Do we fall for a person, or for who we become around them?

[HawkPerception]

Not allowed to say both. Lean more towards one.

Fall for the person

Fall for who we become around them

[Noredcarpet]

I think what we feel like around them. I see I am adding to the small number on here, only 25% but hey, it's still 25%, lol. I have seen this over and over and it is that people I know or know off are attracting and are attractive to people that mormor themselves at hhe time. Because it makes it OK for how they somehow feel about themselves. Worst example I can come up with was when my ex who we think got bipolar and jealous for no reason as part of the condition he was in was now pulling away from his group of good normal guys of friends to what I got a strong feeling was guys who practically hate girls (but deep down love them, fascinated by them, but messed up themselves) because I suppose now he was himself going through that darkness of him still feeling like he loved me and could not walk away but then there was the sickness in him creating this unreal scenario that I had someone else and who it could be. I have plenty of more examples, but u know, it would take a book...

My point is How you may feel about yourself around someone may not always be that what ever is inside you, the reason/s for it is that that other person is who is right for you, but it is maybe that you can still stay you, not having to dig deeper or change and this make you feel it is the right call, and it can even make you think like the number of 75% people at this point do that of cource it is the person you fall for.

[Noredcarpet]

God I need to check my eyes. Misspelled, sorry about that. It was suppose to say mirror not mormor. If there are other errors I apologize

[PeachyPie93]

Well mainly the fall in love with the person but I think it's a bit of both. I feel you also will be more drawn to them if they are someone who helps you to grow and become a better person with them.

[OlderAndWiser]

Initially, we fall for the romanticized fantasy that we have created in our imaginations, based upon just a few nuggets of truth about them.

[AviatorTom]

That's very perceptive.

We fall for a person who makes us happy. That's the way it's supposed to work.

[Crimsyjo]

I fall for a person based on not only who they are but how much of the real me I can be around them. I know you mean if they make you better. But usually that happens slowly over time after you fall fir someone and if they are good for you and not early in before you fall for them. In fact that period - where u may act your best - is not the real you and doesn't last.

[queenofcardio]

We fall for the person. You may change who are because you are influenced by who that person is.

I'm attracted to certain qualities in people . I am drawn to someone based on who they are.

[a_gallant_one]

For who we think this person is most of the time.

[serious]

The first one for sure.