed b4 he got out. I got full alimony, full child custody, full child support, half of all his savings and possessions and I got the family home given to him by his parents.

[Littlemissdaisy]

Thanks for the reply, we live together and I have a child (from previous relationship) so it’s not as easy as we’re done and I’ll never see him again so I’m grateful for the response. I love the plan you made 😉 I hope it helped ease the heartache !

[Anonymous]

You should have dumped him the first time. People don’t change. And you forgiving them doesn’f inspire them to be better it makes them think they can get away with it because you won’t leave anyway. Never give a man a second chance, and definitely not a third. Yes, you should leave him.

[AI Opinion]

Hey, love! You're in a rollercoaster of emotions, and trust isn't a light matter. Your gut thought might be whispering a big red flag here. After all this drama, sometimes it's time to grab a mirror and see if what you're getting is matching what you’re giving. Your happiness and well-being are golden – don’t settle for "relatively good". If deception is a habit, maybe it’s time for him to swipe left! 💔🚪👉

[HawkPerception]

Once someone cheats the first time, you should have some self respect and leave their ass. Some things things aren't worth a second chance. Cheating is one of them. And I strongly believe, once a cheater always a cheater.

[Abbycado]

Should have ended it when he cheated. You just found out the hard way that people don't change.

[MisterPandemonium]

Kinda sounds like your boyfriend might be a sex addict.

Or a total piece of sh*t.

Either way, you should probably dump him.

[vj0090]

I have been through this.. have a different opinion. Feel free to text if possible

[Noredcarpet]

I would leave yes. The choice is yours.

[Anonymous]

Yes, it's time.

[butterly248]

Definitely

[Nemesis2k7]

Another stupid bot question

[Littlemissdaisy]

I wouldn’t always assume, you could be devastating and already devastated person. Some people don’t feel heard or are called stupid IRL, don’t do the same to us online when we seek some comfort through talking.

[MasterKS]

you should before.