Do you think people fall in love with a person or with the version of themselves they are around that person?

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beenherebefore · Accepted Answer

If the person is not being honest with you then you're in love with the version of themselves that doesn't really exist.

bobalife · Accepted Answer

I love this question, I think it’s possible to have a combination of both or one over the other!

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

As a relationship coach, I've seen both! People can fall for someone because of how they elevate them, turning them into the best version of themselves. It's like seeing yourself in a flattering mirror. 😍 But true love is also about loving the other person for who they are, not just how they make you feel. It's all about balance, darling!💕

ohsheeT · Answer

This one of the best questions ever so your single for a long time and out of know where you meet someone you start hanging out having fun.  You're used to being home on the couch watching t. V or something every night , and now you're with a new person , having fun  And it become exciting you start doing things together that maybe one of you has not done before  I am a very firm believer that we were giving everything we were given knowledge. We were just given everything. And every time we do something new or we do it with somebody new  We open up the door within and it becomes a beautiful moment. And you're happy you content, you feel things you haven't felt before. And you start telling yourself that you're in love with this person , because of all this And every time you do something new , more doors open within , you become more happy  And you think it's this person, can you think it's love? But what you don't understand is All those feelings that you feel inside are yours and only yours because they came from you. And only you  Sure, the person was there and you did new things together. But everything that you feel is coming from you , because you're the only person on the inside of you  This is why I always say before you can love anybody? You have to love yourself because when you love yourself. You know , yourself and you know that those feelings are only When you start saying that they're coming from him.
He can make you feel that way, but he didn't. You? Did you made yourself feel that way you love yourself? You understand this , you understand every part of love And when you don't understand it and you break up
That's when all the hurtful parts come because of everything that you did together in the feeling that you had or the feeling that you got when you were together doing things? And that's what you call love that's not love.   You haven't been on the couch watching t. V or experiencing all these new things? And you're calling that love  And I love that you're feeling is the love that's coming from you. When you are around him, the love that you're feeling toward yourself on the inside or that you're giving yourself on the inside is not him. That's why people have difficult times after a breakup Because that love is so confused because you think it's him, it's not, it's you. You fell in love with yourself. You fell in love with love your love when you are around him So yeah , I do think that people fall in love with themselves are the idea because of new experiences
 And it's the love that they should have learnt before they even went dating. Then they would understand what love is all about. People would stay together, more people would love deeper and better. With 10 times more respect With no egos. Everything is just happy

DishLady · Answer

A little of both. There’s one guy I really loved bc his energy inspired me to do things I normally would struggle with: he unlocks my competitive spirit. But it never works for us bc he’s a very selfish sort of guy and so he doesn’t get why I do so much community service.

There are also guys who love being around me bc they like my energy and the way I talk, but it’s not really “love” like relationship love… and it’s not friendship. It’s close to a therapeutic sort of connection that sometimes lasts ans sometimes fades.

Anonymous · Answer

Neither. I think people just mesh sometimes. And at some point you're hopelessly intertwined before you even realize it. I think you fall in love with that. Where you just don't want anybody else in your life after that in a non friend capacity.

My wife asked me out. Up to that point I had no idea what she thought about me. We just got along good. I just told a friend that she was attractive. But I thought that about a lot of women so I didn't necessarily mean anything beyond that. But then that sneaky friend went behind my back and told her I said that. Then she came up to me and asked me out. I figured what the hell, what have I got to lose. 29 years later we're still together and I can't imagine life with anyone else. I still don't get why she chose me though.😆

MontBlanc · Answer

Both, usually.

People often love how someone makes them feel confident, playful, safe more than the person themselves. But over time, real love also includes the actual person: their habits, flaws, and choices.

The healthiest connections balance both: you enjoy who you are around them *and* who they actually are.

Nikki1989 · Answer

People like to pretend it’s simple — “you fall in love with a person” — but real relationships are more layered than that. The truth is: both things can be true at the same time.

Anonymous · Answer

Is it weird that I just like the excitement of being around them? I get nervous and might blush but I do my best to work through it and maintain eye contact without visibly melting inside.

There is a feeling of wanting to be close to them that can’t really be explained. It’s the definition of attraction. It’s something I’ve not felt in such a long time until recently. I was starting to believe it didn’t exist anymore.

RubyRed12343 · Answer

Sometimes they love how they made or want the other person to be. So, they love someone, but what they actually love is the idea of that person that was made from their thoughts and what little they know about them.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I think that "fall in love" really describe infatuation, not actual love. True love is a giving thing.

Fʊʟʟʍօօn · Answer

People fall in love with the person they're used to, over time..

WhitneySnow · Answer

I think it’s both. Hopefully at least part of your feelings are for the real person.

qwerty2469 · Answer

I feel men bond out of the remaining instincts from our hunter gathering life style. Women pair bond for protection and to be taken care of.

Kelly6 · Answer

@elenaseluna version of themselves?

serious · Answer

I think it is with the person.

Alex-Snow · Answer

I think it is with the person

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Probably more the latter.

whiskeyontherocks · Answer

Neither

fish5505_87 · Answer

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