Is there something wrong with you if can’t find someone who wants a serious relationship with you?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Yes and no. There's nothing wrong with being single. But if you really want to NOT be single and it isn't happening, you have to be self reflecting enough to understand why you are. 1. Are you realistic about where you rank, what you bring to the table. I can sit here and say I'm on Scarlet Johansson's level all day. But the reality is I'm NOT and no matter how much I bombard her with love letters saying we're meant to be together isn't going to change that fact. 2. Are you actually a good person? This is a very big problem with the women of G@G. Whether they're 16 or 65, most of the women of this site have grown up thinking her physical attractiveness is 98% of the game and her personality is like 2%. So she can be Cruella Deville on the inside just so long as she looks banging on the outside. This may get your foot in the door to inexperienced guys. But as soon as you hit 30 that's all going to change. Men know all your genders tricks by then. 3. How mature are you? This is another malady of the women of G@G. a lot of you very much overestimate your maturity. Just because you think something doesn't automatically make it, "the way". You will lose with guy after guy until you figure this out. His way ain't necessarily the way either. But you do have to be cognizant that guys do think differently than your gender.

Finally, keep in mind 18-24 (in the grand scheme of things) is still pretty young. At your age, both genders are still learning about the other. I wouldn't hit the panic button just yet.

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

Not necessarily. Yes, if you have a ton of qualities that the opposite sex does not find appealing, then it's definitely something wrong with you that's preventing you from finding someone.

But there are many people who just don't put themselves in the right scenarios or socialize often enough. Getting into a relationship is usually just a numbers game. The more people you talk to, the more likely you are to find someone for yourself. Everyone has a "close rate" based on their qualities. Let's say your close rate is 1%. That means every 100 people you talk to there's one person you click with and start dating. The more good qualities you have, the higher your close rate and the less good qualities you have, the lower your close rate is. But there aren't many people with a 0% close rate in the world where absolutely no one is willing to go out with them.

Bitter_Sweet94 · Accepted Answer

No.

Not finding someone who wants something serious doesn’t automatically mean something is wrong with you.

Sometimes it means you’re emotionally available in a dating pool that isn’t.

Or you’re clear about what you want while others are still exploring, avoiding, or healing.

Serious relationships require timing, self awareness, and readiness on both sides not just attraction.

It’s also possible you’re filtering out people who would waste your time, even if it doesn’t feel that way yet.

The real issue isn’t “Why doesn’t anyone choose me?''

It’s “Am I choosing people who are capable of choosing me back?”

Wanting something real doesn’t make you difficult.

It makes you intentional.

7Phoenix7 · Accepted Answer

No, the right kind of connection doesn’t always come easy. It takes time to find someone who’s not only serious as you are but also compatible.

And honestly, just focusing on enjoying life and doing what you love is better than actively searching for someone to be with. When you do things you love you naturally tend to run into people with similar interests and mindsets.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

As a relationship coach here to help sprinkle some clarity on the dating scene, let's dive deep into this question! It's not you, darling; it might just be about timing or mingling amidst the wrong crowd. Sometimes folks are vibing at a different frequency or might be stuck in that ghosting loop or lovebombing phase. Remember, someone out there is probably looking for the exact brand of fabulous that you are! Keep shining and stay open to new possibilities. 💖✨

ohsheeT · Answer

There's nothing wrong with you everything is energy and sometimes. It takes time for everything to line up be patient be positive and relax just let it happen

DishLady · Answer

Nope. Sometimes the well is just dry. Better to be alone than with the wrong person.

Anonymous · Answer

I tend to believe in a majority of cases yes. Especially if you’re cute. I say this because women who are cute pretty much can have their pick of whatever man they want. So a lot of times the issue isn’t a lack of men who want her. More than likely it’s her personality. If a man isn’t willing to commit to you as gorgeous as you are it’s usually the personality. Looks draw is in, personality keeps us or chases us away. I could see if maybe you had bad luck w a couple dudes but I’d you’re just striking out left n right, chances are it’s you. Look at a lot of these women in their 30s who are gorgeous. Gorgeous from a man’s perspective that is. A lot of them are still single for that reason. Maybe because they act like men, being boss babes, living the mentality of I don’t need a man till they realize I need a man now no man wants me cause they want girls who are younger w less baggage.

Purpleronnie · Answer

Well I’ve met many girls / women that I would never even contemplate having a relationship with. Some because their personality was unattractive, or they were emotionally volatile , their values didn’t align with mine , because I feel I’d be looking after them , because they seemed attracted to drama … etc etc , the list goes on

But none of those mean there is anything wrong with the girl or woman … just that o felt they were not compatible with me

Miristheiss · Answer

You put out.

If you have sex easily or a history of it there is no need to commit.

People used to commit to jave families. Legacies.

Why do people need to commit when there are no kids and everyone is fucking everyone?

Seriously? Commit to what?

genericname85 · Answer

It's a terrible idea to make "something wrong with you" your identity, cause there's no fix to that. You just assume you're damaged so you stop trying. Instead what's helpful to think is: you're just not doing the right things to get what you want yet. That presents you with 2 strategies. 1: you can change what you're doing. 2: you can change what you want. If you keep using these strategies, you'll eventually get there.

DextroShade · Answer

If you are man it used to be because you were some combination of short, ugly, or broke; now most regular dudes are priced out of the market by hoeflation.

If you are a woman it is because you are either ran-through, insufferable, or you are going after guys out of your league who just smash you but never take you seriously.

Anonymous · Answer

The issue isn't necessarily you personally, but women in general. Many men have given up on marriage because of what women have done to it, and marriage was always the carrot for men to pursue serious relationships. Women have also made casual sex the norm, so men no longer need to commit to have sex. Those things combined are a recipe for what we see happening today.

beenherebefore · Answer

I would say there's 50/50 chance that there's something about you putting people off and 50/50 chance they're the ones putting you off.

DonaldDarko · Answer

Could be or could just be the times we live in. Men and women have sex not relationships. It's like Brave New World.

slatyb · Answer

Not necessarily. You may just need to widen your dating circle, or maybe just move to a place where you are more appreciated.

WonderingManII · Answer

It depends. Number 1 you got be around compatible people. Number 2 if you are around compatible people and they don't like you, then the problem is with you.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Nah, not always. A certain degree of luck is involved.

Anonymous · Answer

No. Sadly if you’re straight it’s often hard to find a guy you’re attracted to who wants a serious relationship. It’s not just you.

Jersey2 · Answer

No. Probably bad advertising. Meaning clothing, hobbies, hygiene, getting out in the world etc

shortster · Answer

Not necessarily. Maybe you just live in a terrible place for dating like Kansas City.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Nah the issue can be limitless

Anonymous · Answer

It feels like it.

snermcger · Answer

Yes. You're probably a douche bag.

Pohjolan · Answer

No one is perfect.

Anonymous · Answer

Not necessarily.

Anonymous · Answer

difficult to say but probably not

jahaims · Answer

Duh.

dudeinohio · Answer

Not necessarily

MasterKS · Answer

I dont want either.

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