Guys, I don’t feel like I am good enough for him, how do I stop feeling this way?

[Anonymous]

I have a severe case of multiple sclerosis and I am on disability. I use ability aids to help me walk. Ever since I was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis in 2019, I have put off dating because I didn’t feel worthy or like any man would want me because I can’t work and have ability aids. Recently, I met this guy through a friend. He is a single dad, a successful business owner, and is super sweet and handsome. I liked him right off the bat and I was surprised when he asked me out. We had our first date and it went great. It was so great in fact that he asked me out for a second date, of which we had this morning. After the date, he asked to see me again this week. While I said yes and I am really happy to be going out with him again, I feel bad in a way. I feel like I have nothing to offer him. He is successful and has a lot going for him and then there’s me, who is disabled and doesn’t have a job or anything to contribute apart from love and loyalty. I feel kind of like a loser or that I’m not worthy of him. I really like him and I am happy, but I feel so bad about myself. I don’t know what he sees in me or how he could like someone like me. My question is how do I stop feeling so bad? Am I worthy enough for him? Would you date a woman like me? Why do you think he likes me? Thanks in advance for all of your replies.

[Orion84]

Think of it this way: despite your own perceived shortcomings, this guy obviously enjoys spending time with you, and wants to see you again, so you obviously have something to offer him.

He clearly sees more to you than you see in yourself. He enjoys your company, and wants to spend time with you. That's enough. He values you for your personality, and who you are as a person. He doesn't see you as a handicap, or a burden; he sees you as a person, and one that he enjoys being with.

Even though you're concerned that you have nothing to offer, you do, and he thinks so, too. You're better than you think you are, and he recognizes that. You should follow his lead, and think of yourself as deserving of his attention, too. Just be yourself; that's what he wants, and be happy. 🙂

[Stevepro68]

Listen you should seek therapy of some type to help you deal with the trauma that leads you to these thoughts as well as your illness. If not it will eat your relationship alive. It's not what he thinks that matters to you it's what you think he is thinking. Never ends well.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, love is a wild ride, isn't it? 😄 The magic formula you're looking for is confidence and self-love. You see, worthiness isn't about looks or achievements—it's about the heart and soul. He's digging you for YOU, not your resume! So, channel that fabulous energy, and let go of the doubts. Trust his feelings, have fun, and bask in the glow of this connection. Besides, love makes us the richest we've ever been. You're a prized gem, my dear, and he clearly sees it! Keep sparking joy, and who can resist that? 💖✨

[LiamS95]

Girl, you need confidence, I know several married girls with kids and supportive husbands that have severe MS yet have lived reasonably great lives for many years.

[Anonymous]

Focus on your talents.

[zombiewoof]

You are good enough