What’s one value you refuse to compromise on in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

[Vesuvius87]

Fidelity, safety and gentle parenting

I respect my marital vows (we had a non-religious wedding but still had our vows) and I'm there with my loving husband till the very end. If he doesn't want to respect his vows and cheats, it would be over.

Unlike my parents, I won't allow violent episodes in my marriage. If ever threatened or strike, that's an immediate red card (one strike and you're out) and I'm filing for divorce right there, along with assault charges.

We both agreed on not ever using corporal punishment on our son. I won't allow violence of any type. I do not normalize that. I'm Latina but against that practice.

[Little_Bumblebee]

Fidelity.

Not interested in being with someone, where I'm not enough for them.

I'm not interested in someone of they hook up with others in the dating phase either.

[Berethor]

Virginity, I want a good woman, not a ho, I want a clean woman, a woman I can trust.

https://allthetropes.org/wiki/Nature_Adores_a_Virgin

[MrChinaski]

Friend. We get it. You like virgins. Fine. It doesn't need to be your opinion on every question... surely you are a more nuanced guy too?

[Bricealan]

@berethor Good luck

[Berethor]

@MrChinaski my opinions list is visible to the public, I don't say it on any question.

[Vesuvius87]

Well are you eventually going to marry a virgin woman, have a child with her and be done with your search by then?

[Berethor]

@Vesuvius87 to get one virgin woman is all I need, I am not a serial virgin hunter.

[Vesuvius87]

There are plenty of them. I'm not sure why you haven't found her yet. I don't think it's really hard. You can just log into a dating app and type what you're looking for.
I think you better hurry up because you're going to be 40 within 2 years and a 40 year-old man looking for a virgin isn't going to look attractive anymore.

[Berethor]

Most dating apps suck, and from my experience female virgins are rare nowadays.

[Vesuvius87]

Have you tried stepping out more often? Tried going to many places such as a library, the park, social events, science clubs, book fairs, etc?
If you found a virgin woman but she's not religious, would that be ok too? Or does she also have to be religious? I'm wondering because when you search something too much, you can eventually find it but it might lack other qualities.
If years passed by and you can't find a virgin woman or you do find her but she doesn't want you, I'm afraid you're going to have to change your standard and look for other traits or accept being permanently childless and single. The point is you have to do something about it now because you've been posting the same thing about wanting a virgin woman for 5 years now.

[Berethor]

No I am not stepping out often, but I get what your trying to say, go to places that have many nerds, because supposedly nerds are virgins. I actually find a virgin here on GAG, but she lives far away so I am not sure if we would ever meet, she 26 years old. I actually prefer a girl who is not religious, but it not matter, I care mostly about virginity. You think that I should compromise on a non-virgin, I don't want to do that, there is no other standard and traits that I care about, so it be very desperate of me.

https://allthetropes.org/wiki/Nerds_Are_Virgins

[Vesuvius87]

Then take your time but not too much. Otherwise you might be confused as a grandfather by the time you have kids.
Virgins comes in all forms and shapes. Nope, they don't have to be nerds nor religious either. They can go to parties at times too.
How do you feel about a traumatized woman that got raped when she was 7-8 years old by a family member or a sick child molester but she never been in any relationship nor dated anyone due to that traumatic ordeal, even when the perpetrator is given a life-sentence? In that case she never had a chance to get away or fight back.

[Berethor]

Theoretically secular and outgoing woman might be a virgin, but it's not likely, parties are totally red flag, maybe even a dealbreaker, we all know what is going on in parties. What part of the no hymen, no diamond slogan you do not understand? what make you think that I would want a woman who was defiled? the molester has totally ruined her as far as I am concerned.

https://allthetropes.org/wiki/Defiled_Forever

[Vesuvius87]

It seems you have a position that goes beyond just having high standards and now I really feel bad for the virgin woman that marries you. This is actually borderline obsession and even sounds like a fetish. A little girl getting raped probably has suicidal thoughts or is traumatized for life and you're focusing on how she's dirty because of that. I'm noticing lack of empathy.

It makes me sound that if you ever marry your virgin wife you're so obsessed about, you have a daughter and she gets raped you would not want your child anymore. You would have conditional love as a father.

[Anonymous]

Loyalty is a foundational, non-negotiable value in a relationship in my case.

[AI Opinion]

I’m here on GAG to help people decode love, dodge red flags, and build real connections, not situationships.

For me, the one value I never compromise on is emotional honesty. No games, no ghosting, no secret agendas. If we can’t talk openly about feelings, fears, needs, and boundaries, the chemistry and lovebombing mean nothing. Truth over temporary comfort, always.

[CuriousMufuxka]

Multiple partners. Yes even if it's another girl.

[Anonymous]

She must let me do her in her ass! no compromise there!

[Abbycado]

Communication.

[NathanDavis]

I don't compromise any value... at all

[Nikki1989]

Good communication skills

[Agape93]

You don't ever tell me what to do.

[queenofcardio]

My integrity

[Sam1133]

Noted 😘

[Bricealan]

Honesty?

[msc545]

Honesty.

[Anonymous]

Humility 😋