Why can’t I find a serious relationship, I just don’t get it. This shouldn't be so hard, how do other people find a relationship, please help?

[Intothevoid666]

I don’t know what to do anymore. I’ve done everything I can think of to be as attractive as possible. In theory at least I should be an absolute catch, so I don’t get why this is so hard. I’m in great shape, like I have 10 visible abs. I’m working on a career in finance, I’m better at fashion than most women, I’m better at makeup than most women, I take care of my skin really well, I have a pretty face and hair. I usually get complimented on my hair multiple times whenever I go out. I think I have a great personality, I’m really smart, I think I’m a really empathetic person. Maybe not on here lmao but irl. I’m tall. My body count isn't particularly high. I guess maybe I’m just trying to feel better by saying all this but. What is wrong with me? Like shouldn’t I be like the catch of a lifetime? Why am I struggling soooo hard? I approach woman after woman after woman just for nearly every one to play hard to get til the end of time. Only when I get desperate and approach women I don’t even like do I have any results. And it’s not even like I can get them to chat with me or go on a date with me. I’ve never been in love in my whole life and I really doubt I ever will at this rate. I’ve just poured my heart and soul into finding a relationship and I just Can’t find it. Sex is 10000x easier to find. That’s so not helpful tho. How do I get women to not play hard to get? please someone give me some advice cuz I’m like actually going to cry. I really really really don’t want to die alone. And I need a serious relationship when I’m young and not when I’m old or I just won’t be into it. What do I do? I can’t make myself any more attractive and I still can’t find what I want. Wtf dude?

[Kiss_Me]

The bottom line is the problem is YOU. The way you see yourself and how you handle dating is at fault. I had the SAME problem when I was still in HS. I could not figure out how so many people were dating yet I was not.

Get off the dating Auto-pilot mentality. Auto-pilot says, "Get into a relationship." The problem is a relationship is the end game. There is rarely if ever and training on how to get there.

Try dating a lot. By that, I mean ask out virtually anyone available JUST TO HAVE SOME FUN. Avoid relationship activities such as hanging out to watch a movie, etc. Always pick up or meet the date OUTSIDE of your home. Complete the activity, and then GO HOME.

This will an effect on you and other people. YOU will LEARN to easily and effectively make date request, and talk and communicate with women. You will learn how to NOT put up with a woman's bad habits or traits and stand your ground. You will learn what you want and don't want from women.
Women, on the other hand, will see you out with other people and start to see you as datable and even desirable. Many will view you as "Safe" and want to date you. in other words, it opens opportunities.

Eventually, you will come across someone that is attractive, fun, interesting, moral, and ready for a relationship. The skills you developed will help you with her significantly.

[Intothevoid666]

I can’t get any girls to even go on a date with me tho?

[Intothevoid666]

When I used to take my attractive female friend out with me it didn’t do much to get other women interested

[Kiss_Me]

You are WAYYYYY too short-sighted. No one EVER said the results would be instant or the same day. Give girls a chance to see you with different people and talk among themselves.

Then again, don't listen to me. Just throw your arms across your chest and scream, "That's not going to work!" Why even try.

[Intothevoid666]

I don’t have time for that nonsense and if I do I don’t want a relationship afterwards

[Adronicus]

I don't waste my time on woman that play games. I couldn't say for sure unless I observed you in action trying to get one irl but I'll take a couple jabs on what it may be.

#1 lose you expectations & live in the moment
#2 set boundaries for what you'll tolerate & what you won't, any fails the test & cut them lose.
#3 don't be desperate, desperation repels woman & they have a 6th since about such things.
#4 learn to read body language & never invest more of yourself than she does.
#5 most games woman play are a test to see characteristics in the man, you pass them by not caring / appearing weak, I know it sounds counter intuitive but most woman expect a man to lead & you HAVE to learn not to care if she chooses to follow or not.

[Intothevoid666]

I am desperate for a relationship I really don’t want to die alone and I’m not gonna be interested in women past 21 so I’m kinda desperate ngl so what do I do? What’s wrong with really wanting a relationship? Doesn’t everyone really want a relationship. It’s like only women don’t seem to be trying very hard and they’re the ones getting less attractive with age moreso than me so I don't know why they’re not trying harder and if a girl tries to play games by playing hard to get that is it I don’t care if I past the test I simply do not want it anymore.

[Intothevoid666]

Well if the ones I want don’t follow then what do I do cuz I’m not going for the ones I don’t want

[Adronicus]

That desperations you're problem, it bleeds through your interactions & women are picking up on it & denying you as a result.

[Adronicus]

Become a more valuable prospect than all the other guys, many ways to do this, work on your appearance, work on finances, work on your goals. Thats what I did & before I knew it I could land plenty of ladies without trying. Also looking for long-term or just hookups? This matters GREATLY & you'll have to adapt you tactics for which it is you desire.

[Intothevoid666]

I couldn’t be more attractive did u see my post?

[Selene1600000]

You’ve clearly put a lot of effort into yourself, but attraction alone doesn’t guarantee a relationship. Many women who seem to be "playing hard to get" may simply not feel the connection you’re looking for, and that’s not necessarily a reflection of your worth. Focus less on convincing someone to choose you and more on finding people who are genuinely excited to get to know you.

[zagor]

Have you tried online? Not that it has a very high batting average, but it does provide a larger fishpond.

[Intothevoid666]

The more I use it the less matches I get and the lower quality the matches I get maybe I’ll try again soon but it’s not that helpful in my opinion

[zagor]

Don't limit yourself to one site.

Although you do have to be careful as they all seem eager to take your money.

[Shamalien]

live on the west coast? Yeah sex is easy to find but love is hard…

[Intothevoid666]

Florida

[Shamalien]

Florida? I thought there are lots of good conservative girls looking for an ltr there

[Intothevoid666]

Not so much in south Florida. And I think I like liberal women more. I’m too weird for most conservative women tbh. They’re usually not into guys who like fashion and makeup ime.